TYPE MY EX-FRIEND
We were best friends for 12 years until she decided that we were no longer having fun together, (basically what she was saying is she's boring)
anyways, I always felt like she was my benefactor, so I was just curious to see what you guys thought.
http://www.facebook.com/search/?q=an...=2048&init=ffs she's the first one listed
Last edited by Morcheeba; 10-30-2009 at 05:28 PM.
I say EII.
well if that's the case then I have typed myself incorrectly or you typed her wrong,(she's the one w/o glasses) It always seemed like she had the upper hand in the friendship and she had a hard time listening to my point of view.
does make sense for her though, she is extremely ethical and expects you to see things the way she does, if not, then she gets upset. As smart as she thinks she is; she can be very close minded. She also likes to wear really dowdy clothes that make her look older.
These are relations of major misunderstanding. Quasi-Identical partners can interact with each other in a more or less peaceful manner if both partners are Thinking types. If they are both Feeling types however, they are likely to have an argumentative relationship. Yeah, I can see we had these relations, she annoyed me like no one has before, it's ironic because we were so close, now I just think she's a bitch.Originally Posted by Morcheeba
Although I'm Batman I don't know what her type is. Even Batman feels helpless when it comes to typing someone based on insufficient amount of data designed for typing purpose.
Batman's guess is EII. It's a guess, basically.
what else do you want to know? She's extremely clumsy, falls over her own feet any chance she can get. Tells me that I make too many generalizations and she loves to play devil's advocate. Works at an insurance company so that should tell you how sparkling of a personality she has. Just curious what other people thought, I think this whole typing thing is fun, especially when people don't know you are doing it to them.
Should I ask Superman instead???
w/ glasses EII
w/o IEI
EII INFj
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actually it's the opposite, I'm an IEI, my friend is EII
lol 'now I just think she's a bitch'
Yeah I have those same revelations about people, my dear Identical. Often.
She is absolutely a judging type, one of our biggest issues was the fact that I was usually not on time. She would get so angry with me to the point that it would almost ruin her day, it was ridiculous. Needless to say, when we stopped hanging out I had a sense of relief.
sexy
Last edited by Satan; 11-13-2009 at 08:35 AM.
she could be isfj.
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I highly doubt she is just because she doesn't have good command over her environment like a typicalego would. Like I said earlier, she is very clumsy which I think is more of an intuitive trait.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
actually what you describe sounds a lot like a contrary relation, so EII is probably more likely.Needless to say, when we stopped hanging out I had a sense of relief.
Did you find that when you two were together you were really good friends, but when you were out with others it seemed like she purposefully put you down and would give you a feeling of betrayal?
She really didn't put me down so much, it was more like we just got along alot better when it was just the two of us. I think we got along well because she is an excellent listener and she is very much a caregiver kind of person. It's hard to say what kind of relations we had, but like I had said before, when we stopped being friends I was surprised at the sense of relief I felt.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
Though it always seemed like she responded well to my, like she always gave me room for using that, but she didn't like
, she didn't enjoy talking about anything really theoretical, that was something that I found hard in our friendship because it seemed like I always had to be "on" for her.
Actually, reading up on intertype relations, contrary seems to be the best fit, at first I thought this was a relationship of benefit but there weren't any arguments about either one of our inabilities so to speak, it didn't seem like anyone was gaining anything from the friendship.
Last edited by Morcheeba; 11-03-2009 at 08:57 PM.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
Why do you say that it felt like she had the upper hand?
By putting you down I mean what you said was never important, and you would have to watch what you say or risk her making you look stupid.
care to elaborate on what you mean?
yeah, she really didn't appreciate my input that's for sure, my ideas or suggestions were not that important to her. God, talking about this makes me wonder how we did stay friends for so long! Anyways, what I mean by "on" is that I was the one that had to be entertaining and expressive, like she wasn't able to do that. I was the clown, she was the good listener, that's what it comes down to.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
I see. I'm not certain, but EII seems to fit.
My best friend for all of highschool was LII and it was horrible. I didn't understand it. It was awesome when it was just us, but the more we started hanging out with other people the more he pissed me off. I felt confined when I was with him and other people. I slowly stopped contacting him until eventually we just stopped talking. I definitely felt relieved when we went our separate ways. Very frustrating.
Worst part of it was that our group consisted mainly of me LIE him LII a IEI and an EIE. So of course his Ti antics were supported by the beta NFs. Especially around him and the EIE.. I couldn't take it. it was infuriating.
worst part of it was that when it was me and the beta NFs we all got along very well, but when he was around... omg...
I hate contrary relations needless to say..
It makes you wonder why you become friends with people like this to begin with. Of course, I think when you're young your type hasn't completely manifested itself so it's easier to become friends with just about anyone; once you get older and things are more solidified, that's when the holes start appearing.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
Benefit relations are pretty pleasant. I'm good friends with my benefactor an IEE. We always have a lot to talk about. The problems we have are clearly on the Ni/Ne divide. She's always wanting to go and do random things, and I'm always trying to stay focused. I tend to criticize her for being unfocused and unrealistic, and she criticizes me for being "too logical" and being too focused and missing new experiences. But, she usually values my advice for her goals.. even though she doesn't follow it in the end... and she has an insight for people that I find really intriguing. Overall, a good friendship.
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LIE
morcheeba it's kind of hard to say. you are IEI? you have EIE in your sig...which is it?
couple thoughts. first, 12 years is a long time for a friendship to last. so something was binding you together. second, relations of benefit are usually pretty good and if they end, it's gradually and without a big fuss or misunderstanding, since benefit partners don't typically misunderstand each other. with benefit i'd even go so far as to say that benefit partners have a blind spot for their partner's weaknesses, they overlook weaknesses as a matter of course.
you say it felt like she had the upper hand, that implies either supervision or contrary. i don't have a good feel for your type though which makes it hard to type the relation.
i recently had a friendship of about 15 years end and we were supervision partners. she was the supervisor. it ended pretty badly. i couldn't take the constant Fi. and she had problems that i could clearly see the cause of, but i was not able to help her. i don't think she felt helped by my help...rather offended. the relationship only worked when she felt like she was helping me, not the other way around. she was interesting to talk to and consider her perspective, but ultimately, her help was not at all helpful. and, as soon as i would get on any kind of equal level, she would try to put me down again. mind you i don't think she was trying to put me down, but her Fi so trumped mine that's how i felt. so in a way, it's not personal. i could totally see it coming, too. i tried to stop it but i couldn't.
it made me realize that not all friendships are meant to last. people are there for you during certain intervals for a reason, once that time is up, it's time to move on.
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
Initially, when I first started looking into socionics I thought I was IEI; but now that I know more about it, I realize that I am EIE. My friend is EII; I figured this out by the intertype relations and better understanding of her motivations.We didn't even have similar interests; we liked different settings. For instance, she is big into nature, which is in my opinionseeking, I could give a crap about nature in general, I always wanted to be in bigger cities around many people, noise, excitement, and that didn't appeal to her. I'm not sure as to why our friendship went on as long as it did, but we always had issues but somehow found common ground in some areas but I think it's just because we are both NF. I'm sure I annoyed her with my lack of
always pissed me off in the worst way. Anyways, like I said before, I am much happier without her in my life.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
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