Member Questionnaire 1 (Shady)
What is beauty? What is love?
In my opinion beauty is very objective, it's something outside of you that's attractive because it exhibits a physical or deep feeling you like, for example, i see a girl walk past me and i say she's beautiful, because she has nice hair , which is a physical attribute,as i get to know her i see she's really kind, i call her beautiful again because she has a quality of kindness i like. Love is very subjective, whereas beauty is what attracts you, you're attracted to love. Its the deep feeling inside you that resonates with all the things someone does.
What are your most important values?
Ugh, i hate questions like this, they make me really uncomfortable and i never know what to say , but i guess i value honesty above everything else, i love honest open communication that doesn't thrive on guessing what the other person is thinking or feeling.
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
Yes, im a Jehovah witness. I hold these beliefs because its the best way to live, we have the word of God for a reason, to listen to it, and the only way we could every repay him back for all he has done for us is by doing what he requires.
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
I think that whole thing is stupid, fighting doesn't bring any peace, although we do need it. I think life would be better without it. Power to me is when someone has dominance over another person, or if they hold a certain influence among a group of people which cause them to act to the needs of that powerful individual.
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
Things i like discussing. 1) Society, the way things are going and why people do them. I find these conversations particularly interesting because i like to know how other people think and why they think a certain way. 2) i love all sorts of gossip and information, mainly because i like to "know" i may never use that information but just" knowing" is powerful and gives deep insight about a person. 3) literally, i go through my life and see and point out how things can be improved, although i may never actually bring it to life, i like thinking it through and see the maximum potential something can yield. 4) Conspiracy theories, I LOVE THEM, even thought i know some are stupid, i love listening to them and see the viewpoints people have of them. 5) the technicalities of human relationships, they're so interesting, i like seeing and knowing the little details that add to a relationship and how they work.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
I find it interesting to an extent especially when they're discussing the benefits, although i don't really care personally. To be totally honest, i don't focus on my body at all.
What do you think of daily chores?
I hate them, thankfully i have a mum and dad that remind me of them otherwise i would forget, they're so boring and long.
Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
Scandal, How to get away with murder, Reality shows (dont judge me), Dispatches documentary, News, Wildlife and animal kingdom, How do they make/do it.
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
Anger makes me cry because i keep majority of my emotions in and that's the only way it comes out, laughter makes me cry, honestly i don't know why. Things that make me smile, when people think i was born yesterday and try and pull a veil over my eyes but I've seen through their fake façade. When i see close family and friends happy because they're talking about something the passionately like, when i realise the answer to something I've thought about for a long time.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
When i'm by myself or my family.
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
I'm very gossipy and passive aggressive, i don't take initiative... in anything, i don't every really stand up for myself or my rights, i'm very objective ( this is bad because when close friends or family need me to take their side i cant because i can clearly see what they've done isn't good and i'm not supporting it, i'm very lazy, very selfish, i don't really know or care about what i'm socially meant to do, im very truthful and it can come of as rude, for example, if i see and ugly baby, in my eyes its ugly, but because we live in such a noble politically correct country i can't say that, because every baby is oh so beautiful, im quite cynical, i have no sense of urgency, i'm an organised mess, i always second guess my ability, horrible attention span, i'm judgemental. people always accuse me of not having an opinion because i can see where everyone else comes from and i understand why they think that way. i hate confrontation, i wish i was more observant, i walk into things all the time, i day dream way to often,
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
Im very perceptive and good at reading peoples intentions, i usually think of quirky off-hand questions and ideas , i'm very calm and placid, i'm fun and like to cultivate good vibes, i'm very considerate almost to a weakness, i'm likeable, if people need help with good detached honest advice i can it, i'm good at problem solving and how to tackle any problem (usually relationship and interpersonal) , i've been told i'm humble, im open-minded, im very tolerant and can take loads from people.
In what areas of your life would you like help?
ORGANISATION, will power, determination, strength of voice and mind, in a weird way optimism, understanding, i need loads of help to understand one little issue, social dynamics and skills, my own bodily care.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Im stuck in a rut when i have an overload of things to do and become really stressed, or when there is to much going on at once, i usually come out of this when i start doing what i need to do or when im taken out of the situation, i usually just shut down like a robot and become very lazy and just think
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I'll do negative first because i like focusing on the bad, lol, attention seeker, not in the cute way, people that take themselves to seriously, people that aren't true to themselves, people that switch up around others, people that are super sensitive and cant take my harsh jokes, people that are boring, people that are extra and theatrical for no reason, superficial people, stupid people. I LIKE people that are very quick witted, people that can challenge me mentally, people that come up with the weirdest ideas, optimistically cynical people, people that can laugh at themselves,people that aren't afraid to give an opinion, adventurous (not physically).
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
I think its kinda weird, im not into that super lovey sappy relationship. Qualities are mentioned above.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
The main concern would be to create a voice and stand for my child, i want them to be very vocal about there needs and stand up for what thy want, i want to cultivate there personal opinion and be very individual and not to care about what others think, weirdly enough i don't want them to be kind, because I've seen this world doesn't accommodate kind people, kind people just get trampled over and i don't want that, however i do want them to be very respectful and know how work towards there goals.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
If its really a friend i would defiantly disagree with them and have a friendly debate about it and see where each person is coming from, if it was an acquaintance, lets assume it wasn't a very deep belief i'll just nod my head and wont say anything, if it was something i strongly believe in i would tactfully disagree if they persist i'll just say i get where you're coming from and leave it.
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
I have a very cynical outlook on society, i feel like there's no need to fool myself by making my own natural yoghurt while picking grapes in my birkinstocks, society is currently very bad we have bad people in it its up to us to enjoy it, so i say ditch those silly motivational quote and enjoy yourself ,I feel the biggest problem in humanity is this so-called individuality, yet we're all so politically correct, we pride ourselves on free speech but we have to make sure we're respectful, Those 4 things i just mentioned need to be done away with, they are two mutually exclusive events that cant happen together and people need to realise that.
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
I just end up liking the vibe someone gives me and it develops from there i guess, but i think i behave the same, but different around people, what i say is generally the same, i'm very funny ,a bit rude, quite direct & undermining witty humour, but all in good faith , however i change the flavour of how it comes out this is because i know how close i am with certain people and sometimes some of my relationships are as developed as others so i'll act differently to suit that relationship, also every friend I'm with has a set select amount of emotion i show, some only see my talkative fun side, some see my considerate caring side, so on and so forth.
How do you behave around strangers?
Im very isolated and quiet, i just keep myself to myself and wait to be approached if i happen to be in a group i'll listen carefully if i'm interested and try and keep positive cheerful vibes by smiling, if i'm bored and not interested i'll completely zone out and wont concentrate on anything presently happening.