Did I mess up?

[EyeSeeCold]

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P.S.:

 

[Satan]

[Satan]

Long story short, SD experience with an SLE at the end of high school. I had felt the intense feelings before, but this time I actually connected at the intellectual level which made the experience highly passionate. We became close but never involved in each other's lives outside of our one class together. Nearing the end of school I was so overwhelmed by due-dates and graduation etc, I was in full absentminded mode. While my SLE friend was taking a final I walked in the classroom furiously searching for my lost book and I didn't even say hi to her, and it was her birthday. That was the last time I saw her, a little more than 3 months ago.

thing is if it was great before is there going to be a repeat, or is it going to be just some mild every day thing. the way i see it, it'd be easier if it's just some every day thing, and then the passion can come again another time. it's becoming too big a deal.

Some weeks ago, I persuaded myself to find her and send her a message, but she never replied...did I do something wrong? Now that I know of Socionics I think I may have hit her PoLR.

people in loooooove always fret about not getting feedback. but only if they're obsessed. it can make you seem needy. maybe just do other things and if you bump into her ask her why she hasn't called you.

I really wish I could establish good relations again, not just for the relationship, but because I considered her a friend and not too many people get that label from me.

Maybe just go with that, that's how you feel about it. And at least it'd be an honest thing to do.

[EyeSeeCold]

Contact her and ask her.

No number . That would have been the first thing I did. Like I said we never became close outside the one class we had.

You should have at least smiled or winked at her. Even a goofy face would have worked. To her you were refusing to acknowledged her existence, so I'm sure she just chose to do the same... that, or she just grew bored of you.

Just man up and call her.

Have you ever met an ILI? We have bad awareness. At the time all I was thinking about was finding that damn book so I could graduate. Again, no number.

thing is if it was great before is there going to be a repeat, or is it going to be just some mild every day thing. the way i see it, it'd be easier if it's just some every day thing, and then the passion can come again another time. it's becoming too big a deal.

people in loooooove always fret about not getting feedback. but only if they're obsessed. it can make you seem needy. maybe just do other things and if you bump into her ask her why she hasn't called you.
Maybe just go with that, that's how you feel about it. And at least it'd be an honest thing to do.

I just want to be friends again, anything after that is welcomed and not required.

[Satan]

I just want to be friends again, anything after that is welcomed and not required.

friends are a commitment too. why not just chat / hang out or something.

how about you take a photo of her and say you're putting it up on a web site, and then put it up here. and she can choose to care / not care. and then you have interaction.

[EyeSeeCold]

friends are a commitment too. why not just chat / hang out or something.

how about you take a photo of her and say you're putting it up on a web site, and then put it up here. and she can choose to care / not care. and then you have interaction.

? I didn't get that last bit, but the thing is I found her online and sent her a message but she never replied back. That was the point of this thread to see if I screwed her over from the ESTp perspective.

[redbaron]

No ESTp I know takes things that personally? I mean, I dunno... she probably assumed you didn't even know it was her birthday and shrugged it off. She probably would enjoy hearing from you.

[redbaron]

? I didn't get that last bit, but the thing is I found her online and sent her a message but she never replied back. That was the point of this thread to see if I screwed her over from the ESTp perspective.

Oh, I just saw this. how long ago did you send the message? maybe she's just taking her time getting back to you.

[EyeSeeCold]

um I sent it on the 10th.

[redbaron]

um I sent it on the 10th.

oh.

[EyeSeeCold]

yea :/...

[redbaron]

well forget her anyway. go for the full duality, imo.

[EyeSeeCold]

Stop thinking so much, and fucking ask her already. If you walk around and over think it, she will just conclude you weren't all that interested. Move your ass. You obviously won't find peace of mind before you know what she wants, so ask her straight.

huh? I'm not overthinking anything. I've sent her a message that she hasn't replied to in over 2 weeks. I sense a misunderstanding on your part, what do you think I am talking about here?

[EyeSeeCold]

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[Creepy-Korpsey]

send message

Note: message, singular.

Send another one.

[EyeSeeCold]

Note: message, singular.

Send another one.

I did.

What, should I flood her inbox, lol?

[redbaron]

I did.

What, should I flood her inbox, lol?

when did you send the second? recently?

[Satan]

Lol, that's not it. Again, here's the story:

Fell in love
became attached
the end of school came
never said goodbye
graduated
felt the hurt
decided to find her to become friends again
find her online, send message, she never replies

welcome to life. it's too late now. next time take opportunities when they arise.

[EyeSeeCold]

when did you send the second? recently?

A week after the first.

welcome to life. it's too late now. next time take opportunities when they arise.

Yes I realize that, but my intent was to find out, from an SLE's perspective, was I at fault.

[Creepy-Korpsey]

She just isn't into you, bro.

[EyeSeeCold]

At fault? In what way?

I guess it's just my HA Fi then, when I become attached to people, I want it to be forever. I can't take short term relations because I feel that people should be loyal to the people they open up to.

Nobody may believe that I really just want to be friends, but it's the truth. A person's presence is the greatest gift, imo.

[redbaron]

SLEs are extremely loyal, just afraid to be the one showing affection first. So, if you mean what you say, then ask her again. But be open and direct, or she will think you are just playing with her or trying to mess with her mind.

yes.