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    I'm really curious after reading the Si-polr ENFj thread, and their discomfort with naked bodies and functions or whatever.

    What's it like?? Do you really want an LSI to tie you up and beat you? Or is that a totally misdirected stereotype that's meant only for deltas?

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    tied up beatings was very popular pasttime amongst the alphas i befriended last summer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    I'm really curious after reading the Si-polr ENFj thread, and their discomfort with naked bodies and functions or whatever.

    What's it like?? Do you really want an LSI to tie you up and beat you? Or is that a totally misdirected stereotype that's meant only for deltas?
    one LSI-Se I've been with was quite the opposite : he wasn't into tying ppl up; he acted aggressive and stuff more on a social level. Sexually he definitely had expectations for a dominatrix. I couldn't really squeeze socionics in there to be honest ...cause that's not my picture of EIE. But I've often heard Beta Rationals are into bdsm...
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    OK, but I'm interested in the EIE POV... personally my experiences with agressors has not been anything close to bdsm, and I'm leaning more towards the idea that it's Fi and delta that likes structured role playing and its attribution to beta rationals is totally wrong. BUT without hearing from EIE I might have only half the picture.

    Plus I've had experiences like these with EIEs ~

     


    *after* going down on me, members of beta quadra have responded like this:

    SLE: "suck my cock" - as blunt and crude as possible, pulling out his dick
    LSI: "I like blowjobs" - "proper" but to the point, no shame about his body

    EIE: "are you grossed out by bjs?" - ?? definitely self-conscious about his privates.

    The same EIE also told me once to "beat his dick around, make it behave." Unfortunately as a fellow victim, that didn't turn me on at all.


    Also, I have a feeling that no EIEs are going to share


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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    Fi and delta that likes structured role playing
    i liked ur post for the tmi but just ftr i cant vouch for Fi being into that.

    i can't speak to what Si polrs are like in bed but if squeamishness or self consciousness are the norm thats uncomfortable to me. but i don't get that impression from what entjs on the forum have said. the isfj i dated had a vibe like the estp you mentioned but i don't. but i think he watched a lot of porn.

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    LOL This thread is wonderful.

    I don't believe I've ever said the words 'I like blow jobs.'

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    However in regards to BDSM.

    Yes. It happens. Though I'm not sure that is type related.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hemoglobin View Post
    However in regards to BDSM.

    Yes. It happens. Though I'm not sure that is type related.
    so which side of the fence are u

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    Quote Originally Posted by AshSun View Post
    so which side of the fence are u
    Switch. With natural dominant tendencies.

    It depends however on the dynamic. I've found myself in submissive roles.

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    BDSM doesn't start and stop at 'beating the shit' out of somebody. It can be a long and slow courtship dance of mental fortitude and aggression; posturing. Manipulation, cornering, and taking control of the other person.

    When it is done healthily is can be incredibly sensual and fulfilling.

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    What is it with personality forums and BDSM?

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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    What's it like?? Do you really want an LSI to tie you up and beat you? Or is that a totally misdirected stereotype that's meant only for deltas?
    Misdirected stereotype
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    betas should be kept in zoos for children to stare and throw pop corn at.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ainfigur View Post
    What is it with personality forums and BDSM?
    'Cos people with BDSM tendencies have personalities, those who do not have them are personality-less.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    I'm really curious after reading the Si-polr ENFj thread, and their discomfort with naked bodies and functions or whatever.

    What's it like?? Do you really want an LSI to tie you up and beat you? Or is that a totally misdirected stereotype that's meant only for deltas?
    As an EIE, I was extremely uncomfortable being naked for many many years. I don't know if it is type related, or being raised in an extreme christian fundamentalist family or both. It wasn't until I had enough experience (quite a few years) and genuine positive feedback before I became comfortable with being naked. Now I"m not a nudist or anything, but I have no issues with being naked or being seen naked.

    As for the "victim" mentality in terms of relationships and BDSM, I don't have a simple answer. I definitely find myself most stimulated by a strong resilient partner who can provide a sense of back and forth in terms of power and control. I was in a relationship with someone with which we did play around with BDSM a little bit (She was INFp), but she was completely submissive and it wasn't fulfilling for me. I am drawn to someone whose submission I earn, and who can earn it from me. I don't know if that makes sense, it's like playing a competitive board game. If your opponent is terrible it's usually a boring game. I lost desire to play around with BDSM with her, but found I still had occasional BDSM fantasies involving an LSI.

    I don't mean to cast relationships or sex into a form of competition, I don't want to give the wrong idea, but like dancing- somebody has to lead.
    Hope that helps...

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    ENFjs are troopers. They will do what must be done without regard to their physical heath.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hemoglobin View Post

    I don't believe I've ever said the words 'I like blow jobs.'
    You're a chick though... right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Martrix View Post
    ENFjs are troopers. They will do what must be done without regard to their physical heath.
    That's true.

    And they can be very sweet and devoted to your pleasure in a victim-victim relationship.

    BUT they sometimes really need a sensor to smack them up the head and make them realize that whatever they are so tense about and allowing to dictate their behavior is totally unimportant. Applies to LIE too.

    i.e just because YOU're uncomfortable with your body doesn't mean you have to crack down on everyone who is comfortable with their sexuality and make it a moral thing. EIEs have the charisma to influence other people on these matters, but not the logic.

    I say this out of having a lot EIE elders in my family cracking down on the younger generation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    Do you really want an LSI to tie you up and beat you? Or is that a totally misdirected stereotype that's meant only for deltas?
    Holy fuck my spleen the irony is to good and the fact you asked i wish you had your own comedy show 10/10 would watch

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    Quote Originally Posted by 5dolladogsoup View Post
    Holy fuck my spleen the irony is to good and the fact you asked i wish you had your own comedy show 10/10 would watch
    lol?

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    Quote Originally Posted by blood moon View Post
    You're a chick though... right?
    Yes, though I dislike oral in general.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hemoglobin View Post
    BDSM doesn't start and stop at 'beating the shit' out of somebody. It can be a long and slow courtship dance of mental fortitude and aggression; posturing. Manipulation, cornering, and taking control of the other person.

    When it is done healthily is can be incredibly sensual and fulfilling.
    i wouldn't have said it better myself!

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