so are any other enfp's out there who get frustrated by most of the type descriptions out there? i read most of them and think to myself "damn, they almost got it, but they were wrong just a bit in the motivation"
so... since im here and im bored, im going to attemt to correct some of the things that have particularly bugged me about type descriptions ive read in the past, please give me some feedback if u agree or disagree
1. every type description ive read says something to the effect that we like to experiment with other peoples lives, while i can see how someone could perceive me doing that, its really not the way it goes. we never mean to send people into a situation where they would be uncomfortable, or to use someone else against their will. most of the time i think what people perceive as an experiment is simply our way of getting to know the person better. im really attuned to body language/facial expression and people often say i can read them like a book. the only reason i can do that is observation, i cant walk up to someone and know everything about them, but after twenty minutes of watching them talk to someone or talking to them myself i will have a mental catalague of how they react to things, usually this is done unconciously but it still happens. i think that what some people perceive as experimenting is just this process of observing a person.
2. the celebrity thing is another thing that i think needs to be cleared up. first off, i think celebrity is the wrong word. i think people get caught up w/ celebrity and think only famous people count. i think more what we do is that we like to know people who have done amazing things, for example, i have a friend in a band, and if he's playing a party, everyone in that party that i care about will know that he is my friend because i want to be associated with him. we're really concerned with how people see us and so we get an advantage by knowing someone popular.
3. this is aobut the relationship thing, people say we bounce back really quickly after breakups. i think this is because we dont get sad around people very often, if we're around people is going to be fun, cuz people are fun, and thats the way it is. when we're alone we are completely different, i think the problem is that nobody will ever see us like that because a switch goes off in our head when people are around
anyways, im getting bored, so im off to do better things, maybe i'll finish this later or something, give me some feedback if u agree or disagree