here we go
Is it important that people around you take your reasoning? Do you have problems with someone who misunderstands your actions?
No, not at all. My advice is nothing more than a suggestion… usually in the form of something like “What do you think about this?”. Knowing that my reasoning may be faulty or there may be alternative, better ideas, I’d rather leave the thinking up to the person I am trying to help. I always assume the other person knows what he’s doing and what he wants.
If someone misunderstands me then I usually get impatient, mostly because I’m not that great at trying to translate my own understanding of even something really simple to a more easily understandable format.
How do you feel about those who criticize and dispute your logical reasoning and arguments, is this irritating? How strongly irritating is it, if so?
Hm…. being corrected or criticized by someone for having dysfunctional logic is not as irritating as it is embarrassing and humiliating for me. I tend to avoid arguments enough so that this doesn’t happen to me.
Does it flatter you when people praise your use of logic?
Yes, yes it does! I absolutely love it when my Alpha NT friends say, “Oh, I never thought about it that way. That actually makes a lot of sense!” It’s brightens my day, yes.
Is it important for you to understand everything? Do you get upset if there is something you don’t understand?
No, my curiosity is very limited in scope and I really don’t care to understand most things. If there’s something I don’t understand it does make me feel left out, but purely for the fact that it prevents opportunities for discussion… this isn’t enough to make me want to learn anything I’m not already interested in. However, if I actually am interested in a subject but find myself lost and confused, I do find myself a bit upset, but I just put off whatever I may have been trying to understand for later just in case it might come to me then… I like to familiarize myself with information regardless of whether or not I can digest it. Also, if someone is teaching me something and I don’t get it, then I don’t really say anything…. I’m much better at learning at my own pace and dislike others having to try and force information down my brain, it makes me anxious.
How would you react and what would you do if the head of the company you work for caused everyone to act according to their own rules, which proved damaging to the productivity of the company? This company gives you a well-paying salary – Do you adhere to the rules, or attempt to ‘sabotage’ or otherwise dispute their efforts?
Hm I’m not sure what could be done by following one’s own rules in the workplace… as far as I know I definitely would adhere to the rules, as I don’t enjoy hurting others’ productivity and thus their total possible profit. I’d feel too guilty to keep up the rebellious behaviour, if I’d even get into it in the first place. I’d ignore the new trend of people following their own rules and just do what I was told to do with my job. I’m curious what the head of company did to make everyone express this much dissent o.0
Do people bother you who are inefficient, unproductive, and otherwise make questionable actions in regard to efficient action? Why?
Hm… it only slightly irks me in that I may feel bad for the whole being hurt as a result of the efficiency of one or a few people, but I can easily relate to not prioritizing efficiency over one’s own personal interest so I wouldn’t care enough to say anything.
Do you like to find some imperfection and fix it? Do you like to work with imperfections and upgrade them? Example?
I prefer to ignore most imperfections, even though naturally my thoughts are obsessively perfectionist…. I try to justify paying no mind to them to quiet these uncomfortable thoughts (ex: cleaning my room only wastes energy…. All it does it alter the aesthetic, and really organization is subjective, as long as you know where everything is there’s no need to pay attention to all those clothes on the floor; does perfect grammar, spelling, and capitalization really prove to be worth the effort, does it not translate effectively otherwise? I think I could do without trying to be such a grammar nazi and attempt to fix all of these mistakes which the other person really could understand anyways; etc.)
Do you want to become the most informed person in your surroundings, so that if anyone has questions, they can turn to you for advice or help? Does this please you?
Yes, I always enjoy being able to be the one with all the information, the one everyone goes to for help! Maybe also because I feel I could be manipulated easily or am at a disadvantage to others by not knowing as much as them. This pleases me greatly.
Can you restrain your irritation towards people you really don’t like?
Easily. I am generally quite apathetic and tend towards a calm neutrality… I want to look approachable and welcoming to anyone even though I rarely would ever care enough to converse with them
Do you separate people into good and bad, and adhere to that principle strictly in your life?
Not at all. I never apply the terms good and bad, I find them to be a reflection of my own narrow mindedness of what I believe to be ideal. I don’t see people as good or bad but rather… on a spectrum from beneficial and harmful, both to themselves and society.
Are your sympathies-antipathies towards people constant? Are you sure of your relation to anything?
My disposition towards people can be a bit ambiguous to me… I’m very socially anxious so I am wary of trying to appear too close to anyone... not sure who is close enough for me to be a bit more open and personal towards so I am naturally very secretive. I generally become more distant with those who are at first more emotionally expressive, as I am not sure their sentiments toward me are real and worth recognizing. When it comes to antipathies, well they’re never constant because either they never existed in the first place or they always transition back to a neutral disposition, and quite quickly too. (I prefer to judge people off the present, not the past. The past doesn’t mean anything to me, it is the present and future of a person that matters most, and so that is how I will evaluate someone.)
How confident are you in your assessment of anything, in regards to your emotional attitude towards them? (likes dislikes, attraction repulsion etc)
My likes and dislikes are generally ambiguous, and I find a hard time identifying with them. I don’t seem to have any strong attraction or repulsion towards anything, being, as I stated, comfortably neutral. I can sympathize and justify any attitude, so I am very indecisive and cautious of applying moral judgements myself.
In a romantic relationship would you rather receive emotions, and feelings and provide services/actions that illustrate care or vice versa? Why?
In a romantic relationship I would rather be the one to provide the emotional affection and receives the acts of services definitely. I want to be the one to show affection and be all lovey dovey, as I myself am not as… trusting of the emotions of others, nor easily affected by them. If someone shows their care for me through just being helpful and making my life easier out of love, that’s enough to flatter me.~
Do you have a tendency to look for likeminded people in terms of your ethical views? Why or why not?
Nope, I don’t really care to filter out people, who could potentially make great friends, just because of their views. Nor do I search for people with the same opinions as me either. It doesn’t seem fair to base how well you’d get along with someone off of such things. What matters more is common interests and the ability to understand each other and communicate effortlessly.
Does it anger you when people act out of negative emotions: for instance, anger or envy?
It slightly irks me, sure. It shows selfishness and a lack of self control… but I do understand that humans are humans and not everyone has full awareness of what they are feeling and why, let alone the ability to censor themselves.
Can you say that your opinion on any occasion if too often a compromise, and for this reason not really yours? Provide reasoning and/or examples
YES, exactly! I don’t identify with many of my opinions really because they’re so ambiguous and I am always reconsidering how I feel about something… especially when it involves picking sides in a conflict with people. >_>
Do you have a tendency to improve poor relationships no matter the cast? Why or how?
No, I avoid and withdraw. It’s easier, and I don’t benefit from the number of relationships I have, but the quality. I don’t want people to hate me or even dislike me, but I won’t bring it up readily unless it’s a more open and comfortable place like the internet.
Do you communicate with people on a business level?
Yes, to conserve my emotional energy for those I actually care about enough to form meaningful relationships with. It’s just easier on my mind… social anxiety is a thing. At school, if forced to work with a group, I’ll try to direct the group towards productivity rather than useless and distracting socializing until we finish, and then I’ll just keep to myself. Okay I take that back, I don’t mind socializing if it means avoiding personal life stories and really anything constructive at all… I just wanna enjoy myself okay? If I wanted advice I’d ask my imaginary friends or my family or consult the all knowing internet.
Can you come up with clever ways to cheer up frustrated friends? Is this easy for you?
If their frustration won’t be helped by thinking about the situation which caused it, then I’ll casually ignore the negativity and bring up some topics they might enjoy. Otherwise I’ll just ask questions about the situation until they feel they’ve said everything, either just for the emotional vent or for the possibility that talking out one’s feelings makes it easier to understand and rationalize them and thus bring up solutions for the problem. Is this easy? Well uh considering I’ve been nearly mute and avoidant for the majority of my life, doing this is only a relatively recent thing… but I think I trust that the other person wouldn’t get upset or be more hurt by me helping, and so it doesn’t come with as much discomfort as a normal social situation.
How hard is it for you to make important decisions in your life? Explain?
It is very difficult! So many possibilities that could lead to a more desirable outcome… and I don’t even know what I want… do I want to go to college or become a prostitute? Shall I invest money into the construction of an isolated castle out in the middle of nowhere, or settle in a small van on the streets and live an easy life? Don’t even start on dinner menus… I’ll just order everything you’re ordering!
Do you lack interest in people who are not internally conflicted? Do you like to dig into those that are? Why or why not?
No… I relate more easily to internally conflicted people… I don’t understand those who are always happy and motivated to do anything to change the world. Yes I do enjoy dissecting people to see how to help them…. But usually once I do and they feel fine then I don’t feel happy as I should… almost nostalgic or longing for their old self.
Do you have a tendency to be indecisive in activities that are important to you because of a fear to shake your inner peace?
Yes. MMO character creation… a reflection of myself. If it doesn’t satisfy me then I’ll start over an infinite number of times, ignoring the actual content of the game, considering it useless without a personal connection to the world. That’s the best example I can come up with. xD I’ll only play as one race, one class, one role…. Because once I find one that fits me best, choosing another would be betraying myself.
Do you avoid activities that can shake your inner harmony and self-confidence?
So most activities with people? Yes.
If there is suddenly some kind of internal conflict, how does it affect you?
It makes me unable to deal with life effectively until fixed… keeps me inside my head rather than doing things for my own enjoyment… doing things in general.
Do you have a tendency to keep distance from people in order to look correct, coherent, and consistent?
How do you feel when people conflict, destroying the harmony of the external world?
It’s unfortunate that people conflict, but it will happen. It depends… are we discussing something like a conflict between people, between societies, etc.?
I’ve never been threatened by the possibility for a war myself and I feel comfortable living in California so I don’t feel much visceral discomfort when I see bad things happen on the news, but I do find it concerning. If the conflict is in the immediate vicinity then, well it is very distracting and unnerving if it involves lots of yelling and clear emotional outbursts. I can’t deal with that stuff… leaves a lingering feeling of tenseness in the air even after the conflict has concluded. Usually it makes me overestimate the situation, I find most yelling to be unsuitable for the situation. Someone: *yelling* me: did someone dismember and fuck your cat? Did someone cut off your nose and not give it back? Person: no they toasted my bagel wrong!!! UGH no one knows how to do anything! Me: …… *groans*
If someone says your house is a mess, how do you react to it and what do you feel?
Slightly irritated, as it is basically degrading my own sense of aesthetic. It’s not a mess! It’s ordered chaos.~ If I did prefer my house to not be a mess, I’d still be irritated probably.
Do you seek out new opportunities in the world and actively pursue them?
I don’t seek anything out, and don’t pursue anything that I don’t seek out.
How important to you is the comfort of your home? Are you afraid of poverty?
This is a difficult question to answer… I’m not sure how important comfort is to me or what the even means besides a soft bed, some food to eat every morning and night…. A cabin in the woods, a cute lil house in the remote arctic island of Svalbard… tbh I could also live in a van, where everything is easily accessible and requires little upkeep. I’m not afraid of poverty merely because I’ve never experienced it, and it might not be that bad considering the lack of effort I’d have to put in to live at that level… I’d never do it in America though, crime is rampant here and the nearest city, San Diego is the most boring yet annoying place to walk around in the world, would rather kill myself than be homeless there.
Are you afraid to miss out on possibilities the world has to offer? Why? How much of a concern is this?
Very much, but I don’t do anything about it. I sorta just grieve over missed opportunities and all the infinite possibilities I’ll never experience. When I say opportunities I am usually talking about relationships and maybe different cultures and places as well. I don’t care for most physical activities however, I’m not the one to want to travel the world to go scuba diving and rock climbing and hula dancing… I enjoy experiencing with my eyes and stomach.
Does it upset you if someone sweats, or uses rough language, destroying the harmony of the external environment?
Normal everyday bodily functions don’t put me off really, I can deal with that stuff. Rough language and aggressive behaviour however does arouse my sympathetic nervous system and just completely changes the atmosphere, making it uncomfortable and giving it a persistent feeling of disharmony. Would it upset me enough to try and say something or stop it? No.
Is it important for you to be like everyone else?
While it may end up isolating myself from society, I would much prefer to keep to my own interest, unless I value someone else and feel the need to share their opinions and interests. I’ve been known to, for example, order the same food at a restaurant as my older brother (some extraverted Fe valuer) because I believe he has good taste and generally value his opinions. I do enjoy being unique, however at times it does create regret and a feeling of loneliness. With these sentiments I may then try and assimilate myself into a group/culture (mostly relevant to internet) I feel might suit me, but I always end up withdrawing and disagreeing with everyone’s motivations.
Do you have a desire to avoid external conflicts and seek a place to stay where they don’t exist where the atmosphere is harmonious and consistent?
If I don’t think about something undesirable it doesn’t exist, at least at that moment. I do like to retreat back to my bed when I feel the world is too much. It is always nice to come back home to a stable, loving family where I am accepted unconditionally and don’t have to worry about any sudden emotional drama pulled on me. When I am feeling distressed I tend to contact those who show no signs of positive or negative sentiments of me… it’s refreshing to talk to people who don’t care to discuss anything personal or even care about you.