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    Default Meeting ISTp

    Hi, I think I am ENFp and I would like to ask if in your opinion it is also so hard to meet a ISTp in real life. I have a feeling of that it's very not easy and hard to meet a ISTp and in my opinion I met a ISTp only once. How to recognize ISTp, what are places where they like to be? Maybe I will meet some ISTps here. I am sorry for my English, but I am not native speaker. I am sending greetings.

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    I feel like the trick is not that they are all at one place or that you can find them doing something specific, but just knowing when to recognize them when you do encounter them, since they're inevitably distributed all over. And to that there's no easy answer either, but the surest sign is trust your Si seeking if you truly are IEE. By this I mean if someone is attractive on a animal level, don't fight it, try to get near them and see if it holds up. This would be intrusive of most other types to the SLI, but if you're really IEE you'll be able to swing it, because you're clever like that. If you trust the Si signals then bounce some Ne off them and see how they respond. You have to believe that duality is a relationship of psychological comfort, so while its not always guranteed to be easy especially not at the start, if its real it should be somewhat palpable in the interaction as it unfolds... in that case I guess I'm saying be yourself, look out for people you find attractive, approach them and see if they respond positively. Yes this is like super cliched and its funny we have an entire psychological theory where this is the fruit, but all this "be yourself" "talk to him" type stuff is so cliched Jung talked exactly about how something new is required to inject the numinosity back into everyday life. I think this is an example of it.

    There's a lot of stereotypes about professions but I don't think they really hold up, just because someone is a mechanic doesn't mean anything. Trust your vibes. If you want to go around looking for them according to stereotyped means you're likely to find a lot of guys trying to become the stereotype not be themselves, in the hopes theyll find acceptance on that basis. That is actually the persona at work. It seems to me likely to run into the super ego type of your dual if you go that route. Confusing the proxy for the real thing is something typology itself is mired in and its symptomatic of the age where people in general are living too much in their super egos, especially introverts in extroverted society. Jung mentions this phenomenon specifically which is that contemporary society pushes people to dissociate from the self and into the super ego. Typological systems easily get subsumed into that unhealthy dynamic where they become a mouthpiece for more of that kind of unnatural behavior. Anyway I know that's a lot to chew on, but I wanted to head off a lot of bullshit questions like this always bring up

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    I would suggest to not use Socionics as a search criteria because the risk of a mistype is high and one may not initially be attracted to one's dual; it is better used to understand a person that you are dating. Duality in combination with all other aspects of compatibility is very difficult to find; I've met many, many duals with whom I would never consider close relationships.....

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    iSTp is one of the most common types and most common type in males. So to find the ISTp male is the easiest of all types. To spot ISTp male is very easy, they usually have their IEs expressed very well and it's hard to mistake them for anything else. You just need more experience with people types. Just date every guy and every 4th or 5th male should be ISTp. Refer to type descriptions if you want to know how to recognize them.

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    Even if you see some human regularly - there is high risk you'll mistype, as this needs the skills and today typing ways are not perfect. You may easily mistake at least in one dichotomy and to understand this after monthes of the communication or never.

    Try to choose by your heart - the one who you irrationally feel as soul friend for you, - mb more chances to find the one who is good for you, despite the type he has. Not only type influences on the relations and feelings, not only peoples' traits but also your efforts to love and care about other human too.

    The common way to meet a pair - people near you. You together live, study, work, fishing, accidentally were in the same campany, etc. It's random process. Look at those people and mb you'll see the who you need.

    There are no special places to meet concrete type. You may expect to find more of types of some club somewhere. For example to meet T-S man on socionics forums is hard. Most here are F, N types and women, many ones here may mistype themselves. You may to have more chances to meet SLI in technical and renovation related shops, fitness clubs, etc. More T-S types may study on technical specialities, have occupations there. You meet them everyday in public places.
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    Most here are F, N types and women
    hows that working out for you

    You may to have more chances to meet SLI in technical and renovation related shops
    yeah more chances like Sol meeting NFs on socionics boards. more chances makes it a numbers game when that's not really what its about, but I assume an IEE knows this so whatever, so I don't want to get bogged down in an argument over it, except to say the numbers argument has been made and shot down in the past, because Fi is precisely not about numbers. its about qualitative judgements. if someone seeks out where "x type" hangs out because they're "x type" they've already killed the romance, sometimes the romance is in finding the person who is the fish out of water. I understand this is probably seen as irrational so I admit that Sol's advice would be proper directed at a linear thinking (not necessarily ego) rational type
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    There are manyyy IEEs and SLIs who've met naturally, in fact this is one of the most poplular dual pairs so you shouldn't be worried.
    Look for people who are confident and comfortable in their bodies and seem kinda casual and effortless in their looks, some SLIs are good dressers and follow trends but only if it's not something that they consider unnatural looking. To me they just seem like very stable and sane individuals not neurotic like me or my other Ne friends.
    In the past it was more common for ISTp to work as a mechanic or in some other field that requires strong sensing but nowadays most of them have different motivations and influences so they can be found in almost any profession. For example I know two people who are SLI and one of them is a boy who's got no idea about his future and he's in a phase where he's kinda floating and education is not his priority since his LSE mother has connections in a profitable field while the other one is a girl who is very successful in police academy.
    What is notable about SLIs is that they usually have hobbies they are very dedicated to(unlike delta nfs who try new 2345 hobbies each year), in some cases it's a sport(even a team one) or even something artistic.
    Again, you shouldn't be worried because in most SLI-IEE dual pairs it's the SLI who found the IEE

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