"Whole world does not cost one tear of child" – how do you understand this phrase? Do you agree with this opinion?
Well, my understanding is that we hold certain people in higher regards than others, in this case, a child, who's life we value more because he/she's young and is more fragile. I guess I understand the idea that a child has so much potential to become something great in his life. However, I don't agree that one life is worth more than the other.
I guess really, just because someone is young that does not mean that his life has inherently more value than someone else's - especially considering that childhood is a relatively short period of time in a person's life, and to imply that a person loses some of his value after the period is over just seems... weird to me.
Maybe I'm taking the phrase itself a bit too literally, but I believe that, perhaps unless you know that you don't have much time left on this planet, then no life is truly less significant than the other, since we have no idea how any one life would unfold in the grand scheme of things.
Is it acceptable to express emotions? Give examples of inappropriate expression of emotions.
Yes, it is generally acceptable to express emotions. I believe that suppressing emotions is not only unhealthy, but also undermines the complexity of each and every one of us. I guess it saddens me that people often hide their emotions to either "get the job done", or to hide their vulnerabilities, because displaying emotions, both positive and (surprisingly) negative are really worthwhile experiences that allow one to grow and (arguably) feel more alive.
However, I personally do tend to experience my emotions privately, mostly because I don't like the attention that my emotions would attract ("are you alright?") I tend to be a pretty private person, and, sometimes, admittedly, I indulge in my negative emotions. But explaining why I feel the way I do to others just feels a bit difficult for me (As though I'm ashamed of saying what's on my mind).
Now, I think that expressing emotions is only unacceptable when such emotions are inept, given the context. For instance, laughing at a funeral...
(Actually, come to think of it, I would be angry with someone laughing at a funeral, but not, surprisingly, when someone is feeling depressed at a fun gathering - I can understand that not everyone can adjust positively to a given place. And sometimes when people are troubled, you can't force them to stay happy.)
Can you use negative emotions? In what situations?
"Use" as in to my benefit? Well, negative emotions do come up often, and sometimes I even indulge in them (okay, indulge is a strong word, but I never repress them). However, I wouldn't use them to (at least consciously) manipulate something or someone. I keep most of my emotions to myself (releasing them only in the confines of my home).
I do "use" my negative emotions as a sign to reflect on my current state/situation, analyzing what caused the emotions to manifest and, hopefully, fixing the problem.
How do you express negative emotions? What does it look like? What do others think about it?
Usually, I'd isolate myself from others, become highly irritable, especially when people confront me with the more mundane aspects of reality. I experience great difficult in expressing my emotions to others not because I can't understand them (I understand them too well), but because of the (perceived) mockery that I think I'll get when I tell others about my feelings (most people I know seem to repress their emotions more often than show them).
Beyond that, I tend to develop an overall defeatist attitude to everything from time to time until something gives me hope (a new idea/insight/ perspective etc,...)
With regards to how others perceive my emotional outbursts? Usually some either try (modestly) cheering me up, others (my family especially), think I'm just "playing the victim" and that others have way worse shit than I do. Some just avoid me because I can often be very moody, defensive and sometimes even aggressive with others (verbally, never physically).
Another weird thing is I get angry when someone tells me to relax, take it easy or just "chill". I don't know why (It almost feels like relaxing is a waste of time and not really getting me anywhere.)
Shallow emotions – what does it mean? Are there any other emotions?
Is it weird that I associate positive emotions with shallowness and superficiality? It's like I have this belief that positive emotions are short-lived and constantly fleeting, and eventually we just go back to being our old miserable selves (Don't invite me to your parties, please...)
Also, inauthentic emotions, like if someone is constantly happy in order to hide their insecurities and negative feelings.
What are right or wrong emotions?
Authentic emotions - right. Inauthentic emotions - wrong. Also, it's okay to express emotions as long as you don't act violently in spite of your emotions. That's all really.
Can you change the emotional state of yourself? Of others? To what side – positive or negative?
Well, I can change my emotional state when I can find the source of the emotions and tackle it in a way. Or when I can distract myself (going out, reading, watching dumb YouTube videos) However, distraction doesn't always work since the bad feelings usually come back with a vengeance after I'm done distracting myself.
As of others? Well, I don't consciously do it, but yeah, often when I go out (for instance, with my friends) I often act as comic relief, who's upholding this sort of weird/quirky vibe in the group (so my type is 'Hipster' basically).
However, I'm not sure if this "upholding of an emotional atmosphere" is something mostly superficial, or my preferred mode of interaction, or a way to hide my opinions, thoughts, and ideals from my friends, who (I believe) seem to judge me when I express my deeply held beliefs.
What does it mean to "pour out your emotions"? How does it happen?
It means letting the emotions you've bottled up come spilling out of you, either in small or big doses. Often it happens when you (or I) want to clarify the cause of the emotional state, and feeling that you can't do it alone, you start displaying them outwardly, hoping to attract someone who will listen.
Me personally, I can't prevent my emotions from showing on my face. Whenever I'm angry, I'll always look at the source in hostility, when I'm sad, I'll usually become unusually quiet, have a sulky tone of voice, or even become teary-eyed - though when that happens, I'm uncomfortable in showing my emotions to others (since it attracts attention) and so I try avoiding talking to people, getting to close to them, or anything else to keep a low profile while I'm having my little breakdown
Does your internal emotional state correlate with what you show externally?
Not necessarily . In fact, no matter how happy I may look, there's always a big part inside of me that's deeply dissatisfied with who I am and that I'm "fooling" myself and others with my emotional displays. However, no matter how often I keep the facade of seeming happy, I can't ever fully conceal my real emotions - though I still try because I don't think my more "personal" emotions are anyone's business by my own.
Do you track what mood you are in throughout the day? Do you notice the mood of others?
With myself, I usually have no choice. My mood often plays a bigger part in how my day will unfold than I care to admit. Now with others? I guess I can pick up whether someone feels bad through their tone of voice, their facial expressions and such, and I'm often inclined to ask someone if there's something wrong with them (it's like an automatic response). Also, when I see someone's in a bad mood, I usually try keeping a slight distance between us because I don't want to upset the person further (though I'll keep wonder why he/she's feels this way.)
However, that's only when I'm in a good mood. When I'm in a bad mood, I'm waaay too self-absorbed to notice anyone's emotions but my own.