Soupman, you were fortunate to get good attachment parenting. Attachment parenting was what I was into before and after my son was born, and it sure is the most rewarding way to parent. I am grateful for all I read on this at the time, particularly Dr. Sears book on it, because it is in contrast with a lot of the parenting advice that tends to be shot at you by relatives, friends and neighbors (which is usually designed to make babies be "independent").The most important tenet of attachment theory is that an infant needs to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for the child's successful social and emotional development, and in particular for learning how to effectively regulate their feelings. Fathers or any other individuals, are equally likely to become principal attachment figures if they provide most of the child care and related social interaction.[3] In the presence of a sensitive and responsive caregiver, the infant will use the caregiver as a "safe base" from which to explore. It should be recognized that "even sensitive caregivers get it right only about 50 percent of the time.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory
Reading the theory helped me make choices that I am so glad I made, that helped my son in so many ways. He just lacks fears, in contrast to so many of his peers growing up. Its an advantage to take into life, that fearlessness. He was quite attached as a baby because that is how babies naturally are and I did not try to change that - and people did advise me to! I remember being warned that he would become a mama's boy because he did not want to be left in the nursery for church like the other toddlers - and I accommodated that (and most anything else he signaled he did not want). But I held onto the understanding that meeting his attachment needs as a baby meant he would be more confidently independent as he grew (vs. attached-to-mama because he had to seek the security needs he did not get as a baby) - and it turned out just that way - he was always comfortably confident and independent as he grew - as a child, and then as a young man. That fearlessness and that base of inner security - it is a real help in adulthood. I am most grateful that I could give him that parenting most thoroughly because we did not divorce until he got older, and even though the marriage was not good, because of it, I was able to be home with him and in every way available in those formative years. [You can still attachment parent if you work outside the home, particularly if both parents are on board with that goal, but even without that you can still endeavor, and it will benefit]. Also I attribute the way he is so great and natural with kids to attachment parenting. Kids are just drawn to him, and I think a lot of that is because he has it in his mind that kids are to be paid attention to and responded to. And kids light up with that kind of respectful attention.
Well, I know this is a side topic, not the topic of the thread, but I when I saw attachment parenting mentioned, I just wanted to share that I was the best thing I did as a mom, that it was not difficult, but rewarding to do. (Its not hard but takes commitment). I needed the help of the "theory" because it is against how most of our parents raised us and against how our culture tells us how we should raise a baby. That book also gave me confidence to be strong in this endeavor. There were other ways I came up short as a parent, including his later having a "broken home". But I can look back and say I am so glad for the attachment parenting, and for its long good effect.
A happy, attached baby: