Optimizing Ni-leading

[Singu]

Has anyone actually found a way to optimize Ni-leading so that you at least take the best course of action frequently instead of taking no action?

ILI thoughts are also welcome.

[Pookie]

Disregard your own feelings as much as possible

[Exodus]

The answer to this is as with anything else: make it a habit. Make it a habit to act and put yourself out there, especially when to do so would be onerous or fills you with dread. I might not say disregard your thoughts and feelings "as much as possible" but realize when your doubts and hesitations are not based on anything. When in doubt, err on the side that is opposite to your instincts, since you know they are biased.

Also -- realize that no matter what, you still won't be able to do this consistently. Apportion resources accordingly.

edit: this is mostly based on my own experience but I imagine it will apply for Se Suggestive too.

[golden]

There's a weird kind of stick-to-it-ness that some IEIs and ILIs have. Like my IEI best friend who could hide away and write applications to academic jobs every single day for months, or get up every morning and write poetry or work on a memoir. Like my ILI mom who was able to work really diligently at her job and who when she had a long-term goal (okay, it was revenge-based) just would not give up. It all looks kind of low-energy to me, but there's a long view in mind and they can get a lot of shit done. So I never underestimate Ni-dominants.

I guess what the scenarios I describe here have in common is taking the long view and being patient versus pushy. There's something sober about the mentality I see work for them, so I agree with the not-getting-swayed-by-emotions thing.

[Singu]

Disregard your own feelings as much as possible

lol... yeah I've thought of that. But I also think that the environment is important so that if my internals fails then there's something external to rely on.

The answer to this is as with anything else: make it a habit. Make it a habit to act and put yourself out there, especially when to do so would be onerous or fills you with dread. I might not say disregard your thoughts and feelings "as much as possible" but realize when your doubts and hesitations are not based on anything. When in doubt, err on the side that is opposite to your instincts, since you know they are biased.

Also -- realize that no matter what, you still won't be able to do this consistently. Apportion resources accordingly.

edit: this is mostly based on my own experience but I imagine it will apply for Se Suggestive too.

Yeah, I think it's pretty much the same for Se suggestive as well.

There's a weird kind of stick-to-it-ness that some IEIs and ILIs have. Like my IEI best friend who could hide away and write applications to academic jobs every single day for months, or get up every morning and write poetry or work on a memoir. Like my ILI mom who was able to work really diligently at her job and who when she had a long-term goal (okay, it was revenge-based) just would not give up. It all looks kind of low-energy to me, but there's a long view in mind and they can get a lot of shit done. So I never underestimate Ni-dominants.

I guess what the scenarios I describe here have in common is taking the long view and being patient versus pushy. There's something sober about the mentality I see work for them, so I agree with the not-getting-swayed-by-emotions thing.

Yeah, one way to do it is to make a long-term goal and work on that. But I wish there was more of a way to act ad-hoc in situations.

[golden]

Yeah, one way to do it is to make a long-term goal and work on that. But I wish there was more of a way to act ad-hoc in situations.

That's what alcohol's for.

Actually, though, if you live in a place where you can take classes in improv, I've met / studied with a couple of different people who are not actors and have recommended improv as a crucial life skill to help you think on your feet. And both of them were amazing at it; one said he wouldn't have half the self-confidence he does if it weren't for having learned some improv.

Could that be relevant?

[Singu]

Ok, well I've decided to "externalize" Se by writing down commands on paper, and making sure that I would be looking at them often. Like "Do this" or "do that". Strangely, that seems to work pretty well... It's like Ni won't do anything unless told what to do.

That's what alcohol's for.

Actually, though, if you live in a place where you can take classes in improv, I've met / studied with a couple of different people who are not actors and have recommended improv as a crucial life skill to help you think on your feet. And both of them were amazing at it; one said he wouldn't have half the self-confidence he does if it weren't for having learned some improv.

Could that be relevant?

Yeah, something like that could help. I would just keep saying to myself, "DO IT NOW!!!!!!!".