imagine a friend/lover calmly, stiffly keeping you at arm's length with one hand, while passing you affectionate notes with the other
that should illustrate what i mean, in this case, by ambivalent emotional distance: silent affection paired with a demeanor incongruously distant and/or defensive
relation to type? victim style romance, sp first, ntr...?
i might add , there probably are distinctions in type between those who do this
consciously but unintentionally
consciously and intentionally
and distinctions between those who do this who are insecure vs confident