sry for making another dual thread. basically, i'm in a life situation right now where i meet a lot of duals regularly (tips for SEI's... try switching into tech.) and some of the ones I see on my periphery day to day seem interesting, or attractive. however, none of my friends or people who speak to me/ ppl I talk to regularly are ILE's. it still feels like i have to trap one in the corner to get that person to notice me. unless there's some longterm relating, the connection feels more tenuous than usual- we can have a good conversation, but they still don't see me as a friend (while more easily befriending others).
I feel embarrassed making this thread b/c... well, broken record, plus i've known so many duals, and I know firsthand that duality doesn't always make for positive relating. but... i don't know, i'm getting older, i'm tired from feeling destabilized in relating to people, I do want to try to find someone with deeper romantic relationship potential who seems... safe, communication-problem-free, and not boring. if there's one that actually seems cool (and... non-insane...)*, how do I get them to notice me?
and "becoming hotter" is not an option.
ps i'm picky, i actually truly like very few ppl, dual or otherwise. :/ so the issue is that i want to have more agency and control rather than passively waiting for people that come to me.*
*maybe it's a lost cause