Originally Posted by
Expat
That's not the point. The way I understand what Slacker Mom said, the ESFjs are not excluding the INTp on purpose; on the contrary, they resent what they see as the lack of emotional engagement on the INTp's part. And they think that it is the INTp's own lack of emotional engagement that is acting as a sort of "bad influence" on the INTp's kid. So, if she'd say that to the ESFjs, they would just shrug and say that if the INTp would "participate" more, so would the kid. Who may also be another low-Fe type. Apart from teaching socionics to the ESFjs (what I would not advise at all), I don't know that anything can be done. They are not going to change their minds. If their own children find it easy to interact with other children, there is no way to get into their heads that it's not the INTp's fault.