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    Default Deriving joy from fixing and maintaining things

    This is kind of an 'easy'/simple thread, about ESFjs, and comparing them with myself, INTj. The goal is to seek your comments about the following thoughts - do you agree? Does this make sense?


    INTjs do not mind fixing of maintaining something mechanical / logical things, as they get to use logic, specifically logic of structures - how things work. Making something work well is rewarding. Even more so, it is like that bit about how "if you ask an INTj to make a chair for one adult, they will make if strong enough for one adult elephant".


    Now, apply this with ethical/emotional situatoins with ESFj.

    I think one ESFj I know was really into that -- she sort of 'got off' on cheering people up. I was more melancholy at the time, and she commented how she enjoyed making me feel better. But even something like this -- and it wasn't serious, but sort of for fun (you know what i mean) -- "I sort of hope (person) does make you upset, so that I can cheer you up again!". The point is, that maintaining, and repairing, emotional/ethical relationships is rewarding.

    It makes the other person feel useful, and it is "what I do", so to say. It is like asking Shaq if he wouldn't mind dunking a basketball. (Asking him to shoot free throws would probably be like me talking about emotions, with emotion and empathy).


    So, does that seem right?

    I suppose this is an investigation into duality, but also something about ESFjs that I wasn't quite certain about.
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    I agree, Fe people love watching me suffer as i drown in F problems while they tell me that my problems are nothing. they smile at me, and I think this smile is more an expression of their pride in being useful than anything else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slava
    I think this smile is more an expression of their pride in being useful than anything else.
    Sad

    But, it's written that Ti people seek the place of the individual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Slava
    I agree, Fe people love watching me suffer
    Hmm, that just sounds funny
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington
    Quote Originally Posted by Slava
    I think this smile is more an expression of their pride in being useful than anything else.
    Sad

    But, it's written that Ti people seek the place of the individual.
    ? What does that mean?
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    I interpreted it as compassion
    -Slava


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