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    are there correlations?

    are 2s especially giving? 8s especially dominant? etc etc etc

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    personal experience and guesswork:

    dominant + active: 3 7 8
    dominant + passive: 1 5 6
    submissive + active: 2 3 7
    submissive + passive: 4 6 9

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    2's give the best oral
    3's have wide range of refined skill set
    4's most creative sadomasochism
    5's grotesque power contraptions
    6's great at mixing it up- hot then cold, dominant then weak
    7's best at loving/sexing you... so that you can love/sex them!
    8's perfect for those who lack initiative
    9's make the pleasure so good that you forget that they are there
    1's always ready to give/experience it in tight or strange orifices

    j/k

    Actually, I wonder how instinct stackings play in bed...

    I've read online like... sx lasts saying that sex isn't about "intense merging" for them; like it's all about sheer physical pleasure or some sort of companionship feeling. Some sx-lasts I know in real life actually give me vibes of being asexual.

    W/ so-last I imagine sx/sp and sp/sx to be different...? Like sp/sx be more focused on the subjective feeling the emotionally interactive aspects parts of sex were bringing, and sx/sp more focused on the sustaining the mutual charge. I think with sp/sx I experience more of a "cut-off" feeling, like it's not about "us" ultimately, maybe more about what we are helping each other experience side by side.

    I'm sp-last and sp should be that "physical pleasure" realm but I don't know how that would affect things since all people do sex for physical pleasure... do they not? I do remember when dating an sp/sx he would get very finicky and particular about positions, etc, and I didn't care and wanted to just be more in the moment/flow (and we were duals.) Is that sp-last?
    Last edited by lemontrees; 03-06-2014 at 11:41 PM. Reason: just wanted to make sure that people knew I was kidding w/ the list at the top lol

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    1's will interrogate you about if you came or not in an attempt to be perfect
    2's will want to help you get there
    3's will be for public sex, otherwise it doesn't count
    4's will have crazy kinks so that way they are a unique lay
    5's will take notes on the mechanics
    6's will swap back and forth from dominant to submissive, depending on the day
    7's are most likely to be the straight up addicts
    8's are the ones that punch you in the face during
    9's will just do what you wanna do

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    Quote Originally Posted by Radio View Post
    personal experience and guesswork:

    dominant + active: 3 7 8
    dominant + passive: 1 5 6
    submissive + active: 2 3 7
    submissive + passive: 4 6 9
    What do you mean by 'dominant + passive' or 'submissive + active'?

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    Quote Originally Posted by epheme View Post
    What do you mean by 'dominant + passive' or 'submissive + active'?
    Power bottom + whatever the opposite of a power bottom is
    "And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it." -Roald Dahl

    http://forum.socionix.com/
    It's pretty cool

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    Some quick associations... I don't know if they are technically correct though.

    1's will take you

    2's will take care of your needs
    3's will take you to the limit
    4's will take you to hell
    5's will take you in the library, on a stack of books
    6's will let you take them, eventually
    7's will take you in a bathroom stall
    8's will take you from behind
    9's will take you to heaven

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    Quote Originally Posted by Radio View Post
    personal experience and guesswork:

    dominant + active: 3 7 8
    dominant + passive: 1 5 6
    submissive + active: 2 3 7
    submissive + passive: 4 6 9
    This is true for me. My last sex was with an eight. He was the shit. Honestly, best i ever had was esfp-s 8 and isfj-s 7. Thanks Radio.

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    Try with LSE, Eldanen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    Try with LSE, Eldanen.
    I did that once at a park. Wasn't that great. Of course it was just oral so maybe I need to do both to get the complete picture.

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    I don't give a shit about enneagram but I like this thread.
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    I heard that all enneagram types have sex. Is this true?

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    I heard that all enneagram types have sex. Is this true?
    All except type 4. They are too busy crying in their rooms to get the D.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eldanen View Post
    I did that once at a park. Wasn't that great. Of course it was just oral so maybe I need to do both to get the complete picture.
    Hope you checked what was his E-type through it.

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    1. male - lasts so long it's boring. female - never gets laid cause nobody's good enough.
    2. male - cunnilingus. female - birth control (SORRY PC PEOPLE I LOVE YOU).
    3. responds to penis enlargement emails, has breast implants, etc.
    4. performs interpretive dance prior to lovemaking
    5. has mastered the art of ironic nerdy flirtation
    6. gets STI tested after every new partner
    7. AIDS
    8. rape
    9. peaceful orgies

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vois View Post
    1. male - lasts so long it's boring. female - never gets laid cause nobody's good enough.
    2. male - cunnilingus. female - birth control (SORRY PC PEOPLE I LOVE YOU).
    3. responds to penis enlargement emails, has breast implants, etc.
    4. performs interpretive dance prior to lovemaking
    5. has mastered the art of ironic nerdy flirtation
    6. gets STI tested after every new partner
    7. AIDS
    8. rape
    9. peaceful orgies
    Can confirm all of these. Not from experience, obviously, because I'm E1 female. But I scan people's souls with my Fi so I know anyway.
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    Thanks, good responses all.

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    Sexual 4 - Seeking Intimacy/Intensity

    • Udit Patel "Infatuation (Ichazo's "Competition")"

      Sexual Fours focus their envy and hypersensitivity in their intimate relationships. They are perhaps the most emotionally intense type of the Enneagram, which is both their gift and their potential downfall. They possess both a capacity and a desire for profound intimacy, and they derive tremendous insight into human nature through the ups and downs of their romantic lives. They have a sultry, sullen quality that can be attractive and mysterious, or at times, off-putting to others. Sexual Fours pour their energy and attention into the object of their affection, often becoming infatuated or even obsessed, sometimes after only one meeting. Sexual chemistry triggers their powerful imaginations, leading them to create enormous expectations of potential partners. Sexual Fours tend to be drawn to people who possess qualities and talents that they believe they lack. They want to complete themselves by associating or merging with the valued other. But this almost never works, so they may also end up envying and resenting their romantic partner for unintentionally reminding them of what they feel they are missing. In any case, Sexual Fours go through tremendous shifts of feeling about their loved ones—everything from idolization to unbridled hatred. Generally speaking, this type is aware of these feelings, including the dark ones, and finds ways to express them, sometimes in self-destructive ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aylen View Post
    Don't be envious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Don't be envious.
    Was just listening to this song and it seemed to fit as a response.

    Why oh why did I get to be 459 sx/sp ? It's karma I tell ya, karma...heh



    You give me the reason.
    You give me control.
    I gave you my purity.
    My purity you stole.
    Did you think I wouldn't recognize this compromise.
    Am I just too stupid to realize.
    Stale incense old sweat and lies lies lies


    It comes down to this.
    Your kiss.
    Your fist.
    And your strain.
    It gets under my skin.
    Within.
    Take in the extent of my sin


    You give me the anger.
    You give me the nerve.
    Carry out my sentence.
    I get what I deserve.
    I'm just an effigy to be defaced.
    To be disgraced.
    Your need for me has been replaced.
    And if I cant have everything well then just give me a taste.


    It comes down to this.
    Your kiss.
    Your fist.
    And your strain.
    It gets under my skin.
    Within.
    Take in the extent of my sin


    It's really not that bad.

    "When I ought to be thinking of heaven he will nail me to earth"

     







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    Quote Originally Posted by Aylen View Post
    Was just listening to this song and it seemed to fit as a response.

    It's really not that bad.
    I always prefered this song from that album:



    What does it say about my enneatype and quadra?

    Who knows.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vois View Post
    1. male - lasts so long it's boring. female - never gets laid cause nobody's good enough.
    2. male - cunnilingus. female - birth control (SORRY PC PEOPLE I LOVE YOU).
    3. responds to penis enlargement emails, has breast implants, etc.
    4. performs interpretive dance prior to lovemaking
    5. has mastered the art of ironic nerdy flirtation
    6. gets STI tested after every new partner
    7. AIDS
    8. rape
    9. peaceful orgies
    Ironically, the only two people I've known who had HIV were sixes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    I always prefered this song from that album:

    What does it say about my enneatype and quadra?

    Who knows.
    Do you really want to know? Cuz I'll tell ya...

    "When I ought to be thinking of heaven he will nail me to earth"

     







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    Quote Originally Posted by Aylen View Post
    Do you really want to know? Cuz I'll tell ya...
    Go for it

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Go for it
    k, sent you something...

    "When I ought to be thinking of heaven he will nail me to earth"

     







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    Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
    Actually, I wonder how instinct stackings play in bed...

    I've read online like... sx lasts saying that sex isn't about "intense merging" for them; like it's all about sheer physical pleasure or some sort of companionship feeling. Some sx-lasts I know in real life actually give me vibes of being asexual.

    W/ so-last I imagine sx/sp and sp/sx to be different...? Like sp/sx be more focused on the subjective feeling the emotionally interactive aspects parts of sex were bringing, and sx/sp more focused on the sustaining the mutual charge. I think with sp/sx I experience more of a "cut-off" feeling, like it's not about "us" ultimately, maybe more about what we are helping each other experience side by side.

    I'm sp-last and sp should be that "physical pleasure" realm but I don't know how that would affect things since all people do sex for physical pleasure... do they not? I do remember when dating an sp/sx he would get very finicky and particular about positions, etc, and I didn't care and wanted to just be more in the moment/flow (and we were duals.) Is that sp-last?
    ive been thinking about this. cuz my sp/sx instinct stacking is the thing i'm #1 most sure of.

    being in the moment/flow is important to me. so i don't think sp-firsts are necessarily finnicky. but i still want to change something if it isn't working at all. i will compromise some awkwardness/buzzkill if it leads to getting off.

    i don't really think of sex in terms of "merging," thats more a sometimes unfortunate byproduct of it lol.
    there is a transcendant feeling, but its not necessarily about 2 souls finding eachother or whatever sx sort of thing. its almost more like a connection with nature, as stupid as that sounds, or a connection with the uncivilized part of myself. i don't want to say its more personal/individual because that doesn't really feel right. more like a connection with archetype? "side-by-side" sounds like a clinical way to describe it from my pov.

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    7's and 8's are the shit

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    So I had amazing gay sex last night with an estp-s. The best part for me was when he sat on my face and stuck his balls in my mouth. He also looked down at me with this squinty eyed look of eightish aggression and dominance. I think part of the evening might have been motivated by my imbibement of tequila.

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    ...b/c I have an unfortunately visceral imagination, I literally felt balls in my mouth when I read your post, and it was only about half a minute after that when I realized why my mouth felt so weird.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
    ...b/c I have an unfortunately visceral imagination, I literally felt balls in my mouth when I read your post, and it was only about half a minute after that when I realized why my mouth felt so weird.
    You really don't want to hear a pay by play then.

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    Mmmmhhhhh why not revive this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
    I do remember when dating an sp/sx he would get very finicky and particular about positions, etc, and I didn't care and wanted to just be more in the moment/flow (and we were duals.) Is that sp-last?
    i believe this is true. matches up with my experience. sp types seem to have a certain way of doing things, habits, techniques when it comes to physical things and this seems to apply also to sex. this video makes me think of sp-last (shakira doesn't seem to be focused on her own body and not very 'precise' vs the guy)


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    Quote Originally Posted by Chae View Post
    Mmmmhhhhh why not revive this one.
    Someone would need to have had sex since the last post.
    Reason is a whore.

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    1s: Has never climaxed, has never done it with the lights on, or in any other position besides missionary. Needs alcohol first or feels too ashamed and dirty.
    2s: Makes your fantasies come true so they can snare you into a relationship. Tendencies to poke holes in the condoms.
    3s: Are so insecure about their performance that they can't get hard. They don't believe you when you say it's the biggest you've ever seen. Girls try to mimic pornos.
    4s: They suggest trying tantric yoga sex, or kama sutra
    5s: Virgins
    6s: They have a routine they stick with
    7s: Sex offender
    8s: Great in bed, even the rape is pretty decent
    9s: Not bad, not good
    LSI-Se 836 Sp/Sx

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuavaDrunk View Post
    Someone would need to have had sex since the last post.

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    Since we loooove dichotomies:

    S: 8w7, 8w9, 7w8, 7w6, cp6w7, 3w4, 1w2, 5w6

    M: 4w3, 4w5, 2w3, 2w1, 6w5, 6w7, cp6w5, 5w4, 3w2, 1w9, 9w1, 9w8

    That's all


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    Quote Originally Posted by Pole View Post
    3s: Are so insecure about their performance that they can't get hard. They don't believe you when you say it's the biggest you've ever seen. Girls try to mimic pornos.
    Lol, sad but true. I think 3's are huge on performative sex - they are often obsessed with sex cause it's cool, but at the same time there's always glass between you and the real experience - like looking at yourself through the eyes of your lover, if it makes sense.

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    People are often the opposite of their personality in bed

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    Quote Originally Posted by darya View Post
    Lol, sad but true. I think 3's are huge on performative sex - they are often obsessed with sex cause it's cool, but at the same time there's always glass between you and the real experience - like looking at yourself through the eyes of your lover, if it makes sense.
    Pragmatic tip: blindfold them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeremy View Post
    People are often the opposite of their personality in bed
    In the enneagram sense, that plays out as follows.

    1s get messy
    2s get selfish
    3s reveal their true selves
    4s toughen up
    5s get out of their damn mind
    6s stop worrying
    7s seek pain
    8s submit
    9s go craazyyyy

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