That's between me and the person concerned...very much so.
Your shadow is only the antithesis of the creative process–your "sparring partner" who makes your life exciting. It forces you to weed out anything wrong with your design and to look at what you're trying to ignore. Its sacred function is to force you to work through your dark side, so its energy can be released in appropriate ways. Then, it blesses you with its spiritual gift: it releases your elan vital. Your shadow is very much like managing and loving a hyperactive child. We learn to express our true feelings in safe settings, see them operate, forgive ourselves and others, and learn to accept it all, over and over...until all our energies are balanced and can be used for good. This is integration.