What do you call young maidens?

[Not A Communist Shill]

I've become slowly aware that to call this group of people girls is potentially creepy and patronising...and to call them women is potentially patronising and creepy. I can tell you that is wasn't a pleasant experience being called a chauvinist when referring to "my women".

It seems to me also that to refer to this particular ilk as maidens is possibly old-fashioned...and in some cases it turns out, even factual inaccurate! The only time I recall such a term not being registered with a strong level of puzzlement was when I was dressed as a pirate, where it was merely clocked with laughter.

This has been a wakeful dilemma for me...I hope that you can provide me with satisfaction!

[ashlesha]

damsels. bitches love being called damsels.

[Absurd]

I can tell you that is wasn't a pleasant experience being called a chauvinist when referring to "my women".

At least they didn't call you racist.

I usually start with: "hey you dumb people over there."

That reminds me. I one had a some people I know at my place, not particularly fond of them all and my cell phone rang, it was my best friend inquiring whether I want to go and get a drink, so I said: "In about 10 minutes, for I have these wankers here" in front of them.

There was a flash in the back of my head that I shouldn't say that, but whoops.

[Saberstorm]

dames - remember they are not damsels - dames - so what are they? They are mature married women who are still hot. It is the 1940's term for MILF.

[Not A Communist Shill]

I find that MILFs is generally an acceptable term for ladies of a certain age

[woofwoofl]

I go with girls, more fun and adorable than "women" and comes with less implicit responsibilities and expectations weighed on the person at the receiving end of the term. The "my" part is most likely what messed things up there, people don't need to be seen as other peoples' property. And as always, if someone tries hard enough to get pissed off at something, they'll be successful, so don't let the crazy drama get to you too much...

[Not A Communist Shill]

I personally despise both terms and I don't think I'd be good at utilising them

[woofwoofl]

Do you know them all by name? If so, you can address them one-by-one by name if you want (also would familiarize yourself with anyone you don't know yet, and vice-versa, just ask anyone you don't know what their name is); also, you can gesture towards the group itself and give them a "hey everybody" which also works

[Not A Communist Shill]

Oh with people I know, it's not an issue...it's more an annoyance that "girl" or "woman" always seems to have certain connotations

[Aquagraph]

If somebody accuses you to be a chauvinist without a proper reason, that person can be referred to as a cunt creature. However, "my" might sound creepily possessing in the right context.

Also imagine the demeanor that goes well with "Hey, girrls..! " In my native language at least this is a typical comment for certain types of classless lecherous people. It's a lot about non-verbal language and tones.

How do people react to "lady"? Can it sound to be referring to something too old? "Young lady" will probably sound patronizing to many.

We don't have an equivalent in Finnish so it's hard but I really want to use "doll" and pretend it's the 1950s. It's a bit dangerous, but the less familiar she is, the more rewarding a success would be.

[Aylen]

Sometimes I call my girls, bitches, but

 

[ashlesha]

girl and woman do both have certain connotations but given the limits you're bemoaning i think its unreasonable to complain about either.

i don't like "lady," it makes me think of ladies night at clubs or prissy teacups.

as for any other term..context, context, context.

i like being called "bitch" by other girls in a friendly way.

[Not A Communist Shill]

Referring to one of them as a "naughty minx" when you don't know them very well doesn't seem to be appreciated either

[Scapegrace]

Cunts, bitches, 'n whores.

[Aylen]

I like being called "woman" sometimes...

"Just stop, and listen, woman!"

It makes me laugh every time.

[Creepy-male]

I believe the politically correct term is given as follows:

[DirectorAbbie]

"Gals" preferably; "lasses" works too, though like "maidens" it doesn't work for older women as well,

[Capitalist Pig]

[kadda1212]

"Mädchen". Haha! xD Has the same root as "maiden" and it has never become old-fashioned in Germany.

[Reficulris]

Do you know them all by name? If so, you can address them one-by-one by name if you want (also would familiarize yourself with anyone you don't know yet, and vice-versa, just ask anyone you don't know what their name is); also, you can gesture towards the group itself and give them a "hey everybody" which also works

Wouldn't this be more of a problem like in contexts like "I think you're a beautiful woman" (if she's young and girlish) or "you're a nice girl" (if she's classy and or older)?

I've never had people react badly to either Meisje or Vrouw, although I consciously won't use Meisje if she's of romantic interest (so only when i'm kinda in the older brother type of roles) and will add Jonge to vrouw if she's under 40.

So basically, if you're descrbing her to herself or others use young woman rather than hot girl and you'll be fine. we also have Geil Wijf (horney bitch) which can be really funny to use in the wrong contexts, for instance to describe guys.


the analogue to "hot girl" would be "lekker ding" in dutch (tasty thing, nice thing) which has the strong objectifying (THING) connotation and is usually used by young men who are either sex starved, uneducated, rude and or funny.

[kadda1212]

In German there's also another old word "Dirne", it can be found in fairytales like red riding hood. But that's not so nice nowadays, cause it also means "prostitute". :/

[Kalinoche buenanoche]

PEOPLE GIRLS ===DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

[blackburry]

I say "chicks."





unless you're a friend, then I say, "Hey lady." dunno why. it's a term of endearment coming from me.

I also call people "cunts" a lot but not as a term of endearment.

[Aquagraph]

In German there's also another old word "Dirne", it can be found in fairytales like red riding hood. But that's not so nice nowadays, cause it also means "prostitute". :/

Hey, can you describe some nuances here?

For example:
Can someone call someone like that during sex?
Can someone still use it without meaning ill?

[Beautiful sky]

they are all "young ladies" until they hit a certain age