First of all - hi to all of you who remember me because I haven't been here for a while. During that time I became a happy mum .
I'm asking for some help ...
I have some problem with dealing with pressure that my ESFp mother in law is putting on me. She's a very good person. She's willing to help, talk, she loves my baby and is very nice.
Still... I sometimes feel that I hate her. I'm really ashamed of that and I don't know what to do with this. How to deal with that. I quess it has a lot to do with her being Se type. I don't know how to react. When my baby was small she would just take her from my hands and play with her, leaving my alone. The baby didn't enjoy that either - she wanted to be with her mum - but still she would try to keep her. My heart was nearly breaking but I can't react in such situations, I don't know what to do. I know most mothers would appreciate that - but I don't. I was on the verge of crying when she just took her and went to the other house to show to her neighbours. Every time we are on the phone she says something that I perceive as pushiness - even though she is REALLy nice.
I'm trembling before Christmas eve.
What should I do? Can I say something that would be nice and make her understand that I don't want her to behave in such a way? Or how can I deal with it internally so that I don't feel such pain?
She's so much different that my ESFj mother - I can't even image her doing so. My mum is playful, sensitive to other people and would NEVER do anything like that - she would instantly notice my uneasiness.