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    Default EIE: mix signal much? be honest.

    Do you do it because you want to see how much someone will chase you, or do you do it because you don't know what you want? Or do you just like the attention? Or do you just like driving people crazy.

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    Hmm. but what to do.

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    I choose do nothing since I'm not even sure I want a relationship which is probably why I'm getting mixed signals from this person; they want to see if I'll push to get them. Hmmm. Nope. I think its probably more responsible if I just let it go. But its like every time I get one of these random cry-y texts I just blow up a little inside like whatdafuckdoIdo.

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    I guess that could have come off rude. but anyway, thanks for the reply.

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    All of these. Because the feelings about people are constantly changing (you're not sure whether you really like them or not and doubtful that they like you back) and you're measuring their interest and testing how they're going to react (if they're worthy in a way, as bad as it sounds). Also the attention. The only solution is for you to be very pushy and straightforward, otherwise nothing will ever come out of it. You should save yourself a headache if you're not truly interested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aisa View Post
    The more uncertain (or paradoxically certain) of you they feel - the more movement you'll see (uncertain - more whiney; certain - more bitchy/assholeish). It's a bit like with sand in an hourglass - it needs to keep moving for them to see, the moment it stops - they either decide that you don't care or decide you care too much. I wonder if it's ever possible to reach balance, from what I've seen things need to keep moving.

    There needs to be this undertow flow that says "you know it's good, but you know I'm strong and you can't mess with me".

    Just a personal opinion, sorry guys.
    Everything you said is 100% correct If it's not moving, then it doesn't exist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by McBain View Post
    Some EIEs can be a humungous pain in the ass and will forever get caught up in this mode you describe -- sometimes much worse. It's only recently as I've gotten older that I've purged that shit somewhat.

    Have you tried putting this person in a headlock?
    I have before. She loves it :3 . but not in the last few months.

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    Dammit. psuedo aggressor + extravert + catnmouse game = fuck youuuuuuuu. << joking joking
    No the thing is, its just driving me batty. We're illusory. I can see it working out with a Ti lead but not Fi. because my Ti will never work to suppliment that oh so cray cray Hidden Agenda. Poor thing. I wish I could be what this person wants but its like, aparently I can't. I'm pretty sure this EIE wants me to drive to their house and demand an audience.
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    I can't decide if I want to chase and deal with the emotional outbursts or stay away and stay friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carrina View Post
    I can't decide if I want to chase and deal with the emotional outbursts or stay away and stay friends.
    Draining your energy? Cut them out of your life.

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    Well its not very nice to do that but i guess thats usually a form of what ends up happening

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    Hmm... What kinda of emotional outbursts?

    Does the person have willingness to mature?
    Could be fun for a bit.

    I think dwelling on what you may not be able to offer someone in the future (in regards to socionics) isn't best idea.. If it's a decent friendship/relationship with room to grow, then it could be great.
    (I'm currently dating an ESE and it's going much better than relationships I've had with duals). But if it's a pain in the butt... Wellp, you'll get sick of persuing eventually if it's mostly one-sided.

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    I love driving people crazy? Not just in this context, that's just something that defines me as a person, and I guess bleeds into my love life?

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    Quote Originally Posted by carrina View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by McBain View Post
    Some EIEs can be a humungous pain in the ass and will forever get caught up in this mode you describe -- sometimes much worse. It's only recently as I've gotten older that I've purged that shit somewhat.

    Have you tried putting this person in a headlock?
    I have before. She loves it :3 . but not in the last few months.
    What's a headlock?

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    you get the idea.
    "Traffic lights and loneliness. Paper cans and tape cassettes. When the world feels like this. Static shocks and bitterness."

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    Quote Originally Posted by carrina View Post
    Do you do it because you want to see how much someone will chase you, or do you do it because you don't know what you want? Or do you just like the attention? Or do you just like driving people crazy.
    Which effect is it happening on you it's probably that one

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    Quote Originally Posted by wacey View Post
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    you get the idea.
    Definitely got the idea now, thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackburry View Post
    Hmm... What kinda of emotional outbursts?

    Does the person have willingness to mature?
    Could be fun for a bit.

    I think dwelling on what you may not be able to offer someone in the future (in regards to socionics) isn't best idea.. If it's a decent friendship/relationship with room to grow, then it could be great.
    (I'm currently dating an ESE and it's going much better than relationships I've had with duals). But if it's a pain in the butt... Wellp, you'll get sick of persuing eventually if it's mostly one-sided.
    ESE!? omg how do you do it. I've only been close to a few ESEs and I end up being driven crazy

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    Yeah, although I truly love EIEs, I'm really done ever dating them again. as a good friend once told me "EIE+ESI = Drama... because LIE calms down ESI and LSI calms down EIE"
    EIE + ESI = turbulent as fuck. Fun as it may be, it ends up dangerously. I just cant anymore.. i .. can't...

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    Quote Originally Posted by darya View Post
    All of these. Because the feelings about people are constantly changing (1.you're not sure whether you really like them or not 2.and doubtful that they like you back) and you're measuring their interest and testing how they're going to react (if they're worthy in a way, as bad as it sounds). Also the attention. The only solution is for you to be very pushy and straightforward, 3.otherwise nothing will ever come out of it. You should save yourself a headache if you're not truly interested.
    1. I was completely head over heals and interested. that changes after you reach the flip side. EIEs can't control themselves, and I can't control EIEs, or have no desire to.
    2. Thats never the case with EIEs ever. Its more like "the only solution is to be very pushy and straightforward" and I don't feel like it.
    3. Agreed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheWholeEnglish View Post
    I love driving people crazy? Not just in this context, that's just something that defines me as a person, and I guess bleeds into my love life?
    aw. see? thats why you guys are so cute. its hard to dislike EIEs. you guys are awesome.

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