The first person I ever slept with was SEE, and I remember having absolutely zero difficulty throughout the entirety of the "courting" process. The SEE in question saw me as a kind of superman, commenting how she thought it was awesome I could argue with people and pick apart the tiny little mistakes they made. But I also got the sense that she was scared of me as well in a kind of superficial, "goddammit" way. Still, the sexual attraction toward me was obviously very strong. We've been best friends for like eight years, too.
Now turning the tables, I was thinking about female ILEs that I've known IRL, and I can remember a really pretty ILE girl in my economics class who had an alluring way of treating the topic sort of like a toy, coming off as if she had mastered it. It impressed me to see a woman so openly confident in such a technical class and appearing to exert little effort in understanding the material. I wasn't intimidated by her, per se. It was more a kind of alert respect, like holding a loaded gun. I probably would have succumbed very easily if she had expressed interest in me.