For Enneagram type 4s..share your thoughts

[Iwantpeace]

Share your thoughts...

[Singu]

I always feel like I don't fit in. I really don't know what to do about it. I need to feel like I am welcomed. And even then, I might not feel welcome.

Someone else is more favored... not really, but I always feel like a freak! I often don't get close to people because of fear of rejection and they won't welcome me.

Then there's the feeling of conflict: Do I be weird and "authentic"? Or do I just hide that part of myself to fit in? How do I even know that being weird is being authentic? Maybe I don't even know who I am anymore...

Interesting to know that ESEs could be 4s, where they are stereotypically 2s.

[yeves]

If you are an enneagram 4 do you feel like you don't completely fit in? As if you are always looking for evidence that you are left out or that someone else is favored more than you? I do this at work, in my family, in my circle of friends. Quietly feeling unaccepted or that someone else is the "favorite" or "better sibling". I will look for little signs of rejection.

That sounds like type 1 than anything. From links that @squark has posted.

• I worry that my loved one (or family) will reject me for a more attractive or perfect person.
• I obsessively compare myself with others.

These are the kinds of thoughts/feelings ones have:

http://www.9types.com/descr/?type=1&book=baron2

and here are fours:

http://www.9types.com/descr/?type=4&book=baron2