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Hey Maritsa, it all depends. Could you read his facial expressions, as in could you tell if he was being kind of joking or being dead serious. Saying something like that, to me, sounds really corny but whatever. My guess, based on why -I- would say something like this myself, would be that he just wanted to look more tough or manly. Just macho man posturing basically. To paraphrase him if he was really serious about it, its like saying "I don't like soft shit, im too manly for that, that's for girls or weak punks and I would never be caught dead eating something like that so I can't help you."
....All types can say that they are "an alpha male". And the concept of these sort of hierarchy is real. Humans are social animals, and if you are aware of the socionics socion, you will see this hierarchy in action when you are around people. ESTP saying that is just Se bravado. From what I've seen in life, ESTP really are the personification of "alpha male", the most manly type...not macho man some types like ESTjs can come across as, but just really masculine. I don't know how to explain it, I need to use better vocabulary.
People usually form cliques, with each group having their own little roles such as leader, follower, etc.
Take me for example, I can be gregarious, wild, and exciting, but I also like to keep to myself, im a loner. My fi is very weak so I have no tolerance for disrespect or disloyalty and burn bridges without a second thought. I'm the unusually quiet guy in background that is for some reason capturing your attention. I can be commanding and am very strong willed but I can come across as timid and soft-spoken, especially to other men who try to take advantage of this and end up getting hurt. This is because i'm at ease, just observing whats around me and in control of myself. I see "everything", as in whats going on at the current moment, how people are communicating, people's states (how they are feeling, state of mind, etc), what current goals that need to be accomplished, things like that; so when people get to know me, even though they don't like to admit it, they are surprised that they feel so safe around me and like that I can be counted on to always get the job done. I'm like an immovable wall, you'll only hurt yourself trying to pressure me, but at the same time you can lean on me for support. "Speak softly but carry a big stick". I don't have to do much when confronted, I can find a way to command you into doing what I want without lifting a finger or raising a voice, but you will still feel the pressure from afar. I've gotten very good at this, I don't like getting angry, my temper is bad and that is unhealthy so I just stay calm and let the situation play out and will strike at the most vital point.
My SeTi is super strong, and its like every action or word spoken has a powerful impression on people even when I try to tone it down, good or bad. I take up the most space, physically or mentally, literally and figuratively.
I can be very affectionate, I do the little things like holding doors, asking if your okay if I sense something is wrong, telling women that they look pretty when I notice them dress up without trying to get anything out of them, stuff like that. I can get all the female attention this way if I wanted to, they end up falling in love me with me for some reason, and men do not like me when they realize this. I raise the energy level in the room and they feel intimidated and it usually ends up with becoming a "me against the world" type of thing, they'll plot and scheme and gossip just like women do just so I look bad and get in trouble, but I end up winning anyways and its makes me look better. It is kind of sad knowing that I will never be able to get close to other people, that I will always be the one that people love to hate and blame, but its been like this all my life so im use to it.
That's alpha, its like the saying "its always lonely at the top". Always in control of the situation, even when others are unaware of it themselves. Being in charge, domineering, macho, whatever, does not make you "alpha".