Specifically what other people do or say that have an uplifting effect, make you feel valued, etc.
We probably already have a thread about this somewhere, if not multiples, but with all the new people why not have a new one.
For myself, I have a narcissistic streak. I don't like being in the spotlight with lots of people looking at me, but I do like being paid attention to by individuals. I like when they recognize and comment on things that make me who I am (especially if they're good things, haha). I like knowing what people think of me, because it means I'm worth a thought, worth the time and the energy. This might be weird, but I like being analyzed; perhaps it is because I am so private, someone who respectfully investigates is actually appealing to me.
With that as a backdrop, in no particular order:
- sincere (but not over-the-top!) compliments
- gifts that meet a real need / use
- doing something for me that needs doing (e.g. my car could really use some cleaning)
- active listening when I do feel a need to express something
One reason I'm asking here is it'd be interesting to see if there are any patterns among the types here. Non-deltas can answer, too. I just put it here because it's more comfy.