Originally Posted by
silverchris9
I think Fi makes rules. I think Fi is the source of political correctness and the expectation that we remain within social boundaries that allow everybody to feel "safe" or "happy" or "comfortable" or "not offended." Why would any body want to feel safe, happy, comfortable, or not offended? Furthermore, the four are mutually exclusive!
Okay, that was a few seconds of ranty-ness. But let's see:
My mom is NeFi and I find that her understanding of how to make people happy in the world is useful in its place, but not as useful in intimate (not sexual, but "psychologically close"). For instance, I once asked her why she says "will you please do" x when really she means "do x". She provided a good explanation, and now it's just a part of how I think. But in retrospect, I might use socionics to say that I was expecting SeTi bluntness/directness while she was expecting Fi politeness. There's another word I associate Fi with: politeness. Whereas I associate Fe with rawness. I prefer raw to polite is all (although I do see where polite has it's place, and as predicted by the theory, I do somewhat assume a certain kind of politeness as an unintended, unthought-about given), or I might say I prefer interpersonal white-water-rafting to fishing on a placid lake.
Also, my cousin may or may not be FiSe, and if so I think his kind of Fi is just stupid. Generally harmlessly stupid, but stupid. Like, making decisions based on too little information, or information interpreted way too narrowly, forming opinions about how things should be done ("should" is another word I associate Fi and Te with, whereas I associate Fe and Ti with "is", but that might just be bias).
One of my mom's best friends is FiNe, and she's nice, but again, some of her rules are just stupid, like caring too much about the vulgarity of a movie her daughter watches. I mean, I guess my censorious (Freudian, not socionics) superego assents to both her right and her justification in that area, but my knee-jerk reaction is: wow, that's stupid, why do you even care?
Finally, my little brother is SeFi, and the only thing that annoys me is when he tries to protect me, although both the action and the irritation may be unrelated to Fi (the protection seems more Se, maybe, while the irritation is due to my own pleasantly messed-up psyche). Hmm... what else... no, my brother bothers me more with Te kinda stuff, not so much the Fi. That's generally unannoying as far as I can think of right now.