Gamma derail

[Hope]

ugh just ban everyone on the forum already we're in desperate need of a universal timeout

But first the whole forum needs to be typed as ESI.

[Kim]

Just the shorter way of saying it.



Im a lot cooler with people that put things out there and are confrontable. Like if one of the people you mentioned says something sexist I could make a remark about it or have a debate with them about it and and it would make sense, others would see where I was coming from, they would be honest, it would all be on the up and up. When things fly under the radar more, or it's subtle but most people don't see it and I look "crazy" for pointing it out, the person lacks self awareness or is underhanded, that's when it gets under my skin. It might not be entirely fair or whatever, in a Ti way, but maybe that helps to understand it and you could probably see the people that piss me off vs don't falling along those lines.

Same. The chatbox comment is more of a symptom than anything and it's not about bad humor, but about a general way of talking about and to women that is more subtly problematic (to me) than Bane or Hitta-style humor - they don't deflect or gas-light when being called out on it.

Adam's responses to me in this thread illustrate what I am talking about - ignore the criticism and underhandedly attacking/mocking me using personal information. And it's all very gendered to me.

In any case, I am more disappointed than anything because I was willing to consider that Adam lacks self-awareness and wanted to point that out (in my "tone-deaf" comment), but his response just proves that there IS a vicious side to all of this that I don't want to further engage with.

[ashlesha]

I do get out of hand when I'm frustrated that people think I'm just hateful at someone for no reason or something, like I'm not trying to do some pr burn the witch thing from my perspective i just want to uncover what is obvious to me and get people to not think I'm delusional or something....but it more or less manifests as witch hunt behavior in actual practice and it always backfires on me anyway and does make me look crazy lol. My point is: point taken.

[Skepsis]

ugh just ban everyone on the forum already we're in desperate need of a universal timeout

The forum needs a spanking.

[Delilah]

It wasn't addressed at you, since I don't know you. It was a general thing that I have observed in several Fi egos on this forum and it has always bothered me. I believe you that you get offended by everybody equally : D That doesn't change the fact that imo this thread is a ridiculous overraction to a lame joke. While you could call it sexist and react to that if you're not a fan of sexual jokes, I don't get how you could take a personal offense to that - as if it was a vicious attack on your person. To make a whole thread about this incident like you were almost raped is bizzare. Unless something illegal is happening, you're the one that is responsible for your feelings of hurt. You can't expect the whole world to adjust to your level of sensitivity. Ok, you were offended and think Adam is an asshole, it is what it is, but that doesn't mean that he's obliged to apologize to you or that we all have to play by your rules of interaction so you don't get hurt. The world is full of different people, many of them love that kind of playful banter even from total strangers because it loosens the interaction and makes it more fun. So it's impossible to take every individual in account, we can just set the border on legal/illegal so thinks don't go too far and for any other feelings of hurt that arise that's not a collective problem. Simply not liking something doesn't make it legit.

Soon you won't be able to say anything without somebody going crazy. "I'm pregnant, I'm so happy" - how dare you, you privileged person, I'm infertile, have you any idea how triggering this is. You always need to take infertile people into account." "Sex is a very important part of a relationship" - How dare you, what about asexuals - so they can't have meaningful relationships? " I would never date a guy who doesn't drive a car"- How dare you, epileptic people can't drive cars, stop discriminating against them. "It's hot when my bf is jealous and asks me who I'm going out with" - Run, girl. RUN. He's an abusive controlling asshole and this is clearly a toxic relationship. You don't know what is good for you, you are being brainwashed, ... .Just simply disagreeing with someone lately triggers people and everybody has a need for "safe space", like they were at least a victim of gang bang rape in Rwanda. Gmafb.

This is a general rant against radical sjw people btw, I don't think you're that extreme.

Well, I respect your opinion and taking the time to explain. For me personally, and considering adam's responses on this thread, i'm glad i addressed it publicly and not in PM. You seem a bit keen to shush things from my point of view.

[squark]

Well, I respect your opinion and taking the time to explain. For me personally, and considering adam's responses on this thread, i'm glad i addressed it publicly and not in PM. You seem a bit keen to shush things from my point of view.

Yes, I agree. I don't really get the "let's sweep it all under the rug and pretend it's not there" kind of reaction. Be out with it, solve the problem and move on is my opinion and preferred approach.

[Chae]

@Adam Strange

[Adam Strange]

@Adam Strange

His eyes are softer than mine.

Adam in the Clean Room: https://i.imgur.com/UjAfL5X.jpg

[Hope]

The forum needs a spanking.

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[Number 9 large]

His eyes are softer than mine.

Adam in the Clean Room: https://i.imgur.com/UjAfL5X.jpg

handsome mofo

[Skepsis]

https://i.imgur.com/FIKugh0.jpg

[Adam Strange]

Lol.

[Spermatozoa]

Fuck, this thread simply refuses to die honorably.

[Raver]

Fuck, this thread simply refuses to die honorably.

[ashlesha]

Fuck, this thread simply refuses to die honorably.

I think it's almost done. Threads w drama always dribble off slowly w people trying to keep it alive w little jokes and stuff. I dunno if it happens this way on other forums too.

[Delilah]

lol lungs are you measuring longevity of threads?

well delta has the delta lounge, a place designated pre-use. gamma can have the gamma derail, an off-shoot of real experience conflicts or better renegotiations on various levels.

ETA even though i tend to think that gamma moves on to new venues after the place has served its purpose

[Adam Strange]

Fuck, this thread simply refuses to die honorably.

I've thought about this, but I'm just gonna let it run. What the hell, right?

[Hope]

I've thought about this, but I'm just gonna let it run. What the hell, right?

Friends speak for you but, real friends troll you (and you know it )