There are a few things to keep in mind, should the fates conspire against you and force you into communication with an INTp. This short, friendly and helpful guide is here to help you survive the experience and build a strong and lasting relationship.
Phase one: Contact
If you are in the same room with an INTp, it’s pretty much a given that you have to make the first step. The INTp is perfectly happy remaining silent – if you do the same, the INTp will just presume you need to think about something interesting, important or both and usually will not break the silence.
If you are wandering what the INTp might be thinking about in the uncomfortable (depends on your type – your mileage may vary) silence, it can be anything, but in normal circumstances, unless you are noticeably attractive and of ‚interesting gender’ or just behaving very irregularly, the INTp is NOT thinking anything about you. In case they noticed you – you are already in the ‚other people’ section of their brain.
When you start breaking the ice, remember the following:
- Be polite. Due to their Fe PoLR, INTps tend to embrace the idea of adhering to the general rules of politeness. Speaking from personal experience, they can even go as far as to avoid bringing anyone red roses for birthday, since according to old rules of etiquette, red roses mean romantic interest and rather serious intentions. For anyone interested – white roses are safe.
- Don’t be overly familiar. Again – Fe PoLR. They will think you are either mocking them or just insincere.
- Choose an unexpected topic. They will most likely not be offended by it, and the risk is worth taking – this way they WILL remember you. If you start talking about the weather, you’ll end up in the memory slot labeled ‚Smalltalk, general, from everyone’. If you go ‚Hmm... I was wandering – if I drew imaginary lines from the tip of the chandelier to all the corners of the room, could the resulting shape contain more than 700 gallons of water or not...’, you’ll definitely be remembered as ‚someone interesting’, since you stimulated their Ni and Te both.
...In the next installation - Phase two: Getting to know each other...