So, he might have just been "pretending" to be my dual (maybe without knowing socionics terms, but knowing them instinctively). Now I have all of these militant rules and obstacles men have to jump through to date me. Friendship first, no wining about the friendzone, I pay for all my meals and if you "forget" your wallet then you're fucked, I drive myself everywhere, we have to get to know each others' friends' and families', we don't meet up at each others' place (don't ever suggest netflix and chill), must get tested for every STD/STI under the sun, show me test results, ALWAYS wear protection, no moving in together, no joint bank accounts, no co-signing any sort of paper, and through all of this I will be listening to and memorizing anything said so as to not miss a single red flag, mixed signals, gas lighting, manipulating, inconsistencies, and it allows me to ask the right questions. Sound extreme? Maybe, but it works, as long as I'm fun to be around and we are getting to know each other it works out, as long as his intentions are good and he's interested in me this is never a problem. If a guy protests and show frustration and trys to "wear me down" I know to move on and find someone better. So, this was long winded but I've found that the more I practice discipline and discernment the less bullshit I have to deal with, I didn't use to filter out people but when I do I end up meeting the coolest people. Hopefully a healthy EIE wouldn't even notice I was "filtering" him through my "scanner". I once compared myself to Gus Fring from Breaking Bad when he was watching Walt and Jesse for the first time without their knowing and he wrote them off lol.