I know a ENTj and ISTj couple who are always bickering over who is wealthier and who is stronger and who is more fit to survive.
The ENTj is always trying to pwn the ISTj in sex and raping her in the process.
She calls it rape anyway.
Anyway me and my fiance and my brother in law are INFj and ESTj and ESTj
I am Ne Aneway subtype and they are ESTj Si subtype.
My brother in law is a good Christian and is an honest person so far so good.
But my bad fiancee is an entertainer and I'm not sure if he's a Christian or not and he is such a liar.
He tells me this is because of his Ne hidden agenda. His desire is to be perfect and creative and when he says he sees someone as perfect and funny and creative and smart as moiself he wants to outsmart me.
He is even telling me to edit this post to make it sound as unserious as possible when I am talking about serious relationship matters.
He lets me show off my Si hidden agenda by letting me browse furniture and cozy stuff like that with him while he helps filter out the good and bad ones and I appreciate his help a lot.
It seems like whenever I go out shopping with ESxjs they just let me choose whatever I want and just say yay or nay to it.
Sometimes I receive stupid advice from ESFjs. I think I'm better at them at this stuff yo.
Sometimes they come up with better recommendations.
It would be even cooler if an ESFj could draw new stuff for me even.
So in return for this I have let my fiancee exert his mental control over me by letting him bullshit all he wants whenever he is in silly nilly NiFe mode or SillyNelly Ne hidden agenda mode.
I don't want to hear his bullshit when he does it to me without knowing it but he seems to get a high from tricking me into believing this or that.
But he seems to get even more excited when I say, like a teacher to a little kiddo "ok, it's NeSi time." and I listen to his fantasies. It enhances our trust.
All I say is that it would build our trust if we set boundaries for each other.
ENTjs and ISTjs and ISFjs, how do you set boundaries for each other? How do we make duality work?