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“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
They lower in value as soon as you buy them.
I appreciate SLI
Ok maybe one or two:
He was relaxed and we used to lay around on the weekends drinking soda and watching sports nearly all day long. We were fairly immobile on the weekends but we did spend a lot of time with family and friends, just the time we did spend was usually at someone's home lounging around.
He never helped me figure out what I should do; he told me that we would get married and when we did he would work and I'd just be a stay at home mom; I didn't buy into this deal as I needed to do my thing (I'm a bit independent).
My ex used to change the oil in my classic Honda on time without so much as a fuss or complain that he was doing this for me.
He would go fill up the gas tank and make sure I never ran out of gas.
He would pick me up every weekend, a very long drive.
He always made sure I ate three square meals...and he purchase all the meals. I made good money back then and he always told me to either help my family with it or to save it.
He was fun, coy, and charming around my sister and brother. They loved him. Took us camping hiking on the weekends.
Just so many great things.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Stop hitting on me, Maritsa. Not interested.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
Get on my nerves, honestly. Hypocrites. Delusional. Simple. Self-righteous. Think they know it all. Worse with people than I am, yet think they are better. Selfish. Stingy.
Last edited by jet city woman; 06-05-2013 at 12:47 PM.
2 srs, depreciating sense of humor
Last edited by Beautiful sky; 06-05-2013 at 04:00 PM.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I knew one who made strange, infectious noises to amuse himself during lectures.
Fuck him for making me chime in.
The trickster is at one and the same time creator and destroyer, giver and negator, he who dupes others, and who is always duped himself.
could kurt vonnegut be a SLI? Ashez has him down as INFp on socionix but the voices say he's wong.ili maybe.
Kurt Vonnegut’s 8 basics of Creative Writing:
Use the time of a total stranger in such a way that he or she will not feel the time was wasted.
Give the reader at least one character he or she can root for.
Every character should want something, even if it is only a glass of water.
Every sentence must do one of two things—reveal character or advance the action.
Start as close to the end as possible.
Be a sadist. No matter how sweet and innocent your leading characters, make awful things happen to them—in order that the reader may see what they are made of.
Write to please just one person. If you open a window and make love to the world, so to speak, your story will get pneumonia.
Give your readers as much information as possible as soon as possible. To heck with suspense. Readers should have such complete understanding of what is going on, where and why, that they could finish the story themselves, should cockroaches eat the last few pages.
Don't make @fen hurt you.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
i can relate to this. Basically, if you have two ppl that are not skilled at creating emotional connections, the relationship will not go anywhere. You remain in this frustrating limbo where you're attracted to them but you're just waiting and waiting for them to connect to you. To tell you how they feel, to hug you to make you feel warm because you can't do it yourself. Well, you could.. But it's unnatural and uncomfortable so you drift around just waiting...WAITING FOR ANYTHING and it never comes until they break up with you and then you realize everything that you did wrong and berate yourself for not being more emotional and loving and cry about someone you never even had a connection with but the fact that the HOPE of it turning into a good relationship is now completely gone so you drink wine and cry like a bitch over someone you weren't really close to but the death of that hope hurt more than anything.
This happens to me everytime.
[] | NP | 3[6w5]8 so/sp | Type thread | My typing of forum members | Johari (Strengths) | Nohari (Weaknesses)
You know what? You're an individual, and that makes people nervous. And it's gonna keep making people nervous for the rest of your life. - Ole Golly from Harriet, the spy.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
[] | NP | 3[6w5]8 so/sp | Type thread | My typing of forum members | Johari (Strengths) | Nohari (Weaknesses)
You know what? You're an individual, and that makes people nervous. And it's gonna keep making people nervous for the rest of your life. - Ole Golly from Harriet, the spy.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
You can go for a drink with them and don't have to worry about them leaving, so much for depreciation. Oh and they can feed you till you explode...
Ahem.
Something worth investing in mikemex.
LOL.. The ISTp I work with is on this third marriage. Both of his prior ex wives said he felt "cold" or lacked emotional intimacy. His current wife says the same things- he seems cold, distant or impersonal... which is funny because he loves his wife very much, but he's so traditional and rigid, and serious about the "family" dynamic as well as wants his wife to start things.... like he feels "imposing" or unwelcome without some sort of invitation first.
I constantly tell him thoughtful and expressive things he should do for his wife that seem so obvious but completely fly over his head otherwise. They've all been met with much better marriage counseling sessions for a month or two.. lol. (His current wife is an ISFp so you can imagine they have a very... turbulent marriage!)
Honestly, the very nature is expected with an Si-ego personality. The problem is very few then later appreciate the loyalty, attention to detail, rigid fairness, and predictable accountability that also comes with Si ego. I don't see ISTp' volunteering any feelings, but if cornered with query, they will absolutely let it flow naturally when interrogated. I guess maybe that would be a good match for an ISTp - someone who can feel emotionally balanced if they don't mind having to approach and query for that need... at which point they will likely get a healthy, if not overabundant dose.
I get told this constantly. Not only by romantic partners, but friends as well and each time they bring it up, I have told them I feel like i'm imposing on them if i initiate first. lol. Like, i'm noticing it's really starting to bother a friend of mine that I don't invite him to do mundane everyday things with me. I told him I went shopping the other day all day and he looked like his puppy had just died or something. But it's funny because I just don't think about inviting people or initiating and it's not because I don't care, I just don't think about it...if they're not calling me, I feel like they don't want to be bothered so I just do my own thing. But yes, I'm realizing the error of my ways and so I've been making an effort to initiate. I hate it so much. Finale I feel like we should be duals.
I find with SLIs that you have to constantly invite them to do something or they won't bring it up themselves that they're interested. Though once they finally agree to do it then it appears as if they always wanted to do it to begin with, so I'm not surprised with the responses here.
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” Randy Pausch
Ne-IEE
6w7 sp/sx
6w7-9w1-4w5
I'm genuinely curious because im working on being more um.. Thoughtful to other people's feelings...does this bother you? Because if it were me and someone did what I do to them, I wouldn't give them the time of day. Why are some people ok with this? Doesn't there come a point where it feels too one sided? What do you get out of ppl behaving so aloof?
It doesn't bother me much personally because it makes the person seem more mysterious and more interesting to figure out. Also, I can kind of see through the aloofness their true intentions to an extent. Of course, if it goes beyond a certain limit then I would not tolerate it and be abruptly annoyed, but most of the time it is fine.
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” Randy Pausch
Ne-IEE
6w7 sp/sx
6w7-9w1-4w5
..ops
Last edited by noid; 06-17-2013 at 01:28 AM.
"The final delusion is the belief that one has lost all delusion."
-- Maurice Chapelain