Member Questionnaire 1 (Joy)What is beauty? What is love?
To me something is beautiful if it really grabs my attention and draws my focus into it. The quietness of other thoughts and the elimination of outside distractions allow me to experience the subject that I find beautiful. Anything less than that is just pretty, peaceful, or interesting.What are your most important values?
"Love" has an infinite number of definitions, so many in fact that the word is nearly meaningless. There's a type of unconditional love that I have had for very few people.
Honesty, kindness, freedom, peace.Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
Taoism (though not the religion with all of deities). I find it simple, peaceful, and balanced.Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
Perhaps war is sometimes necessary and militaries certainly are, however, I prefer not to have anything to do with them.What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
Power can mean strength, influence, authority, or energy. Authority is the least significant of all of those.
Depends who I'm talking to. Usually when I get into long conversations about one particular thing it's because the other person is quite interested in it, but otherwise my conversations with people typically bounce around from subject to subject quite a bit. That aside, it seems to me that my longest conversations are about business/work, relationship crap, my kids, or food/cooking. When I'm lucky they're about spiritual, scientific, or philosophical subjects.Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
Definitely. Extremely.What do you think of daily chores?
fgaldkngasl;nasldnfasdfn;sdfBooks or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
(This is the one subject that makes me feel like I suck at life.)
I read mostly nonfiction. The most recent book I purchased was Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD, and the most recent book I read was The Happiest Baby on the Block. I haven't read fiction since the morning sickness in my pregnancy eased up enough for me do stuff beside work and lay in bed reading. What little fiction I read in the last decade was the Eragon series and the Sword of Truth series.What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
I really enjoy the most recent Hobbit movie. Doctor Who is my favorite TV show. I tend to like stuff that's scifi, fantasy, epic shonen anime, and cop dramas that aren't too dark.
idk?Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
In the woods, at a body of water (assuming it's not too crowded), or somewhere really high up with a view. Probably mostly in the woods.What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
My choice in romantic partners is often considered my Achilles heal by those who know me personally. When I worked in food service they would have said that I'm slow because I care more about doing things well than doing them fast and most of them just wanted to do as little as possible as fast as they could. Some people complain that I'm too literal or too solution oriented (as opposed to sympathetic).What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
I dislike that I'm not always tidy and organized. I get mostly caught up once in a while, but when I get super busy or otherwise overwhelmed/down I fall behind on chores again and projects start to pile up. Once that happens it usually takes a long time before I feel sufficiently motivated to get caught up again. Part of the reason is that I find reminders of all sorts of unpleasant things when I clean (though life has been pretty damn good lately so sometimes I think I should just throw away almost everything I own and start over). Another part of the reason is physical.
I'm honest, sincere, kind, fair, positive, even tempered, intelligent, personable, and practical.In what areas of your life would you like help?
Cleaning! That's really about it. I wouldn't complain if I had a personal trainer and a chef that shopped made me healthy food so I could focus more on work and still have a healthy lifestyle, but that would be a luxury, not a necessity. I can certainly do that stuff for myself. I'm just usually too busy and tired because I work a lot and take care of a baby while I'm not working.Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Yes. It's usually because I pick a bad path and then stick with it for too long, whether it's a relationship or a job. Sometimes it's physical.What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I get along best with really laid back people. High positive energy is always nice to be around, too. I don't particularly enjoy people who are aggressive, hostile, caustic (they usually refer to themselves as "snarky"), egocentric, petty, dishonest, and exceedingly negative.How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
Nothing right now! God, I just want make up sleep...If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I very much appreciate my boyfriend for his honesty, kindness, laid back demeanor, responsibility, consideration, and help with the baby.
I struggled so much and for so long, and now things are just peaceful and happy for me. I want to teach my kids that if they surround themselves with good people and appreciate the good in those people and in their lives, they're going to experience a lot of joy. A happy life is simply a series of happy moments. Let yourself be happy. (I think it's important to clarify that when I say "happy" I primarily mean content with the ability to experience joy often. I'm not talking about some phantom happiness that's tied to future success.)A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
I also want them to learn to treat others and themselves with respect and to make good decisions (and I don't feel like writing an essay on what that means right now).
Outward: None. Inward: To each their own.Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
idk and socialismHow do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
I just click with them and then we hang out.How do you behave around strangers?
I think I talk to them more than the average person? I'm polite and helpful more than anything.