Subtle hints will be almost completely useless on an INTj, because even if we happen to notice the hint, we'll doubt and second guess ourselves about what the hint was supposed to mean, and just become unsure of what to do. You have to be very straightforward and open about what you want to say.
And yes, INTjs really do want to be "smothered", especially by ESFjs. We can feel very vulnerable in social situations, and can get very uncomfortable when people get too close. People notice this, and tend to keep their distance from us. People rarely hug INTjs, for example. Deep down, what we really want is someone who won't be deterred by our uncomfortable exterior, and will keep trying to get close to us, and make us feel comfortable enough that we can finally relax.
Anyway, assuming this guy really is an INTj, I wouldn't worry too much about how he'll respond. Even if it turns out that he doesn't feel the same way, he'll be flattered that you like him, and be very nice and understanding about it. It's worth the risk. When you're 92 and looking back on your life, you're not going to regret telling him how you feel -- but you definitely
would regret it if you never said anything.
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Originally Posted by yellow82
That's good if he's staring at you, he can't take your eyes off ya. 
In general, people usually always think about what they look at. That means you're on his mind. 
And if you're friends already, like you said, and you haven't done anything extreme to piss him off, it logically follows that he must be thinking quite a lot about you in a good way. And what else could he be thinking about other than liking you more than a friend? 
Does he stare long and hard at all his friends? :wink:
Let us know how it goes! 
But, I didn't know how he felt - or what the consequences would be if I told - so I've kept it to myself. 
lol Be like 'I like you', smile at him, and then turn around and bowl your turn. 
