Member Questionnaire 1 (viima)
What is beauty? What is love? Beauty is an universally recognized positive and emotion provoking quality of both concrete and abstract objects. It is a subjective interpretation yet there are features commonly considered beautiful.
Love is also universally recognized and perhaps the most powerful force there is. It is a strong feeling and a state of many needs. People rarely just love but they also want to own, use, benefit, dominate, have support etc. Yet love often seems beautiful and sometimes also is.
What are your most important values? Sense of right and wrong, equal rights between people, respect for the rights of others.
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place? I am very open-minded about spiritual and religious issues. My orientation is curiosity because I am definite there is more than is acknowledged.
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you? War is terrifying. I would probably be one of the first ones to leave the country if there was war. I find the threat and risk intolerable.
Militaries are not necessary in theory but they are necessary in practice. Unfortunately. Militaries reflect power which is a tool you can use to contribute on something.
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? Personality theories because those are fascinating, interesting and stimulating.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body? I am very interested. This is another major focus of interest in my life. I think I have very good thoughts about how to live to stay healthy and capable and one day be an active elderly.
I am focused on my body, try to be at least since I've learned it's important.
What do you think of daily chores? Man's gotta do what man's gotta do.
If one hates those, there's always the option of paying for someone else to do it.
Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome. How to teach a very young child to read...
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? I don't cry often but exhaustive feelings such as despair and failing and fear can make me cry. Something very touching can make me either cry or smile. Often I also smile to express good will, empathy, respect. I rather smile when I am told a non-funny joke than face the reality of hurt feelings and/or considering whether I did not even get the joke.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging? I feel at one with the environment somewhere quiet and peaceful. I can see myself alone at the beach admiring the sea and the waves.
I feel a sense of belonging with people close to me emotionally (my family) or ideologically/intellectually (soulmates, friends).
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself? I don't trust this to be relevant. What people see and are annoyed by is also reflecting their own issues, not just mine. I don't want to be typed based on something like that.
I dislike about myself the excessive (some is needed) insecurity, worrying, distrust and questioning. Also social discomfort, I like company but cannot be relaxed.
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? I like about myself my curious nature and my motivation to foresee problems and then avoid them.
In what areas of your life would you like help? My For Dummies books could be How to get along with people, How to know if you are actually sick, How to drive a car, How to have better sex, How to look sexy, How to deal with finances...
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it. Maybe if things are not progressing the way I want them to. I become impatient and pushy.
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? I like open mind, kindness and dislike herd behavior the most.
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner? I am demisexual but I value intimacy and sex with my partner (and my partner only). He needs to be reliable.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why? I would try to maximize the potential to learn by providing appripriate stimuli. I would want him to be intelligent, independent, considerate, diplomatic and ethical.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction? I would feel the need to "teach" him. Depends whether I would do this.
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. I am suspicious and picky about people although I don't want anything bad.
Prevalent social problems are people's lack of motivation to find information about things and also selfishness.
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them? I choose the ones I'm actually interested in.
How do you behave around strangers? I cannot tell.