Considering that many people here despise ISTJs, I want to turn the tables a bit and see if any ENFJs have had positive relationships with their ISTJ dual. Even though I'm a woman, I'm starting to believe I'm an ISTJ and not an INFP like I once thought. I think I just didn't want to admit to myself that I don't have as feminine a mindset as I often think I should have. I feel a little bit like a hybrid between those two types when I read type descriptions so I'm really not sure which one I am. One thing is for sure though, I'm shy and not a control freak which goes against everything people say about ISTJs. I do prefer problem solving and working with neutral data and talking about which plan of action to take with other people. I don't work well with people who complain a lot or act manipulative toward me. But I also have this kind of wacky side which I think is more INFP than ISTJ. I only show that side though when I'm around people I know well. Otherwise I tend to be quiet and unassuming. I'm also not an alcoholic. So if you're an ENFJ, does this description fit with what you know about ISTJs or are they the totally over-confident control freaks everyone makes them out to be?