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    Default Best buds outside your quadra?

    Let's talk about them!

    My best friends have always been gamma or delta (though I've dated both alpha and beta people, SEI and IEI respectively) but right now I'm becoming pretty close with a beta NF girl and I don't think either of us expected it, lol. Our lifestyles are almost identical and relating is just vey easy for that reason, though most of what we talk about isn't "real life" stuff, but our interests. We trade metric tons of ideas in a very satisfying way (we're pursuing complementary majors in college as well) and it's just refreshig sometimes to talk to someone who has similar experiences and expectations. Also, I think delta NFs sometimes enjoy being around types from other quadras whom they can be less... "good" with. Ahaha.
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    I associate with many Alpha SFs in real life. I attract them like bees to honey for some odd reason. If not Alpha SF, it's xLI.

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    My SEE brainiac friends, ESE brainiac friends, SEI nurse friend, most of my close friends are delta

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    mirage, semidual
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    My wife is IEI-Fe, and my closest friends outside my quadra are IEI-Ni, SLI-Si and LIE-Te.

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    I read this as "bed bugs outside your quadra" and had such high hopes for this thread...
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    I have no friends outside of my quadra, or inside for that matter.

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    LSE, ESEs, SEE, IEE, EII,... - majority of my friends are from outer space/quadra : ). I don't see a particular pattern either, some people I hit it off with, others not. Maybe only that they are mostly ethical.

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    Mostly deltas and occasional beta NF
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    the people i consider my closest friends: "older" friends i've known like 10+ years, "newer" friends i've known 5 years or less.

    older friends that i see frequently: SEE, ILE
    older friend i haven't seen in a while: IEI
    newer friend that i see frequently: IEI
    newer friends that live far away, that i keep in contact with: ILI, LII
    newer friends that i probably won't see much anymore: EII, LIE
    newer friend i can only take in small doses: LSE

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    I don't have many friends really, but usually the closest ones outside my quadra have been SEE. I'm also relatively close with my mom and she's IEE.
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    My closest female friends, outside my quadra, an IEE, and an ESE (who I didn't trust but loved anyway), My closest male friends, outside my quadra, have primarily been Gamma and Alpha NTs. I have had more male friends than female but not by conscious choice. Just about everyone I have been close to has been Beta though.

    I was also very close with an ESI female once and we lived together, on and off, over a period of years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    I'm also relatively close with my mom and she's IEE.
    same here, i'm also very close to my IEE mom

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    I have some close IEE friends.

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    Instant friendship with most SEEs and NFs. ILI and ILE are pretty quick too. Estranged from SEIs, don't know why...never gets past a certain point.
    Harmonizing/Creative > Normalizing/Dominant by far.

    My actual closest friends: C-SEE-Se sx/so, H-EII-? sp/sx, H-ILI-Ni sx/sp, H-LII-? sp/sx
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    Like, LII.
    And one LSE presumably.




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    SLI-Te
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    "When I ought to be thinking of heaven he will nail me to earth"

     







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    My SLI friend.

    SLI: I bought a computer
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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    My SLI friend.

    SLI: I bought a computer
    Me: What kind of computer?
    SLI: A silver one
    that's a very energy conservative way of saying it. Try asking that to an sle

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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    My SLI friend.
    SLI: I bought a computer
    Me: What kind of computer?
    SLI: A silver one
    Logical type would say technical details. Especially Te types - they thoroughly choose what to buy.
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol View Post
    Logical type would say technical details. Especially Te types - they thoroughly choose what to buy.
    Yes they do but SLI being introverted may not talk about all the technical details and research that on their own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kim View Post
    I read this as "bed bugs outside your quadra" and had such high hopes for this thread...
    And I read your post as "best hugs outside your quadra" lmao. I would have to say EIEs give the best hugs of any type, hands down.
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    Quote Originally Posted by glam View Post
    same here, i'm also very close to my IEE mom
    I really wish I had an IEE mom. But having an ESE one isn't so bad. She's sturdy, lol.
    Last edited by Emmym; 10-27-2015 at 03:56 AM.
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    My best friend(s) have either been ESI or xEE.

    I've also been closer friends with SEI and ESE girls, and to some extent one or two EII girls. The friendship with the latter is sometimes not as easy to start and usually fizzles out eventually. When there are no shared (NF) interests with Delta NFs, there is nothing that "holds" me to them. Whereas with SF types, it is either the Se or Fe that connects me to them; having the exact same interests is not as paramount (but surely helps).

    I have never been friends with an NT girl before. This could boil down to them being more rare (especially the Ni kind). Alpha NTs have always seemed rather dorky to me. Not necessarily in a bad way, but in a way that did not make me feel compelled to become friends with them. I don't remember having known any female Gamma NTs irl, actually. If I have, I certainly have not become friends with one, because I usually figure out my friends' types.

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    I don't classify the people outside the Delta Quadra my best buds. But, they are definitely a good part of my life.

    A couple of ILIs, an LII, and an ESE.
    The two ILIs (One of them being my brother) I tend to get along with quite well. Their ironic and morbid humor meshes well with my blunt attitude. There's definitely a barrier in extensive communication because one will talk more than the other, and, it can sometimes be daunting depending on who's talking because both SLI and ILI come across similarly in vibes because of their Fe POLR. Our values in happiness and time are definitely much different, which leads to small disagreements that we usually can compromise on. Because of this, it can lead to a rift and a sort of monotone pattern after awhile. Despite this minor detail, I enjoy their presence the most and have never become tired with it.

    The LII is a cold-hearted goof. She is a good friend to have around to joke with about morbid and otherworldly quirky things. She is a waterfall of knowledge when it comes to horses, and, can enhance my mind when she compares horse behavior to people. Makes it easier to understand. The problem with this one though is I get an uneasy feeling with her sometimes. Her structured knowledge and elevated understanding of things makes my understanding look like a mess, and, because of this, I feel uncomfortable to really share anything too intellectual or too practical. I'm not intimidated or wanting to impress her, though. Otherwise, best bud in analyzing people.

    The ESE is a spunky and outgoing creature. I believe that she and I have an unsaid mutual opinion of each other in that we are better in group settings and that us hanging out one-on-one will definitely cause an awkward discord between us. We have a lot of fun with our friends and can bounce off each other quite well with her comedic physicality and my matter-of-fact humor. To an extent, we get on quite fine one-on-one. However, this is only because she talks much more than I do, and I love that. She's a natural conversationalist, and I'm never annoyed with it because it inspires me more. But, the inspiration can't be utilized with her because she seeks light-hearted Fe, and not the Te I give a crap ton of. Nonetheless, she's quite a joy.

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    I always form good friendships with ILE and LII males. And SEEs of all genders. (but mostly female I think)

    I actually hate calling anybody my bud though, more realistically people are just allies in life for what you need at the time. I am too wary to show affection to ppl these days as I kinda would rather just be in my own bubble- and I have this dark side thing where I always feel like I will love them more than they love me anyway so what's the point. I know Starfall used to have a poem in her sig 'let the kinder one be me' but I feel too much like a chump doing that- I really wish I could find somebody that had a more powerful heart than even me and I could be the sadistic asshole for a change. That would actually be nice.

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    I'd say I'm best buds with an LII cousin of mine. He's great, really smart, has a good family, knows his shit up and down, we get into the most interesting of discussions. His is comparable to none, which I actually enjoy. Sparing with him in that department is very enjoyable. Yeah, he's got me beat there, but the whole exercise is still quite nice. He's the friendliest "enemy" I can think of, and I like him for it. If only more "alpha" types were like him the world would be a better place .

    His wife is, well, more adversarial but I don't have to deal with her on a closer basis. Thus I get along with her too! She don't need to know my opinion, and I don't need to know hers. Thus, harmony!

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    My best bud is my dog. (One time I compared someone to my dog as having similar characteristics. Said someone was inclined to feel insulted. However, a friend who knows me and my dog well jumped in to assure him it was a compliment of high order. And it was.)

    As for human non-quadra buddies, my best friend is ESE, I have a relatively new dear EIE who I trust, and a SEE that I've always gotten along with (even if she overwhelms me sometimes). I sense a pattern.
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    I generally get along well with Gamma SFs and alpha NTs. My highschool group of friends was full of ESIs and SEEs.
    I tend to have a good bro code with ILEs and even as a romantic interest male alpha NTs are fun.
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