Yeah, I definitely should never question his manhood. I know he's sensitive about it. He's also pretty manly looking (naturally muscly and tall) albeit soft-spoken so I kind of think he should just own that manliness and not be insecure about it. Just be confident!!!! haha (not really fair to him, I know.)
Another thing that strikes me as "weak" is the way that if I push back about something or am a bit critical he can't then just discuss it or laugh about it or consider it and respond. It's like an instant bruise from me to him, and then he doesn't come back with anything, just sulks like I have wounded him, which I find TIRING. I then beg him to engage me in the discussion and he seems offended and just says he doesn't know what to say or doesn't have anything to say. ARRRGGGGGHHHHHH
It can definitely seem like a lot of walking on eggshells sometimes.
And yeah, he likes his lazing around and doesn't want that disturbed by my spontaneous ideas. His term is "bombardment." Anything I bring up that is something to do (Se) seems to feel to him like I'm just bombarding him. I have to be quite careful about bringing things up that cause him anxiety, and incidentally for this reason I also handle all the bill paying and managing finances, etc.
And @
Avebury, yes, I hate waiting. My EII LOVES the anticipation of things (loves surprises, loves to NOT know what a present is going to be, loves looking forward to things he is excited about, etc). I like to have something to look forward to but I don't like that anticipation. If I want to do something I'd much prefer to do it NOW NOW NOW. ;->