You know how sensors, particularly Se-egos annoyingly enough tend to just "know" how powerful a person is in any given situation, or how to move that person around or how to win any discussion? Or just tend to know what is going on in any weird ass situation and land on their feet miraculously, defying destiny and all laws of logics?
That is because of Se.
Somebody asked me how to get better at and I thought to give a general recipe for all n00bs.
First, however, some lovely Ti to explain what Se is, as people with weak Se tend to not have a clue:
- Se is irrational - it means it pulls from an unconscious pool of information to reach conclusions without having to slowly step-by-step think to reach a conclusion, that's a reason why Se is so quick. It just reacts based on knowledge that comes from the unconscious.
- Se is extraverted - it means it relates to reality without filtering information through the self, and is thus "objective" in nature - another reason why it is fast.
- Se is external - it means it looks at the tangible connections when it filters through the unconscious, not intangible connections. In contrast to Ne, it thus provides more information about the situation - a bit like augmented reality - than what is really there. Ne is also irrational and extraverted, but pulls in more or less unrelated concepts to the situation and thus "widens" information about the situations. Ne pulls this informations from an unconscious pool of concepts and thoughts from the past, while Se pulls from an unconscious pool of emotions felt and situations seen in the past.
How is this pool built in the psyche?
Remember how you walked on the street and some person yelled from a window at another person? Or that you walked by the seaside and a seagull made some crazy sounds? Or how you saw a flower bed with extra red flowers?
What did you do when you experienced these things? IEIs would typically start fantasizing about reasons why these things happen... This is a way to not do Se. If you want to do Se, you have to build the unconscious connections between reality and the Se perception of reality.
It is done this way: You hear a person yelling from a window. You turn your head and observe what is going on. You understand what it going on. This is repeated 500 times over the first 20 years you live. In the end, you have a big pool of unconscious knowledge about how people yell in different situations when they have different emotions and different goals. So, after more and more of such incidents observed, Se can start doing it's "augmented reality" when hearing a person yelling. The Se-ego can estimate what the person yelling looks like without even looking at him/her (a fat person has a different sounding voice than a skinny person, for example). They can estimate if the person is yelling in fear, anger or just to get the person's attention. They can estimate if the goal will be reached or not. All that happens in a split second and is not conscious to the Se-ego, it just happens, and it seems to the Se-ego as if the information is in the situation, and it is, just that you need an unconscious pool that has to be built in order to understand it correctly.
So, to strengthen your Se, you just do the same thing. Instead of fantasizing about what might be going on, you turn your head and observe. Do it enough times, and your unconscious will feed you relevant information in any situation that is similar. You will know that the seagull is screaming because it's about to attack another seagull having food, without even turning your head, you will know if it is screaming to call other seagulls as it has spotted food, you will know that the person yelling is screaming for her boyfriend to get some more stuff from the store even without hearing the words completely and you will know that the extra red flowers in the flower bed were just planted the other day and are fresh from the store, etc etc. etc. You'll also know how much force is needed to talk a person into something and you'll know so much about a situation you are in that you won't even know how you landed on your feet. Again.