"He's Just Not That Into You"

[Sirena]

Yes, I've read the book. Well, some parts of it. I'm interested to see how you guys would type the author and comedian Greg Behrendt. I had a very specific and immediate reaction to his approach in the book, for some reason. I can't say I've seen much of him outside of that, though.

So...type?

[JuJu]

Ti-ESTp

[implied]

if this guy is actually estp, this is basically why i think estps can be effective counselors.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

It's not just the marriage thing. If somebody pressures you to change to be with them, they don't really love you. If it's true love, you will be inspired to change yourself- and you won't need much budging. And still it will be subtle improvements. The problem is that the media frequently gives an idealized image of how things really are. =/

My parents have such a good relationship, but they are duals so that makes sense...

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

if this guy is actually estp, this is basically why i think estps can be effective counselors.

Of course. Sean counsels me all the time and his advice is very good. He tells me what to do in a kind of indirect fashion. I don't know how to explain it. It's not bossy though. Basically he makes me realize how my own psychological processes in my head are holding me back, they're useless. I can only accurately assess a situation via direct experience and action. The deeper meaning and thinking things through, I already do so well naturally- I Just kinda need somebody to view me as a pawn on a chess board. Even if it's their little game I'm playing, the fact that I'm 'in play' at all makes me slowly gain confidence.

[Sirena]

Ti-ESTp

Funny, this was exactly my impression, even while I was still self-typing as ENFp. And among many other things, it made me wonder why I was so naturally receptive to it. So many times I just feel like "someone, just make the head spinning stop!" and this is the sort of thing that does, at least for a while hehe. And then they have to remind me again.

if this guy is actually estp, this is basically why i think estps can be effective counselors.

Exactly, which ties back to a recent thread created by Ezra about ESTps and relationship advice.

I think this very direct and being able to see through the bullshit approach is very useful and refreshing, at least to me since I tend to over analyze everything.

It's not just the marriage thing. If somebody pressures you to change to be with them, they don't really love you. If it's true love, you will be inspired to change yourself- and you won't need much budging. And still it will be subtle improvements. The problem is that the media frequently gives an idealized image of how things really are. =/

My parents have such a good relationship, but they are duals so that makes sense...

Out of curiosity...what are your parents' types?

[Sirena]

Of course. Sean counsels me all the time and his advice is very good. He tells me what to do in a kind of indirect fashion. I don't know how to explain it. It's not bossy though. Basically he makes me realize how my own psychological processes in my head are holding me back, they're useless. I can only accurately assess a situation via direct experience and action. The deeper meaning and thinking things through, I already do so well naturally- I Just kinda need somebody to view me as a pawn on a chess board. Even if it's their little game I'm playing, the fact that I'm 'in play' at all makes me slowly gain confidence.

I like this.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

ESFJ-Fe (Mom) and INTj-Ti (Dad)

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

I like this.

Yeah he's been able to help me better than anyone on here. Of course, I have to return the favor and give him , stimulate his imagination otherwise he gets lost in a kind of impulsive vortex, he 'acts just to act' - and loses direction himself.

[Gilly]

SEE or SLE...certainly Se.