I'm getting the impression that ISTps aren't very forgiving. Is this true?
ISTps holding grudges and forgiveness
I'm getting the impression that ISTps aren't very forgiving. Is this true?
INTp
sx/sp
I'm the most forgiving person you could possibly meet. Life is too short to hold grudges, I figure.
Cool.I wonder if all ISTps are just as forgiving. The ISTps on this forum are disappearing.
INTp
sx/sp
I myself don't exactly like all the changes around here. Everytime I come here, it's different. And not too many new topics...
On a side note, that's how I felt about the number of INFjs here.Originally Posted by Mea
Cool.
Anyway, I feel that ISTps are more likely to be interested in tools and something hands-on. So I wasn't surprised that not many of them posted here regularly.
When you're stuck with an office job that you absolutely despise, you have to pass the time somehow I guess. Hence the reason I'M here.
I had an argument with an ISTp girl over the net about 5 months ago. I sent her a nice email apologising and say that i still like her but she told me to fuck myself. LOL.
They are flocking to a life near you..*passes out binoculars to ENFps, and announces dramatically* "Keep watch, they may be back!!!" ahaha
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
I think an ITp may hold a grudge, but will tend to get over it quickly because of the Fi HA.
On a side note, that's how I felt about the number of INFjs here.Cool.
Anyway, I feel that ISTps are more likely to be interested in tools and something hands-on. So I wasn't surprised that not many of them posted here regularly.
Hmm, I suppose. Some of these topics can be really abstract and such. I'm interested in the practical applications of all this, like how to spot ENFps and manipulate them.
Besides, there's been a lot of drama and hand-wringing here lately, and I'm just not into that.
; 5w6
SLIs and hurt feelings
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Last edited by aixelsyd; 01-27-2010 at 03:10 AM.
You seem like a cute person, and SLIs don´t keep grudges like that. I bet they´d rather just forgive you than have to read a long apology letter.
Is that solomon quote from Proverbs? where in it?
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
It's impossible for me to hold grudges..even when I want to. They're stupid.
Exactly what I was thinking. I forgave her by the end of the first paragraph, drifted off around paragraph three.
I think it's over by now. The SLI will be touched by her concern.
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
I forgave her by the end of the first paragraph, drifted off around paragraph three.
IEE
Aw, don't be embarrassed by it. Everybody needs to vent sometimes. Nothing wrong with that.
IEE
I understand. I think things will look better in the morning. Good luck.
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
ILI's have feelings?
<Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is
Well if it isn't thePirate... I'm shocked to find out that you are not IEE.
sarcasm?
o.O
<Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is
yeah, it's a bad habit.
I think Fi/Te introverts tend to act passive-aggressive when hurt.
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aixelsyd,
How did this turn out?
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
do SLI's hold grudges??
I do sometimes, do others?
Last edited by SenoritaC; 03-06-2011 at 04:13 PM.
yes
Depends upon which one they are...as in what state of mind they are in; they will hold a grudge with someone who broke their heart.
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Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I'd say SLIs are going to be forgiving. We can forgive mistakes, accidents of the heart too, just not very forgiving of maliciousness. Maybe just a little time needs to pass, but SLIs are not prone to strong value judgements.
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
There are people my husband does hold grudges against. There's this guy he knows who had someone fired on false pretenses to make room for a friend of his to be hired. He holds a really big grudge against both of them for that. There is nothing they could do to get on his good side at this point. That's just an example.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
Well that's true. I have a short list of those too.
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
lol just conveniently happen to forget that did you?
yes, they hold grudges. they are actually pretty judgmental despite their live and let lie attitude.
<Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is
I am Winterpark and I approve of this message.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
:grr:
Btw, I dig the "live and let lie" attitude you're talking about.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
lol whoops live and let live =X
I hope that didnt come out too harsh, I like SLIs. They may be my favorite type from delta. I just emphasized the judgemental thing because thats was one crucial factor that was kind of an 'oh shit' moment for me. I expected something else or misunderstood the descriptions or something. Also Im going to add in that while to ME its judgemental, it may not seem that way to other types. But, I do tend to see a correlation with judgementalism and grudges which generally tend to be a trend of Fi valuing types. Granted, some Fe types are guilty of this aswell but I dont perceive Fe types to generally hold grudges as much as the Fi's. I do agree that SLIs are forgiving.
<Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is
I think they're pretty forgiving. In certain circumstances, too forgiving.
Holy crap, I hate that kind of politics. There were a couple of people in my last firm who were like that. There is nothing I hate worse than someone who flat-out lies about someone for their own personal gain.There are people my husband does hold grudges against. There's this guy he knows who had someone fired on false pretenses to make room for a friend of his to be hired. He holds a really big grudge against both of them for that. There is nothing they could do to get on his good side at this point. That's just an example.
IEE
You're wellcomethank you all for your answers, especially mr. cyranoSLI, it helps so much to get SLI input here, and mariella too with your awesome SLI husband and your IEE wisdom about him
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I know some SLIs who do hold grudges and could really us a diplomatic IEE to help them out. 9w8 Sp dominant SLI, for what its worth. She creates problems without knowing it.
Unusually, I seem to have come across an IEE that holds grudges, in a very vibrant way. But I don't quite understand it, yet.
I definitely hold grudges on the grounds of immorality and disingenuity.
If I feel someone has done wrong, I cease communication with them and regard them icily.
My opinions of these people are only really liable to change if there was some sort of circumstance behind the behavior.
what do you mean by disingenuity?
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
By that, I mean insincere, conniving people who do things at the expense of other people.
Does that help?
I second that feeling
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
YES! I hereby judge you and hold you in contempt...FOREVER!!! nah. You're cool. Live a long and happy life. See.
ISTp
SLI
Enneagram 5 with a side of wings.
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