Leading Ni - Leading Ne Partnership

[Maker of helmets]

I had a dream last night, which prompted me to think a little more about this
Those with dominant Ni may be potentially attractive to those with dominant Ne
It's like those with dominant Ni are looking for someone
who has the "magic" to draw them out of their hiddenness
Not everyone seems to possess the insight to draw those with dominant Ni out of their hiddenness
Dominant Ne may pick up on dominant Ni's hiddenness, and yet not decipher what is hidden
So dominant Ne may try to "smoke out" dominant Ni from
their rabbit hole, through provoking some kind of response
or otherwise "dry out" dominant Ni - wait until dominant Ni
"gives up", and emerges from the rabbit hole of themselves
As dominant Ni, what I really want is for my future partner to
wait long enough for me to emerge from my rabbit hole, of myself
My future partner is the one who cares enough about what is
hidden, to wait for me to emerge from the rabbit hole, of myself
I believe in waiting for the one unique and incomparable spirit with whom I will
enter into a durable and sustained partnership, mutually satisfying and desired
Embracing one another in our weakness is how we provide for one another in our strength
MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT FOR YOU; MY POWER IS MADE PERFECT IN YOUR WEAKNESS - 2 Corinthians 12:9
Thoughts and experiences are welcome
I welcome disagreement on any or all of the above interpretation (thumbs up)

[Iris]

MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT FOR YOU; MY POWER IS MADE PERFECT IN YOUR WEAKNESS - 2 Corinthians 12:9

That is one of my favorite verses. And the older I get, the more I realize how weak and ridiculous I am.

I believe in waiting for the one unique and incomparable spirit with whom I will
enter into a durable and sustained partnership, mutually satisfying and desired

I have heard of people believing that there is one person out there perfectly designed by God to complete them. But while God called his creation "good," He did not call it perfect. So I don't think we can expect perfection in our relationships any more than we expect perfection in the rest of creation. The more years that I exist in my relationships, the more I am aware of my own selfishness, and my own failings. My belief system teaches that only in Eternity with God, will all that is broken be made new.

So rather than bliss and perfection, what I tend to notice in my life is God's mercy, and the mercy of my loved ones as I fumble along. I don't want to disappoint, but I know I do. And to be with someone who loves you and forgives you in spite of your failings is a beautiful thing.

[Pookie]

I think anything that one cares about is their own responsibility for fostering. If someone can bring you out of your rabbit hole, good youre lucky. But ultimately thats your own responsibility.

[Annihilation]

Lead Ni with lead Ne is a highly indecisive relationship, and Ne lead is completely useless to Ni lead and vice versa, hence why they are the ignoring functions of each other. It's Se that doesn't give up easily against Ni's resistance.

[Words]

Maybe, except it's not as easy as say ISTp and ESFp due to the secondary function. Basically any extroverted type can be handy to an introverted base to bring some object to the situation.

[Maker of helmets]

Socionics helped me to conceptualise how
Ne dominant and Ni dominant may need to
invest in developing weak Se/Si; for example
as Ni dominant I'm "searching" for Se dominant,
and Ne dominant is "searching" for Si dominant
so in order to make a partnership with Ne dominant
durable and sustained, mutually satisfying and desired,
as Ni dominant I may need to invest in developing weak Si
and I may need to be realistic about my expectation for
Ne dominant to invest in developing weak Se - this way
as Ni dominant I invest in developing an awareness
of my expectations as belonging to the "victim" romance style,
as well as an awareness of Ne dominant's expectations
as belonging to the "child-like" romance style
This is how Socionics has helped me
Comments on or disagreement with any or
all of the above interpretation is welcome

[Annihilation]

as Ni dominant I may need to invest in developing weak Si
and I may need to be realistic about my expectation for
Ne dominant to invest in developing weak Se - this way
as Ni dominant I invest in developing an awareness
of my expectations as belonging to the "victim" romance style,
as well as an awareness of Ne dominant's expectations
as belonging to the "child-like" romance style
This is how Socionics has helped me
Comments on or disagreement with any or
all of the above interpretation is welcome

You've lost me. Why would a Ni dominant try to develop Si or a Ne dominant try to develop Se? This wouldn't work because they're not preferred functions.

[Olly From Wally World]

You've lost me. Why would a Ni dominant try to develop Si or a Ne dominant try to develop Se? This wouldn't work because they're not preferred functions.

To be fair, it's the role function so we may try to get better at it to meet others expectations. They are in the Super ego which is the area of shoulds and we are less helpless with the role than the vulnerable. In a way, IEI, for example, may try to be more like SEI and vice versa. Not saying I necessarily agree with what he's said though.

[Pookie]

Socionics helped me to conceptualise how
Ne dominant and Ni dominant may need to
invest in developing weak Se/Si; for example
as Ni dominant I'm "searching" for Se dominant,
and Ne dominant is "searching" for Si dominant
so in order to make a partnership with Ne dominant
durable and sustained, mutually satisfying and desired,
as Ni dominant I may need to invest in developing weak Si
and I may need to be realistic about my expectation for
Ne dominant to invest in developing weak Se - this way
as Ni dominant I invest in developing an awareness
of my expectations as belonging to the "victim" romance style,
as well as an awareness of Ne dominant's expectations
as belonging to the "child-like" romance style
This is how Socionics has helped me
Comments on or disagreement with any or
all of the above interpretation is welcome

If both types are creative subtypes, the Role function develops stronger. Which would help this, in theory. Though there's agitation connotated to someone expecting your role from you regularly.

[PistolShrimp]

Eh. I think Ne-doms want someone who can help them chill but still get things done, and Ni-doms want someone who can show them cool things and get them off of their asses. Doesn't mean we can't help each other in other ways or be close in a relationship. I just think that both Ni and Ne doms, in theory, fit best with a partner who is easy to read, as their minds are already so wrapped up in abstractions. An Ne-base may get caught up in prying an Ni-base out of their shell, sure, but will probably tire of it and move onto something else for a while. I think it benefits both partners to be direct and open with each other in any sort of relationship.

[Beautiful sky]

Why can't everyone just be in an ideal relationship and be with their dual?

[Maker of helmets]

Maybe what I mean is simply that if you want to invest in making an
Ne-Ni dominant partnership work, then you can acknowledge that in strict
relation to the functions you are not one another's natural "dual", and yet
there is still the potentiality for you both to invest in understanding
what the function of a "dual" really is - because duality is when your
valued and strong functions complement one another's valued and weak functions
and surely there is still the possibility to COMPLEMENT one another, even
if in strict relation to the functions you are not one another's natural "dual"

[Iris]

Maybe what I mean is simply that if you want to invest in making an
Ne-Ni dominant partnership work, then you can acknowledge that in strict
relation to the functions you are not one another's natural "dual", and yet
there is still the potentiality for you both to invest in understanding
what the function of a "dual" really is - because duality is when your
valued and strong functions complement one another's valued and weak functions
and surely there is still the possibility to COMPLEMENT one another, even
if in strict relation to the functions you are not one another's natural "dual"

Well, just to contribute one more observation, Ne base makes me tired, and Si dual seeking makes me anxious and tired.

If you found that comment depressing or annoying, that is the effect my remarks often have on my Ne dominant friends.