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    What has been your experience with Semi-Duality?

    I had a long relationship with an IEE. He was a really kind person, but our relationship ended up being very hot/cold, on/off. It felt like every time you thought you were getting close to any goal in the relationship, we would switch out of sync and I would be denied. This is harmonious with the standard semi-duality description. Man, that relationship was the proverbial hot/cold. It was also hard to break after many years in (since I tend to overcommit).
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    I relate to this. I had a best friend in college, LII and we were pretty on/off. When he was into me, I wasn't into him and vice versa. The flirting was good but it went no where. A few times I brought it up and he would brush it off. One time, I quite literally backed him into a corner and asked him out. He blurted out a bunch of excuses but didn't say 'no'outright and it resulted in yet another stale mate. Eventually I gave up altogether.

    Some people have told me that semi duality is superior to duality... I don't think that's true at all.

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    My mom was EIE. Even ignoring some NTR factors our relationship was hot-cold. While I never had any doubts that she cared about me, there were many areas in which I needed help but feel neglected. For her I was the perfect child that she could brag about and in the next moment she would grumble about the smallest thing I couldn't do. One of the biggest advantages of having an EIE mother was mutual trust. I could go to her openly with any problem and even if she grumbled she tried to help with better or worse outcome. And she trusted me that I won't do anything stupid which is why I never rebelled. Even if we had different outlooks on some matter she wasn't deaf to my arguments (like some other family members ) and after hearing them she would go "Hey, that makes sense, do as you wish".

    When I was about 13 I made friends with one EIE girl from parallel class. One day she just approached me and we started to talk. Only after a few days I realized that I didn't even know her name! Our friendship was restrained to the school only so maybe that's because our PoLR differences never managed to burst out. We would spend almost all breaks together either with books when I explained some things to her or she would drag me around school and socialize.

    From this time I remember one EIE guy from year above who was my first crush. But he had a girlfriend and I had my rules so nothing came out of it. I'm wondering now how apparent was my interest - even though I was shy and secretive I would serve him a lingering look every now and then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Irime View Post
    My mom was EIE. Even ignoring some NTR factors our relationship was hot-cold. While I never had any doubts that she cared about me, there were many areas in which I needed help but feel neglected. For her I was the perfect child that she could brag about and in the next moment she would grumble about the smallest thing I couldn't do. One of the biggest advantages of having an EIE mother was mutual trust. I could go to her openly with any problem and even if she grumbled she tried to help with better or worse outcome. And she trusted me that I won't do anything stupid which is why I never rebelled. Even if we had different outlooks on some matter she wasn't deaf to my arguments (like some other family members ) and after hearing them she would go "Hey, that makes sense, do as you wish".

    When I was about 13 I made friends with one EIE girl from parallel class. One day she just approached me and we started to talk. Only after a few days I realized that I didn't even know her name! Our friendship was restrained to the school only so maybe that's because our PoLR differences never managed to burst out. We would spend almost all breaks together either with books when I explained some things to her or she would drag me around school and socialize.

    From this time I remember one EIE guy from year above who was my first crush. But he had a girlfriend and I had my rules so nothing came out of it. I'm wondering now how apparent was my interest - even though I was shy and secretive I would serve him a lingering look every now and then.
    Oooo, being served one of those lingering looks from an LII is very nice and memorable in my experience. Heh. You should know those are worth a lot to people you are interested in.
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    Through which Sun of Being’s Light is passed,
    Each tinted fragment sparkles with the Sun,
    A thousand colors, but the Light is One.

    Jami, 15th c. Persian Poet

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    I had an excellent 4-year relationship with a semi-dual though she cheated on me, which is an aspect that I don't attribute to type. She attempted to repair the relationship but she couldn't allay my suspicion that the same error would eventually be repeated. In hindsight, we had very similar perceptions of the world so we weren't that complementary to one another and with other aspects considered, we perhaps made better buddies than mates. However, I still rank semi-dual as having the third-highest potential for a partnership being stronger cognitively than two stand-alone people......

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    I have only had friendships with my semi-duals.
    I like their Te, it's nice. My closest LIE friend is an entrepreneur (stereotypically.) He's fun and very sincere, which I like.
    However, I just can't deal with Si PoLR. Just being in his apartment becomes exasperating after a couple of hours.
    Some LIEs have been interested in me romantically, but they push for an aggressor response that I'm just not going to give them. It creates tension.
    Otherwise, they are fine. Excellent people to work with and to discuss ideas with. They tend to have an excellent sense of humor too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BabelFish View Post
    I have only had friendships with my semi-duals.
    I like their Te, it's nice. My closest LIE friend is an entrepreneur (stereotypically.) He's fun and very sincere, which I like.
    However, I just can't deal with Si PoLR. Just being in his apartment becomes exasperating after a couple of hours.
    Some LIEs have been interested in me romantically, but they push for an aggressor response that I'm just not going to give them. It creates tension.
    Otherwise, they are fine. Excellent people to work with and to discuss ideas with. They tend to have an excellent sense of humor too.
    @BabelFish, I think what you wrote is fantastic. I'm making a personal copy of it to read whenever I find myself weakening around my attractive, intelligent, respectable, very well-put-together EII secretary who is newly single. I mean, if she were ESI, I'd be married again by now.
    BUT, she isn't ESI and, while I've been refraining from getting close by telling myself that semi-duality is not a good match because "Victim-Infantile" and Strat's LIE-EII article, it is very good to be reminded that she, in turn, probably couldn't take my Si-PoLR.
    I've been renovating my house for over a year now, and the kitchen consists of a sink (no counter, no cabinets), a stove, a refrigerator, and a microwave on a steel shelving unit. The walls and ceilings are bare studs. I can easily see how this would not be acceptable to an EII.

    Thank you so much.

    As for LIE's pushing for that Aggressor response from women, it's super true. The EII secretary cornered me last week after work with some papers to sign, everyone else had left the building. She stood really, really close while explaining what they were. I was thinking, "Is she just being helpful or is she looking for something more", so I "accidentally" touched her arm. She immediately turned full towards me and gave me this look, like, "Well, come on then", but didn't actually say anything. Just that passive look. I thought, "Good Grief. Do not do this, you will regret it forever" and I asked her if she's started dating some LSE yet, to defuse the moment and get things away from the here and now.

    If she hadn't been so absolutely passive, or if she were an ESI, then that would have had a very different outcome.

    I should add that, while she is a great friend and a great professional resource, we don't work perfectly together. There is a lack of implementation (Se?) about our interactions.

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    Some of them are very cool. Something sensing tends to make mental notes in my mind especially right kind. Hard to put it into words. Quiet monitors of external. Anyways, hardest thing is obviously contact in ethical realm. I tend to find their attention to practicality bit funny. Not off putting but funny.
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    i've had more experience with SEEs romantically than SLE, mostly because SLE women seem to be quite rare around here and SLE dudes are usually very straight so this thread is kinda perfect, just in time

    well i can say that SEEs certainly differ from me in how they view love, they have a much more stable view of it like this "we are together and we are tied" where my version of a relationship is more "we mean this, we give this to the world, and we aren't just together but we are vital and needed in this time" - not exactly that simple but yeah. SEEs a lot of the time seem very victim (surprisingly enough) to how you, the other half, take them. all of the SEEs i've been with are always asking me "how do you see me" "what am I to you" (this could be my issue with not forming strong opinions about people i actually like whereas when it comes to people i dislike i can always find something to complain about. SEEs usually seem to find my essence very appealing, they always have something positive to say and are very gracious in that regard. the issues come in that we usually don't see eye to eye on worldly matters which doesn't really matter to me and that we are sometimes bad at interpreting each other's words and emotional states, especially the latter.


    overall, my experience with SEEs as semi-duals has been positive

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    I was best friends with an SEE back in middle school. She would get me out of my shell and convince me to do crazy shit haha, I started swearing because of her . I feel like she enjoyed my worldview at the time, we grew up in super Christian housholds and I saw many religions as mainly something that was fear based to keep people coming and keep people paying to dissolve their fears... but only temporarily. And I enjoyed her tenacity and fire, and how sweet she was. A lot of our visits were hot cold, she was very flirty at times or either outright bored and uninterested.

    We eventually grew apart since she moved away and didn’t keep in touch. We tried getting together a while back but there was no spark like there was when we were kids. all in all though, she was the best friend I ever had.
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    they are the same in the suggestive region alike duals. for me as base T they gave the feelings I'd want to have
    unlike activators they also have E/I and J/P I prefer in people
    it would be easier for me to deal with softer and wiser people as duals EII. but it's good people, at least, for romances and many surface dealing. I feel a higher trust to them as people. and they inspire in me a higher compassion to them

    nontypes reasons are also important for good and bad
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    They really don't like play fighting lol and may take your words literally

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