Hello all! I am new to the forum, and I would like the input of others in the forum on this recent problem of mine....
My husband is LII and I am IEI; I am far more dominant than he is, incidentally. At the beginning of our relationship we used to get into many fights mostly consisting of the fact that I am not an ESE socializer who has enough friends to give him instant access to a warm and lively social atmosphere, and he is not an SLE 'git 'er done' empire builder with a power complex and a taste for the dramatic/poetic in me.
After working through some of these issues and trying to change our expectations of each other, Hubby recently brought it to my attention that he would like to try being the dominant one for a while. (Keep in mind that he has a very prominent Se PoLR). The thing is, I was just beginning to accept that he is not a Beta ST. His Ti is really really schmexy and is why I fell for him, but the Se is just not there. He is very much against or suspicious of my love for The Walking Dead, historical fiction about ancient empires ('luxury porn', as he calls it), and other things that I realize are basically Beta-esque longings. How can I possibly see this cynical but lovable sweetheart as a dominant even temporarily?
He mentioned something about leadership skills needing development anyway, which is a really logical reason to try such a project - plus I think my outright refusal hurt his feelings. I'd like to correct this and give him a chance, but what is the best way to help an Alpha learn to be dominant once in a while without hurting his painful function or expecting him to be an SLE of some sort?