Results 1 to 28 of 28

Thread: INFjs initiating new friendships

  1. #1
    yeves's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2014
    TIM
    Si 6 spsx
    Posts
    1,259
    Mentioned
    38 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default INFjs initiating new friendships

    how much do you relate to this description?


    As a creative intuitive type and as a strategist, the EII doesn't miss an opportunity to become close to the people and quickly bridges the interpersonal distances. As a declaring type, who is sure of his/her rightness and oriented at close spatial-temporal relationships, and as a positivist and an evolutionary type, the EII uses any opportunity to become close to others, to introduce positive notes into their relations, and to show him/herself off in the best possible light. Towards this goal, EII's creative manipulative intuition of possibilities comes up with a myriad of approaches and techniques, helping the EII to quickly become liked and gain positive consideration of others. In this respect, EII's creative Ne works as a "set of master keys" which allows him or her to find an individual approach to almost anyone. The EII is almost always able to spot something positive, interesting, and attractive in a new person and will use any occasion to say something pleasant and complementary, to show his/her own emotional sensitivity, judiciousness, and prudence, to receive and welcome the new person, to offer them help, services, or needed information. Sometimes the EII as a constructivist type may resort to logically framing his intentions in order to get close with someone.

    Quite frequently Dostoyevsky ends up imposing his/her friendly and welcoming attitude and services on other people in the process. And towards which purpose does the EII do this? As a positivist "program" ethical declarative type, the EII seeks to establish strong, long-lasting relations with those around him. Being surrounded by friends and people who hold him in positive regard elevates the EII's self-assessment on the aspect of +Fi – every new friendship, every new positive association the EII can view as something that is actively positive and beneficial for him/herself.* As a pragmatist-objectivist of Delta quadra, the EII doesn't miss out on opportunities to strike up and acquaintance and is potentially beneficial for him/herself. Towards this purpose, the EII aims to tell of something that is pleasant and agreeable, to reward others with a compliment or kind word seemingly out of nowhere and for not much at all, to be of service, to bestow a "generous" advance, for which, however, the EII will later expect reciprocity.

    ... the EII opens up before a person the "treasures" of his soul, captivates him with unusual notions, statements, and ideas. He guesses the person's moods, sympathizes just at the right time, patiently listens to his conversation partners, and even offers some kind of (even minor) help. With all of this the EII can very quickly "win over" people – positively predispose them towards himself, gain their trust and confidence, bind them to himself, submit them to his will, and eventually draw them into his game and make them his "moral debtors".

    The rate of this strategic takeover and capture of a person will be monitored by the EII subconsciously and conducted on all of the aspects of his informational model.


    http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...Stratiyevskaya

  2. #2
    Moderator Reficulris's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    2,041
    Mentioned
    188 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Everyone knows deltas don't make friends; they're special flakes

    ignore me....

  3. #3

    Join Date
    Apr 2014
    Posts
    809
    Mentioned
    34 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Reficulris View Post
    Everyone knows deltas don't make friends; they're special flakes

    ignore me....
    You're right. INFjs don't make new friends. They never go out!

  4. #4
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    I love closeness and I check out my page here often to see who takes an interest in me by looking at my profile. I love to befriend people and have full trust in them. I help people out whenever I can. I also have no problems reaching out to those who are sad or upset to try to comfort them with support and talk them into feeling better

  5. #5
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by The Martrix View Post
    You're right. INFjs don't make new friends. They never go out!
    I don't go out to bars clubs ect but I've made lots of friends in my classes and work

  6. #6

    Join Date
    Apr 2014
    Posts
    809
    Mentioned
    34 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa View Post
    I don't go out to bars clubs ect but I've made lots of friends in my classes and work
    Neither do I very often. But my friends pull my arm so I must go. I have to take all the chances at socialising as I can get. I have no outside work or classes to go to.

  7. #7
    yeves's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2014
    TIM
    Si 6 spsx
    Posts
    1,259
    Mentioned
    38 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Reficulris View Post
    Everyone knows deltas don't make friends; they're special flakes

    ignore me....
    in that case you only need to pour in some milk and they'll swim together in a harmony circle

    Quote Originally Posted by The Martrix View Post
    You're right. INFjs don't make new friends. They never go out!
    there is no need to go out, they meet plenty of friends online

  8. #8
    Chains's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    2,308
    Mentioned
    65 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    .
    Last edited by Chains; 09-05-2015 at 04:07 AM.

  9. #9
    Chains's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    2,308
    Mentioned
    65 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    .
    Last edited by Chains; 09-05-2015 at 04:08 AM.

  10. #10

    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    TIM
    EII sx/so
    Posts
    205
    Mentioned
    14 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    I relate to it. Some ESTj friends told me that I get people to like me. I don't think that is true exactly; people who are open and reciprocate the friendliness can become friends with me. I think that mostly the types that are compatible with me can be "receptive" towards me.

    Many people tell me that I let them be themselves. Those people have either been my semi dual or dual.

  11. #11
    Landlord of the Dog and Duck Subteigh's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    TIM
    EII-Ne Sp/So
    Posts
    14,943
    Mentioned
    243 Post(s)
    Tagged
    2 Thread(s)

    Default

    The description is accurate for me.

    I would a further observation about me is that that I find it very difficult to explicitly call someone a "friend" or similar, except indirectly or in a roundabout way, unless I've known the person for a very long time or such a term has been openly acknowledged. I suppose such a thing seems like too much of an imposition...also too prone too contradiction and perhaps because I'm wary of stating such an opinion lightly. I think also the developing of a friendship should be as natural and as comfortable as falling asleep (not really an appropriate analogy).

    Perhaps it really is true that I see my only valuable attribute is my time...if I am a rock for those I love then perhaps eventually there will be mutual affection! ...of course it may even exist initially, but Time means I can appreciate that the other person doesn't just like one shade of me, and means that I don't have to expose too much of myself, heaven forbid.
    EII-Ne
    5w4 or 1w9 Sp/So

  12. #12
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Subteigh View Post
    The description is accurate for me.

    I would a further observation about me is that that I find it very difficult to explicitly call someone a "friend" or similar, except indirectly or in a roundabout way, unless I've known the person for a very long time or such a term has been openly acknowledged. I suppose such a thing seems like too much of an imposition...also too prone too contradiction and perhaps because I'm wary of stating such an opinion lightly. I think also the developing of a friendship should be as natural and as comfortable as falling asleep (not really an appropriate analogy).

    Perhaps it really is true that I see my only valuable attribute is my time...if I am a rock for those I love then perhaps eventually there will be mutual affection! ...of course it may even exist initially, but Time means I can appreciate that the other person doesn't just like one shade of me, and means that I don't have to expose too much of myself, heaven forbid.
    That's true for me too. I will rank a person in terms of how much I'm willing to share with them however I unlike my SEI friends don't call everyone I share stuff with a friend. Thoae emotionally close to me and I have established a bond only a few close circle of people are friends. It's like "prove to me you're a friend through the test of loyalty, support, and love.s

  13. #13
    lump's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    TIM
    Fi/Te 641 sp/sx
    Posts
    12,627
    Mentioned
    634 Post(s)
    Tagged
    3 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by yeves View Post
    how much do you relate to this description?


    As a creative intuitive type and as a strategist, the EII doesn't miss an opportunity to become close to the people and quickly bridges the interpersonal distances. As a declaring type, who is sure of his/her rightness and oriented at close spatial-temporal relationships, and as a positivist and an evolutionary type, the EII uses any opportunity to become close to others, to introduce positive notes into their relations, and to show him/herself off in the best possible light. Towards this goal, EII's creative manipulative intuition of possibilities comes up with a myriad of approaches and techniques, helping the EII to quickly become liked and gain positive consideration of others. In this respect, EII's creative Ne works as a "set of master keys" which allows him or her to find an individual approach to almost anyone. The EII is almost always able to spot something positive, interesting, and attractive in a new person and will use any occasion to say something pleasant and complementary, to show his/her own emotional sensitivity, judiciousness, and prudence, to receive and welcome the new person, to offer them help, services, or needed information. Sometimes the EII as a constructivist type may resort to logically framing his intentions in order to get close with someone.

    Quite frequently Dostoyevsky ends up imposing his/her friendly and welcoming attitude and services on other people in the process. And towards which purpose does the EII do this? As a positivist "program" ethical declarative type, the EII seeks to establish strong, long-lasting relations with those around him. Being surrounded by friends and people who hold him in positive regard elevates the EII's self-assessment on the aspect of +Fi – every new friendship, every new positive association the EII can view as something that is actively positive and beneficial for him/herself.* As a pragmatist-objectivist of Delta quadra, the EII doesn't miss out on opportunities to strike up and acquaintance and is potentially beneficial for him/herself. Towards this purpose, the EII aims to tell of something that is pleasant and agreeable, to reward others with a compliment or kind word seemingly out of nowhere and for not much at all, to be of service, to bestow a "generous" advance, for which, however, the EII will later expect reciprocity.

    ... the EII opens up before a person the "treasures" of his soul, captivates him with unusual notions, statements, and ideas. He guesses the person's moods, sympathizes just at the right time, patiently listens to his conversation partners, and even offers some kind of (even minor) help. With all of this the EII can very quickly "win over" people – positively predispose them towards himself, gain their trust and confidence, bind them to himself, submit them to his will, and eventually draw them into his game and make them his "moral debtors".

    The rate of this strategic takeover and capture of a person will be monitored by the EII subconsciously and conducted on all of the aspects of his informational model.


    http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...Stratiyevskaya

    ~

  14. #14
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Fastest way to see an EII and know the want your bond is demonstrate being hurt. She'll ask you about your feelings and then if she thinks you are in the right will support you by sticking up against others for you. I quickly testrd people here for that especially one person when I first came to the forum and found that human was mistyped then I went digging around for misconceptions and found a lot of people were typed based on impressions that were made into stereotypes. Yes you may be soft and sweet but that is not an EII...or you give that impression online and may not be that way in real life...whatever others see you. Fi is an information metabolism function. I judge all things based on a moral code and values. Not because I adhere to a religion because I made them throughout time so I emphasize this more than Si....the things in nature that is adjusted perceived and experienced in my mind

  15. #15
    The Quiet Individualist Waster's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Location
    UK
    TIM
    SLI-Si(H)5w6 sp/sx
    Posts
    355
    Mentioned
    37 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Some observations of a girl of INFJ Fi type

    *Whenever I show mute excitement, such as going 'Yaay' after having completed something, she'll laugh to try and uplift the mood
    *Whenever I talk about people in my family she'll display interest
    *If someone new joins the group she'll formally introduce herself quite quickly
    *She'll try to speak with everyone to maintain relationships with them
    *If someone's on their own she'll notice and try to bring them in
    *She's quite structured in an inflexible way
    For instance, she was doing a charity sky diving event to which I previously donated to but hadn't given the money. So I saw her one day in conversation with someone. I wanted to leave so I approached her with the money in anticipation that she'd take it and carry on with her conversation. But upon interrupting she seemed noticeably irritated but hid it behind politeness. She then proceeded to open her bag, open the folder containing the charity money and put it inside while asking if I enjoyed my recent holiday. I was rather perplexed.
    Last edited by Waster; 06-03-2014 at 10:43 AM.





    As we reach for the stars, we must put away childish things; gods, spirits and other phantasms of the brain. Reality is cruel and unforgiving, yet we must steel ourselves and secure the survival of our race through the unflinching pursuit of science and technology.
    - Stellaris

  16. #16

    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    TIM
    EII sx/so
    Posts
    205
    Mentioned
    14 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by StridingStrider View Post
    Some observations of a girl of INFJ Fi type

    *Whenever I show mute excitement, such as going 'Yaay' after having completed something, she'll laugh to try and uplift the mood
    *Whenever I talk about people in my family she'll display interest
    *If someone new joins the group she'll formally introduce herself quite quickly
    *She'll try to speak with everyone to maintain relationships with them
    *If someone's on their own she'll notice and try to bring them in
    *She's quite structured in an inflexible way
    For instance, she was doing a charity sky diving event to which I previously donated to but hadn't given the money. So I saw her one day in conversation with someone. I wanted to leave so I approached her with the money in anticipation that she'd take it and carry on with her conversation. But upon interrupting she seemed noticeably irritated but hid it behind politeness. She then proceeded to open her bag, open the folder containing the charity money and put it inside while asking if I enjoyed my recent holiday. I was rather perplexed.
    Sounds like me, and I understand her about the charity story. I believe it is because of Fi and that it is hard for us to focus on too many people at a time. I have behaved like this, and I always feel guilty and it's like I'm unsure where to direct my attention, so I ignore. I know it is rude, but no harm intended.

  17. #17
    netflix and don't touch me Emmym's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Location
    Midwest
    TIM
    EII-Ne
    Posts
    286
    Mentioned
    21 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    Very much relate to all of this! Especially in large groups. In smaller ones, there's not as much point, I suppose because they're often so tightly-knit.

  18. #18
    netflix and don't touch me Emmym's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Location
    Midwest
    TIM
    EII-Ne
    Posts
    286
    Mentioned
    21 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by The Martrix View Post
    You're right. INFjs don't make new friends. They never go out!
    Also, could not be less true! Plenty of EIIs I know go out and have tons of friends (one EII I was friends with in HS had too many friends and always hurt my feelings by choosing them over me, lol). And I like to go out and do things, I just don't like going out just to stand around or pretend to have a good time. I love to shop and go to the movies but often do so alone. I can honestly saying that meeting new people and making friends is very easy for me, just not something I consider a "priority." Whereas I know EIEs and ESEs who consider it a MAJOR priority and yet don't seem to be ABLE to actually make friends with people. They're always going out to "brunch" or making plans with others whom they have no connection with.

  19. #19

    Join Date
    Apr 2014
    Posts
    809
    Mentioned
    34 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Emmym View Post
    Also, could not be less true! Plenty of EIIs I know go out and have tons of friends (one EII I was friends with in HS had too many friends and always hurt my feelings by choosing them over me, lol). And I like to go out and do things, I just don't like going out just to stand around or pretend to have a good time. I love to shop and go to the movies but often do so alone. I can honestly saying that meeting new people and making friends is very easy for me, just not something I consider a "priority." Whereas I know EIEs and ESEs who consider it a MAJOR priority and yet don't seem to be ABLE to actually make friends with people. They're always going out to "brunch" or making plans with others whom they have no connection with.
    Could be a subtype difference. My EII sister has little interest in meeting new people. She's the Fi subtype. She's more interested in harmonising the relationships she already has than making new connections.

  20. #20
    Let's go to fairyland Minde's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Amongst the stars
    TIM
    EII/INFj E9w1sp
    Posts
    4,078
    Mentioned
    89 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Such combative terminology: "manipulative" "imposing" "bind" "submit" "game" "debtors" "takeover" "capture" etc.

    Anyway, this seems fairly accurate. I wonder how people view that in me, so it's interesting seeing it written out from this perspective. I see most of that all playing out in my communities.

    It's totally true that I seek to create and foster good positive relationships both between myself and others and amongst others. For sure, I have a relatively small circle of close relationships, ones that see a lot of me, and in "unguarded" ways. Lots of interactions wear me out, so by necessity, for my own well-being, I end up that way. But my general rule of thumb is to stay good with as many as possible and I act in ways to encourage that. I want to think well of them, and I want them to think well of me. It's pretty much habit, as are those kinds of behaviors described in the article.

    Sometimes it surprises me how... anti-relationship people are. Or can be. I mean, I've gotten used to it over the years. But, to me, the most productivity happens when everyone is getting along and communicating well. When I try to get people to get along better (outrightly or, more commonly, in more subtle ways as described in that article), often it's not for my direct benefit at all (though I certainly recognize various potentials for the future that could benefit me). When the "machinery" of people is running smoothly, everyone benefits. The overall quality of life, mine included indirectly, rises.

    Obviously that's not going to fully happen so long as there's injustice and pain in the world. And I can't end it all. But I am wired in such a way that I try to make the world better in this one way. (erm, that sounds pompous a bit, I guess - sorry)

    With just about everybody, I can figure out how to have a peaceable relationship if not actual friendship. To me, it's just good sense.

    I don't usually aim to meet new people, and sometimes when I imagine the energy expenditure I hesitate to go into environments that might tax me. But I'm not opposed to it really, either. People are both messy and wonderful. I have a lot of friends in the sense that I get along with and have mutually positive relations with many.
    INFj / EII / FiNe
    ()


    "Fairy Tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten." - G.K. Chesterton

    "Have courage and be kind." - Cinderella's mom

  21. #21
    Seriously Judicious Emotivist Eliza Thomason's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Location
    eastern U.S.
    TIM
    ENFp, IEE
    Posts
    2,520
    Mentioned
    233 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Nessie View Post
    ... I'm pretty good at noticing someone's potential or what's special about them. I don't really reach out to others in order to make friends very often, honestly.... I will wait for others to talk to, or approach me first most of the time, which has been how most of my friendships have formed. .....unless someone looks sad and alone in the corner, then I'd probably try to figure out what's wrong. I tend to always befriend the weird loners in the corner. They are usually pretty interesting anyway.

    I am very hesitant to call people friends. I usually wait for the other person to say we're 'friends' first. Once I do befriend someone, I usually consider them a friend for life, even if I haven't talked to them in years. I've never been one to have a lot of friends. I'd rather have a few friends I have something in common with and that I can form a deeper understanding with, than a lot of friends. I do try to be nice to everyone, though, because every is fighting their own battle.
    A lot of this is similar to me. Bits of it not so much - like, "I guess I'm not very animated or expressive with my feelings" -- that and the rest of what you said is reminding me of the EIIs I know. The similarity in our ways might be because we are Mirrors. Maybe!

  22. #22
    . willekeurig's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    1,512
    Mentioned
    70 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    I bolded the parts I relate to and put the ones I don't in italics. In general I guess I have/use a lot of "skills" / techniques described here. But the part about having warm feelings and wanting to include just about everyone is very off. I do take active initiative to get to know people I see as worthy, but the vast majority of people don't interest me in any way and I generally put no energy into being nice to them, even in situations where it would be beneficial for myself (like classmates who I'll have to deal with for several years etc).

    " As a creative intuitive type and as a strategist, the EII doesn't miss an opportunity to become close to the people and quickly bridges the interpersonal distances. As a declaring type, who is sure of his/her rightness and oriented at close spatial-temporal relationships, and as a positivist and an evolutionary type, the EII uses any opportunity to become close to others, to introduce positive notes into their relations, and to show him/herself off in the best possible light. Towards this goal, EII's creative manipulative intuition of possibilities comes up with a myriad of approaches and techniques, helping the EII to quickly become liked and gain positive consideration of others. In this respect, EII's creative Ne works as a "set of master keys" which allows him or her to find an individual approach to almost anyone. The EII is almost always able to spot something positive, interesting, and attractive in a new person and will use any occasion to say something pleasant and complementary, to show his/her own emotional sensitivity, judiciousness, and prudence, to receive and welcome the new person, to offer them help, services, or needed information. Sometimes the EII as a constructivist type may resort to logically framing his intentions in order to get close with someone.

    Quite frequently Dostoyevsky ends up imposing his/her friendly and welcoming attitude and services on other people in the process. And towards which purpose does the EII do this? As a positivist "program" ethical declarative type, the EII seeks to establish strong, long-lasting relations with those around him. Being surrounded by friends and people who hold him in positive regard elevates the EII's self-assessment on the aspect of +Fi – every new friendship, every new positive association the EII can view as something that is actively positive and beneficial for him/herself.* As a pragmatist-objectivist of Delta quadra, the EII doesn't miss out on opportunities to strike up and acquaintance and is potentially beneficial for him/herself. Towards this purpose, the EII aims to tell of something that is pleasant and agreeable, to reward others with a compliment or kind word seemingly out of nowhere and for not much at all, to be of service, to bestow a "generous" advance, for which, however, the EII will later expect reciprocity.

    ... the EII opens up before a person the "treasures" of his soul, captivates him with unusual notions, statements, and ideas. He guesses the person's moods, sympathizes just at the right time, patiently listens to his conversation partners, and even offers some kind of (even minor) help. With all of this the EII can very quickly "win over" people – positively predispose them towards himself, gain their trust and confidence, bind them to himself, submit them to his will, and eventually draw them into his game and make them his "moral debtors".

    The rate of this strategic takeover and capture of a person will be monitored by the EII subconsciously and conducted on all of the aspects of his informational model.


    http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...Stratiyevskaya "
    Last edited by willekeurig; 11-22-2014 at 01:13 AM.
    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    Axis of Evil: Iran, Iraq, North Korea and Agarina
    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa Darmandzhyan
    Agarina does not like human beings; she just wants a pretty boy toy.
    Johari Nohari

  23. #23
    Owl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2014
    TIM
    NF
    Posts
    784
    Mentioned
    84 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    I am not comfortable with initiating interaction, it makes me feel pretty insecure and weird... although I can't say I don't like making new friends, they just have to come and start the convo with me
    INFP
    4w3-5w6-1w9
    Hyper introverted extrovert
    Melancholic

  24. #24

    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Belgium
    TIM
    9w1
    Posts
    2,775
    Mentioned
    153 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    i relay to this
    unholy water sanguine addiction

  25. #25
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    I show acceptance of my SOs friends and family with hugs <3

  26. #26
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    I'm an emotional person and I get involved personally in the lives of people that i choose to care about and these choices are made even when I have very little information about who they are as a person because I trust people and because I give them the benefit of the doubt. I look to the positives and let time bring out and deal with the negatives as they come. This allows me to be trusting it also means that often I'm unable to protect myself emotionally this is a major reason why I now refuse to join any chat room because of the insincerity of effectual connection, lack of tenderness that can be demonstrated when people are in a room with people they don't care about. And I want to protect my own emotions and make genuine connections.
    Last edited by Beautiful sky; 11-21-2014 at 08:35 PM.

  27. #27
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Van Gogh wanted to make a community of artisrs, so that they could hang out be merry, share knowledge and perspectives, to be open and inviting so he invited Gauguin and other artists to south France and though he was much like me tempermental and reactive according to the expressions of his values he was nevertheless the one who welcomed friendship and love. I am exactly the same way. My home is a comfortable place where people exist as they are and those who want to change themselves can find my support and motivation

  28. #28
    laurenl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2014
    Location
    Portobello Road
    TIM
    Ne-EII
    Posts
    3
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    I have done a lot of reading up on the EII type, and I can relate to almost all of it. I still don't know if I consider myself to be one, but it's the description that best fits me. Anyway, I find it hard to make what I consider true friends; that is, people that are interested in sharing their deep thoughts and are at least half-way interested in mine (Sorry if that sounds a little bitter, but I often feel like even some of my closest friends are not interested in what I feel or my thoughts on things).

    Bluebird: I am very hesitant to call people friends. I usually wait for the other person to say we're 'friends' first. Once I do befriend someone, I usually consider them a friend for life, even if I haven't talked to them in years. I've never been one to have a lot of friends. I'd rather have a few friends I have something in common with and that I can form a deeper understanding with, than a lot of friends. I do try to be nice to everyone, though, because every is fighting their own battle.
    I agree with Bluebird, especially when I consider someone a friend (which is not often), I will always consider them a friend. I do try to be pleasant to everyone I meet, but I can be somewhat impersonal, I suppose. I would rather know more about them than let them know more about me; most of the time, they're not that interested anyway lol.

    But I am a loyal friend; you can always count on me, and I'll do anything I can to help you.

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •