I have this friend I made nine years ago in varsity. Back then he had many qualities that made him a great friend. He was very smart and had a lot of potential, and he lived a principled life.
No more. He was a straight A student, but didn't finish his degree. His career ambitions are gone, his company treats him like trash. He has random hookups with women I don't think he really finds attractive. He is pretty much isolated otherwise. He has health issues he doesn't see to. Given up on life, it seems. This depresses me and I feel like it's a negative drag on my life. I stood by him hoping to motivate him. But then...
Last year, he didn't bother wishing me on my birthday. I want at least that from a friend, you know? Bare minimum. Somebody else told him later, and all he said was "oops". How dare he violate the laws of Fe? There are other things but this was the last straw.
The easiest solution is to just ditch him and move on with life unencumbered. But treating your friends that way when they are in a bad place makes you a bad person, right? Friends are supposed to stand by each other no matter what? I don't know, a nine-year friendship seems like something I should value more.