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    Member Questionnaire 1 (squark)
    What is beauty? What is love?
    Beauty is what appeals to the senses or sentiments. I don't really know what love is.
    What are your most important values?
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    Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
    Yes.
    Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
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    What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
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    Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
    Not interested in discussing health or medicine. I take care of my body, but wouldn't say I'm focused on it.
    What do you think of daily chores?
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    Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
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    What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
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    Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
    Alone, working on something.
    What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
    Sometimes I'm arrogant, obstinate and cruel. Sometimes I'm dishonest with myself or others. Sometimes I'm lazy or avoidant of things I don't want to do. I hate being or feeling weak, and if I catch myself whining about something, I become disgusted. I don't like to need anything, and sometimes that means I deny wants as well.
    What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
    I'm always willing to do something, change the things I don't like, work, make things better. I don't give up easily.
    In what areas of your life would you like help?
    I can take care of my life. All I need is friendship from anyone else.
    Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
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    What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
    Honesty is my favorite quality in any person.
    How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
    I don't think I want a partner. I was reading this the other day https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...u-single-heart and realized most of these things apply to me.

    I can be obsessive about relationships, and I very much like sex (who doesn't) but when I really think about what I want and when I'm happiest, I realize that I like being alone and making my own decisions far too much. When I think about things like marriage, it's always with a sense of dread, a sacrifice that I might make for someone, but not something I'd choose for myself. And when my relationships have ended, regardless of how devastated or sad I might have been at the time, I eventually feel a sense of relief. I've had lots of romantic notions and ideas of how things could or would or should be with someone, but in the end, I think I like just being me the best.
    If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
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    A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
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    Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
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    How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
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    How do you behave around strangers?
    Polite.

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    Oh, I don't care about being typed. Thanks though.

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    I love you Squark

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    I don't care about being typed
    being correctly typed
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa View Post
    I love you Squark
    :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    :-)
    she loves only your money and cat
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol View Post
    she loves only your money and cat
    What? Lol

    I don't know if squark has either

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    :-)
    I love your money and your cat mostly I want your cat.

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    Sexual innuendos everywhere!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa View Post
    I love your money and your cat mostly I want your cat.
    Well, it is a very nice cat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    Well, it is a very nice cat.

    I'll take it. It's mine!

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    I don't think I want a partner. I was reading this the other day https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...u-single-heart and realized most of these things apply to me.

    I can be obsessive about relationships, and I very much like sex (who doesn't) but when I really think about what I want and when I'm happiest, I realize that I like being alone and making my own decisions far too much. When I think about things like marriage, it's always with a sense of dread, a sacrifice that I might make for someone, but not something I'd choose for myself. And when my relationships have ended, regardless of how devastated or sad I might have been at the time, I eventually feel a sense of relief. I've had lots of romantic notions and ideas of how things could or would or should be with someone, but in the end, I think I like just being me the best.
    Didn't you type as sx/sp before?

    (I relate to the personal mastery part at that link but not to the idea of just being single at heart, definitely not. People have seen me as sp/sx before but I don't think so...)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
    Didn't you type as sx/sp before?

    (I relate to the personal mastery part at that link but not to the idea of just being single at heart, definitely not. People have seen me as sp/sx before but I don't think so...)
    A pretty significant relationship had just ended when I wrote that post. You do what you need to do to cope with things, yeah? In other words, telling myself that because I've felt relief when certain bad relationships ended, that I would eventually also feel relief that this one had was to help me get over the pain of it. I do have a lot of personal work to do before I even consider another relationship though. I get a little too entangled in people, it's hard not to lose myself in a relationship. I don't want to lose myself. I like me. I like being me, and getting too enmeshed in someone else means a lot of the things I like best about being me get lost. The personal work I need to do involves rebuilding my self-esteem,and my self-respect and being separate, not overinvolving myself or giving more to other people of me than I keep for myself. And I need to be alone to do that.

    Recently I've been reading a bit about Dabrowski's theory of positive disintegration and his ideas on overexcitabilities, and wonder how much overlap between sx and these various overexcitabilities there are. http://rediscovering-yourself.com/li...browskis-eyes/ Ignore the term gifted as it's rather loaded terminology. But when I'm seeing intellectual, emotional or imaginational overexcitability in myself or others I have been calling it a manifestation of sx. Maybe there is some overlap, or maybe I need to separate the two things better and am conflating them too much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    A pretty significant relationship had just ended when I wrote that post. You do what you need to do to cope with things, yeah? In other words, telling myself that because I've felt relief when certain bad relationships ended, that I would eventually also feel relief that this one had was to help me get over the pain of it. I do have a lot of personal work to do before I even consider another relationship though. I get a little too entangled in people, it's hard not to lose myself in a relationship. I don't want to lose myself. I like me. I like being me, and getting too enmeshed in someone else means a lot of the things I like best about being me get lost. The personal work I need to do involves rebuilding my self-esteem, and my self-respect and being separate, not overinvolving myself or giving more to other people of me than I keep for myself. And I need to be alone to do that.

    Recently I've been reading a bit about Dabrowski's theory of positive disintegration and his ideas on overexcitabilities, and wonder how much overlap between sx and these various overexcitabilities there are. http://rediscovering-yourself.com/li...browskis-eyes/ Ignore the term gifted as it's rather loaded terminology. But when I'm seeing intellectual, emotional or imaginational overexcitability in myself or others I have been calling it a manifestation of sx. Maybe there is some overlap, or maybe I need to separate the two things better and am conflating them too much.
    OK I see. I just was surprised because when I read that link I thought it was crap, from the standpoint of sx-first. I mean maybe it works for sp-first types or something but definitely not for me. When I am alone, I do have myself as a main priority, which is a conscious rule for me really for protection purposes, but I also have no problem with the idea of losing myself with someone else. I see no problem with it, it does not have anything to do with self-esteem and self-respect for me. For me the priorities for the partner mesh with my priorities for myself in a neat, almost mysterious way, though I am able to consciously reason for it as well, and I like that the way it is.

    As for your new link. I don't care for this gifted crap, yeah, I do have some of the so-called overexcitability but I'm not willing to call it that, it's only "over" from the standpoint of worrywarts that want to shoot down all excitement. So I relate to this but not to the idea of being gifted and being in conflict with how things are. I'm smart and have talents but not this kind of "gifted". So this part would not relate to sx but the excitability and introspection qualities may.

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    Like I said, ignore the term, since it's rather loaded, and they should find a different one to use. Just bad terminology. I'm not surprised that you don't identify with the bulk of it. I've only known a few other people in my lifetime that have been like this to the same degree. So yeah, not something that's super-common I easily identify with several of the overexcitabilities listed and most people (certainly not just worrywart types) have wanted me to tone down and not have such an obsessional nature. It's definitely a more-ness or an over-ness that doesn't fall into the normal range. If you were any of these, you'd know it. You get used to hiding it after awhile, but as soon as someone even marginally gets to know you (in real life) they will notice, and make some comment.

    Sooo, it may be along the lines of : these people are likely sx, but not all sx people are quite like this kind of thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    Like I said, ignore the term, since it's rather loaded, and they should find a different one to use. Just bad terminology. I'm not surprised that you don't identify with the bulk of it. I've only known a few other people in my lifetime that have been like this to the same degree. So yeah, not something that's super-common I easily identify with several of the overexcitabilities listed and most people (certainly not just worrywart types) have wanted me to tone down and not have such an obsessional nature. It's definitely a more-ness or an over-ness that doesn't fall into the normal range. If you were any of these, you'd know it. You get used to hiding it after awhile, but as soon as someone even marginally gets to know you (in real life) they will notice, and make some comment.

    Sooo, it may be along the lines of : these people are likely sx, but not all sx people are quite like this kind of thing.
    I think there is a slight misunderstanding. I relate to the excitabilities part. Apparently that's the only thing you relate to too. So I see no difference between us. If you didn't get it the first time then let me repeat, yes, I have been told shit like, I should tone myself down, be careful, don't overdo it, blahblahblah. That's why I referred to these people as worrywarts.

    PS: did you ever see my last PM?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
    I think there is a slight misunderstanding. I relate to the excitabilities part. Apparently that's the only thing you relate to too. So I see no difference between us. If you didn't get it the first time then let me repeat, yes, I have been told shit like, I should tone myself down, be careful, don't overdo it, blahblahblah. That's why I referred to these people as worrywarts.

    PS: did you ever see my last PM?
    I think squark was asking you to ignore some of the specific words (like "overexcitability") that you don't relate to. But you relate to some?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
    I think there is a slight misunderstanding. I relate to the excitabilities part. Apparently that's the only thing you relate to too. So I see no difference between us. If you didn't get it the first time then let me repeat, yes, I have been told shit like, I should tone myself down, be careful, don't overdo it, blahblahblah. That's why I referred to these people as worrywarts.

    PS: did you ever see my last PM?
    No, I related to all of it, not just the excitabilities. I absolutely relate to the inner conflict, and knowing that I have huge room for growth and that I can do so much more than I have or am. I am not at all satisfied with things as they are, and most definitely want to improve, feel driven to improve. I want to find out where my limits really are. I want to be great. And I don't mean that I want other people to see me as great or any bullshit like that, I actually want to BE great, in myself, and reach ideals that I have. I want to do amazing things, and I am disappointed and frustrated with myself because I know I can do more and do better.

    I don't like the term "gifted" because it sounds pretentious, like you think you're better than other people or something, and don't want to label myself with something like that, but I fit the descriptions, and always have. And it's not some emo thing, like "oh I am so special and misunderstood" either. But some things I've read lately on the subject (not this particular link) made me cry, because it was just a "Holy shit, that's me and maybe I'm not as fucked up as I thought," and then a lot of questioning and evaluating, and considering and asking things like, "How much is real, and how does this help me? What does this mean? Can I use this or not?"

    As for PM, I thought I had responded, will double-check.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa View Post
    I think squark was asking you to ignore some of the specific words (like "overexcitability") that you don't relate to. But you relate to some?
    Um I think you misread accidentally


    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    No, I related to all of it, not just the excitabilities. I absolutely relate to the inner conflict, and knowing that I have huge room for growth and that I can do so much more than I have or am. I am not at all satisfied with things as they are, and most definitely want to improve, feel driven to improve. I want to find out where my limits really are. I want to be great. And I don't mean that I want other people to see me as great or any bullshit like that, I actually want to BE great, in myself, and reach ideals that I have. I want to do amazing things, and I am disappointed and frustrated with myself because I know I can do more and do better.
    Hmm ok just the whole thing seemed very intuitiveish (in the jungian sense) and that's what I didn't relate to. I don't think I have much inner conflict myself, no, I've got peace with myself pretty well, while I'm still willing to change what needs to be changed... so, I do relate to some parts about improvement etc.


    I don't like the term "gifted" because it sounds pretentious, like you think you're better than other people or something, and don't want to label myself with something like that, but I fit the descriptions, and always have. And it's not some emo thing, like "oh I am so special and misunderstood" either. But some things I've read lately on the subject (not this particular link) made me cry, because it was just a "Holy shit, that's me and maybe I'm not as fucked up as I thought," and then a lot of questioning and evaluating, and considering and asking things like, "How much is real, and how does this help me? What does this mean? Can I use this or not?"

    As for PM, I thought I had responded, will double-check.
    I'm not sure I fully understand the article tbh but I only skimmed the rest after it talked about the excitabilities and the introspective process which I do relate to. I just don't do the introspecting by questioning everything unnecessarily. I just observe my internals without any expectations, live through that observation, come to an understanding then or sometime later. Repeat process. And so on. Also I have no problem with many society related expectations, I don't try to be different for the sake of being different. That to me is slightly too... aimless. Trying out extreme diets and religious beliefs as external solutions to inner disharmony is something I'm totally NOT interested in, lol.

    Ah, btw, I'm not trying to say it's shit or stupid. I just can't relate to that part, is all.

    PS: thanks for the PM check

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    Quote Originally Posted by squark View Post
    What is beauty? What is love?
    Beauty is what appeals to the senses or sentiments. I don't really know what love is.
    You still knew what love was here: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...naire-(squark) ?

    (Not nitpicking, just wonder why the change in opinion if that's OK)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
    You still knew what love was here: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...naire-(squark) ?

    (Not nitpicking, just wonder why the change in opinion if that's OK)
    Lolandthenyousayouarenote1andifeversquarkIlikyouas lsise

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    Quote Originally Posted by Persephone View Post
    Lolandthenyousayouarenote1andifeversquarkIlikyouas lsise
    Hm before you only two people were considering 1 for me. Couldn't make anyone else see it as even a remote possibility. I myself think it's not as simple as that - enneagram really oversimplifies things.

    I don't really see how that has to do with this post of mine tho' since as I said it wasn't nitpicking

    I couldn't read the last part of your long line Can you rewrite it for me please.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myst View Post
    You still knew what love was here: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...naire-(squark) ?

    (Not nitpicking, just wonder why the change in opinion if that's OK)
    I was being emo because of life stuff.

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