solving hyper sensitivity

[Beautiful sky]

I find that EII, me especially, get very hypersensitive and I start to cry when things don't go as planned and things get thrown out of track. I know that stability is important to me because of my temperament however I should see past things sometimes. I should not cry that I WANTED to put up something in the wall that didn't come out right because I did the best I could with the tools I have. Yet I find that the level of stress and frustrating that it creates overwhelming because things didn't go as planned or expected

How should I relax about things?

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[Jeremy8419]

I find that EII, me especially, get very hypersensitive not I start to cry when things don't go as planned and things get thrown out of track. I know that stability is important to me because of my temperament however I should see past things sometimes. I should not cry that I WANTED to put up something in the wall that didn't come out right because I did the best I could with the tools I have. Yet I find that the level of stress and frustrating that it creates overwhelming because things didn't go as planned or expected

How should I relax about things?

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Probably should have titled this "emotional sensitivity" or something. Thought it would be about hypersensitivity to stimuli, which is something I have.

This is about lowering your expectations to a realistic level. You have to take factors of negativity into account, such as tools and knowledge, predict the outcomes based on such, and be okay with them.

[ashlesha]

I get frustrated about things not going to plan too and it helps to try to focus on the big picture, how it still could (will be!) done but not at this moment. It's where Ni can be really helpful. Also taking stock of how much of a priority it actually is or diverting my attention to something else that i want to do so i don't feel as stuck or useless.

[Emmym]

Try to be a little more objective. This comes a bit easier to me, maybe due to subtype? I can usually find the bright side of a situation (or just a reason to chill), even if part of me is still depressed about it (and refuses to be consoled). I try to take every "failure" as a learning experience, though sometimes something just sucks and you're entitled to cry about it. I don't want to give any advice that would encourage becoming less in touch with yourself and how you function best. Also, Mari, I might be moving out to your area(ish) later this year. We need to hang out!!

[Beautiful sky]

Also, Mari, I might be moving out to your area(ish) later this year. We need to hang out!!

[rien]

It's so stressful when things do not go as expected. It feels like many things become out of your reach or are out of your control. What do you normally do to cope and relax?

[Beautiful sky]

It's so stressful when things do not go as expected. It feels like many things become out of your reach or are out of your control. What do you normally do to cope and relax?

Eat ice cream, take a walk, cry, complain, eat cookies,

[ouronis]

I find a "fuck you, challenge, I will figure the fuck out of you" approach works well in dealing with problems initially beyond your grasp or feeling of competence.

[Jeremy8419]

Heard this once, say "so what?" to yourself during such situations

[marooned]

i feel like crying when there are too many people around and they're all talking at once. and the things i like to do like pile books or monitor stands around myself or leave are things i can't often do. *dreams of own cubicle*