That annoying hidden agenda when someone does it better

[Expat]

Your hidden agenda is something that you wish you were good at but are unsure about it.

So you sort of resent - or at least find annoying - people who are "too cocky" about it, typically your benefactor but also your activity partner if of the accepting subtype (and possibly other types of the "right" subtype).

So --

ENTjs and ENFjs resent the "excessively abrasive" Se EPs.
ENFps and ESFps resent the "know it all" Te EJs when discussing a subject of mutual interest.
ENTps and ESTps resent the "attention-seeking and limelight-steaking" Fe EJs (especially as they seem to do it "easily".
ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs.

Etc.

[Joy]

Yes. I think it's natural to feel somewhat uncomfortable/threatened/resentful toward people who use something that you wish you were and like to think you're better at excessively. They're showing you exactly how not good at it you really are. The result is frustration or irritation sometimes.

[Joy]

And what's worse is when people in your presence respond to your benefactor by giving them their superid functions... because their superid functions are your suger ego functions, things you're painfully aware that you're not good at and would rather not deal. How friggin irritating.

[Creepy-Diana]

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[Dioklecian]

And what's worse is when people in your presence respond to your benefactor by giving them their superid functions... because their superid functions are your suger ego functions, things you're painfully aware that you're not good at and would rather not deal. How friggin irritating.

Well benefactors just plain suck -- but only one of their superid functions are in your superego I thought. Ack, I don't know, I'll have to look that up now. (Stupid names, super ego, super id, id, argh, I don't remember which is which)

Well weell well, the truth is coming out then

[Creepy-Diana]

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[Dioklecian]

What don't you like about him? (if I may ask?)

[Typeless Wonder]

ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs.

I find this interesting because the activity partners of these types is Ti. I think Te and Ti might be more inclined to see each other as intellectually arrogant because they'd be projecting on each other (well that guy thinks he knows it all, thinks he's smart, but the f-ing idiot is narrow minded and can't see from all sides.)

[Expat]

ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs.

I find this interesting because the activity partners of these types is Ti. I think Te and Ti might be more inclined to see each other as intellectually arrogant because they'd be projecting on each other (well that guy thinks he knows it all, thinks he's smart, but the f-ing idiot is narrow minded and can't see from all sides.)

I mentioned the issue of the activity partner in my first post. It refers to the Ti subtype only in that case.

In that particular case, perhaps a more precise phrasing is :

ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs who explain things to them as if the IXFps hadn't understood it.

Also --

ISTjs and ISFjs resenting the Ni IPs who never seem to be anxious about the development of a situation and tell them to "take their time".

ESFjs and ESTjs resenting the Ne EPs who always seem to have a "brand, new brilliant idea" about everything.

ISTps and INTps resenting the Fi IJs who always seem secure about what other people feel about them.

INTjs and INFjs resenting the Si IPs who seem naturally coordinated, healthy, and relaxed. It's even worse if they look good and fit.

[UDP]

I'm not really jealous of anyone in those ways. I feel compelled to be just as competitive when I see other people do something well or better than me (as is listed on many an LII profile), but I am not particularly jealous of IPs in that way.

[Expat]

Well, it's not necessarily being "jealous" -- for instance, I don't envy the over-the-top Se EPs. It just bothers me at a different level than other functions.

[Kristiina]

ESxps just irritate me. Not sure if it's because I'm jealous.

[reyn_til_runa]

Your hidden agenda is something that you wish you were good at but are unsure about it.

So you sort of resent - or at least find annoying - people who are "too cocky" about it, typically your benefactor but also your activity partner if of the accepting subtype (and possibly other types of the "right" subtype).

So --

ENTjs and ENFjs resent the "excessively abrasive" Se EPs.
ENFps and ESFps resent the "know it all" Te EJs when discussing a subject of mutual interest.
ENTps and ESTps resent the "attention-seeking and limelight-steaking" Fe EJs (especially as they seem to do it "easily".
ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs.

Etc.

Might this also include resenting people simply because they are in a good mood when you are not?

[mikemex]

ENFps and ESFps resent the "know it all" Te EJs when discussing a subject of mutual interest.

Not true. I enjoy the company of Te EJs very much. My best friends are ENTj and I don't feel threatened by their knowledge.

I do think, though, that they largely lack Fi and that makes them to say a lot of stupid things which are based more on their opinion than on facts or logics.

[XoX]

So you sort of resent - or at least find annoying - people who are "too cocky" about it, typically your benefactor

Shouldn't this read benefactee?

[aestrivex]

ENFps and ESFps resent the "know it all" Te EJs when discussing a subject of mutual interest.

Not true. I enjoy the company of Te EJs very much. My best friends are ENTj and I don't feel threatened by their knowledge.

I do think, though, that they largely lack Fi and that makes them to say a lot of stupid things which are based more on their opinion than on facts or logics.

except that you are an IEE in no way, shape, or form.

[anndelise]

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except that you are an IEE in no way, shape, or form.

mikemex's type thread: http://the16types.info/forums/viewto...p?p=183417#top
perhaps you'd like to provide some input in there?

[aestrivex]

that thread is rather ancient. at the time, i didn't have any sort of opinion. more recent encounters with the way that mikemex handles information suggests that any kind of Fi type can be thrown out the window. Fe i think is a lot more probable.

this is simply because of the way she makes unfounded claims and was very bad at dealing with Te (IMO) suggestions as to why her observations were not working; it seemed to me like she just didn't want to hear about anything to do with Te at all. IEI is a possibility, although the relative lack of typing materials hinder the situation. a video-esque VI would probably be helpful.

[ScarlettLux]

This is actually disgustingly true for me.. I switch in between the "intellectually arrogant" attitude and the "overly abrasive" attitude. Yikes.

[FDG]

I'm finding more and more confirmation of this.

I was sitting today next to two ISxjs. The prof was a very phlegmatic INTp. They both said "It makes me nervous that he is so calm!!!".

[Hidden Agendas]

ENTjs and ENFjs resent the "excessively abrasive" Se EPs.

This is very true. I am at times very annoyed when my ESFp friend constantly stops to make relations with a new stranger, because it delays are current missions and it brings me unwanted attention, though I am aware that it is selfish of me to think in such a way and it is a admirable skill after all.

[mikemex]

IEI is a possibility

Dual of FDG? You MUST be kidding.

[FDG]

IEI is a possibility

Dual of FDG? You MUST be kidding.

You do sound like you say "I'm so perfect, aren't I" and I reply with "You suck!"

[Joy]

It's unwise to base your typing of yourself on the type of another, especially when it's someone you don't even know.

[FDG]

It's unwise to base your typing of yourself on the type of another, especially when it's someone you don't even know.

Many thanks to the oracle

[Exodus]

Your hidden agenda is something that you wish you were good at but are unsure about it.

So you sort of resent - or at least find annoying - people who are "too cocky" about it, typically your benefactor but also your activity partner if of the accepting subtype (and possibly other types of the "right" subtype).

So --

ENTjs and ENFjs resent the "excessively abrasive" Se EPs.
ENFps and ESFps resent the "know it all" Te EJs when discussing a subject of mutual interest.
ENTps and ESTps resent the "attention-seeking and limelight-steaking" Fe EJs (especially as they seem to do it "easily".
ISFps and INFps resent the "intellectually arrogant" Ti IJs.

Etc.

I now think the INj equivalent is resenting the overly calm and detached quality of the ISp. I often list chillness as one of my strengths, but I am a control freak more often than people realize.

[UDP]

I appreciate that in ISTps, but ISFps are different. I always feel like I am waiting for them to do something, or they are waiting for me. It isn't something I secretly resent or feel jealous about, for ISFps. ISTps I can admire and feel "I wish I were more that way" somewhat.

[Topaz]

that thread is rather ancient. at the time, i didn't have any sort of opinion. more recent encounters with the way that mikemex handles information suggests that any kind of Fi type can be thrown out the window. Fe i think is a lot more probable.

this is simply because of the way she makes unfounded claims and was very bad at dealing with Te (IMO) suggestions as to why her observations were not working; it seemed to me like she just didn't want to hear about anything to do with Te at all. IEI is a possibility, although the relative lack of typing materials hinder the situation. a video-esque VI would probably be helpful.

Mikemex is a guy.

[flower]

This is a very good thread.

Your hidden agenda is something that you wish you were good at but are unsure about it.

So you sort of resent - or at least find annoying - people who are "too cocky" about it, typically your benefactor but also your activity partner if of the accepting subtype (and possibly other types of the "right" subtype).

Do you think that the word envy as well as resent, although its a little bit strong, probably fits the feeling you get when you see others who are a bit over confident about it and displaying it? I think its something you would like to be good at yourself and are a little annoyed that someone else is better at it than you, and are openly displaying that they are.


The seventh function I think works in a very similar way, you tend to resent people who are over confident or cocky about it. However, the difference is instead of resenting it so much, its more a feeling of, hey, you shouldnt be doing that, thats unfair or imoral or something, although you could do the same if you really wanted, instead of feeling unsure about it. Any thoughts?

[Expat]

Do you think that the word envy as well as resent, although its a little bit strong, probably fits the feeling you get when you see others who are a bit over confident about it and displaying it? I think its something you would like to be good at yourself and are a little annoyed that someone else is better at it than you, and are openly displaying that they are.

I think "envy" can fit better in some cases, but not always. For instance, I "envy" the Se in the quieter Se EPs when they handle a difficult situation with others, remaining assertive but not overly so; I do not "envy", I just dislike or resent, those who go beyond that.

The seventh function I think works in a very similar way, you tend to resent people who are over confident or cocky about it. However, the difference is instead of resenting it so much, its more a feeling of, hey, you shouldnt be doing that, thats unfair or imoral or something, although you could do the same if you really wanted, instead of feeling unsure about it. Any thoughts?

I don't think "resent" is a good word in this case; as you said, you're also confident in the 7th function. Rather than resenting those who prefer it over your 1st function, you just think they're wrong - or "unfair or immoral" as you put it, or "stupid" etc.