Hi, I would like your perspective on the following. And I know I'm attempting to put a relationship into a strictly unpersonalized and logical explanation, but I think this can be explained from a Socionics perspective.
So I've noticed in an intimate relationship with an SLE-Ti and an SEI-Fe that the SLE has a strong use of Ne role but that the standard illusionary relationship (unless I don't understand what illusionary really means in this context, but let's assume I do until someone can illustrate why I might not) does not seem to be that evident. The only times they seem to conflict is when the SLE becomes fatigued. But even then it seems like age might be more of a factor here in use of the role function.
So it seems like the SLE has become somewhat proficient in Ne to the point that he comes across as a sort of in between SLE-ILE, but more SLE (he gets happiness from mowing his lawn and applying himself physically over Ne). But his Ne is also limited to Si matters (such as home decoration and improvement) that he shares with the SEI. The SEI however doesn't seem to use Ni nearly as much. But I have noticed that when the SLE uses Ne it is most often used in conjunction with the Si limiting function and when the SEI uses Ni it is most often used in conjunction with the Se limiting function.
Has anyone found illusionary relations to be a lot less evident when both people are say, above 40 years old? Although I guess you could say age and experience could ease any relationship, but I get the feeling that's mostly limited to particular relations, such as illusionary.