I never really considered ESI a possibility for my type until tonight as I'm not an emotional person, most people tell me I'm serious or stoic, but a conversation tonight has me thinking I might be one. A very close friend (LIE) and I got into a strange conversation about how he wants his remains treated after he dies. He said he wants to save everyone the cost of a funeral and to just have his ashes dumped down a big storm drain. He demanded the money he leaves behind be used for things other than pointless rituals.
I told him there was no way I'd allow that to be done with his remains, and he replied that cremated remains are just bone meal, that you should no more hold a ritual for them than you would for an arm that's amputated. I told him that he doesn't get it; It's not about the physical matter, it's about honoring someone's impact in your life. Flushing their ashes down the toilet and through the sewer system doesn't strike me as an appropriate way to do that. I actually started to feel a bit angry through the course of this conversation. He was serious, and I know from experience that he doesn't take cremains seriously as he has ashes of a family member still in its original plastic gray tub just sitting in his laundry cabinet. I brought those up and told him it's time to properly deal with those to.