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    Default How to meet/recognize/seduce an ESTp

    Hahah...



    Come on, I really want know.
    Being an INFp and all.
    I threw away a chance to be with this one ESTp, which I totally regret now I gave him up to be with an ENFp! Dumb me.

    He was very into me at the time. And now afterwards, it seems he still does extremely caring things, etc. but is very distant. However, I've really begun to realize what a great person he is and I've started to like him a lot. Trouble is, I'm not sure whether he will like me again, or still does. I don't really think so, at this point.

    So how would I go about trying to rekindle this flame... or should I just give up and try meeting other ESTps? Heh..

    And how.


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    Can't you just invite him over to dinner? Tsssss... how difficult can it be?
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    That would be awkward. I'm only 16


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    If I were you, I'd learn from your little mistake with this guy (looks like you already did), and move on to find more ESTps. Because I'm not him, I'm not sure exactly what's going through his head, so I can't really answer that. Sorry.

    As for how to meet and regognize us, I'm not really sure, heh. I'll get back to that later once I think of some stuff to write about that.

    But as for ways to attract us...I have been attracted to numerous INFps, and I can say that what you should do is is to let him see you having fun with your friends. Be as INFp as you can be, but make sure you act happy and natural, because we like that! This will make you and your group of friends seem very fun to be around, which is definately an attractive quality. He'll want to hang out with you guys. I've certainly felt it - whenever I see a group of people having fun and not taking things seriously, I've always felt compelled to go hang out with them. If he doesn't know any of you, he probably won't do that right away, though. If you can get someone he knows and is friends with into your group, by all means do that.

    After this, make sure that you aren't constantly surrounded by a group of girls, or else he'll never be able to approach you specifically, lol. Maybe seperate from them for a little, to do something else, like buy lunch at school or something. If he likes you, he'll probably try to do the same thing, and be in your general area. You can chat him up about whatever seems appropriate at that point, because we tend to be open to small talk.

    I hope that helped! Keep in mind that I am female though, so it might not be exact. However, I'm writing this based off of the behavior of one ESTp guy that used to like me in middle school (or so my friends say). He would always try to hang out with people in my group that he was previously friendly with, and talk to them about things that he thought I'd like. When he actually did get the nerve to talk to me, he tried to sell me something. Go figure. I might try to start something up with him this year, just because I need new faces around. But that's besides the point.
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    Herzy: do ESTPs have a hard time... moving backwards... like in the first post here?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rocky
    Herzy: do ESTPs have a hard time... moving backwards... like in the first post here?
    When you mean "moving backwards," do you mean going back to old interests that have been gone for a while?

    If so, then I'd say so. I tend to move on relatively quicky, and some of the people who I have been with in the past, I can't imagine going back to them.

    However, if they've kept sort of a dormant interest for a while, they might be able to "move back." That's what I'm not sure about with Scarlett's post, because I'm not sure if this ESTp has kept a slight interest or not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy
    Quote Originally Posted by Rocky
    Herzy: do ESTPs have a hard time... moving backwards... like in the first post here?
    When you mean "moving backwards," do you mean going back to old interests that have been gone for a while?
    Yeah.
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    It just makes me sad because I might never have a chance with him again... and he was perfect. Hindsight is 20/20!

    I think he may have a dormant interest though. He admitted a couple months back that he still liked me -- but that he was "confused" about a lot of things.

    A lot of people say he is uncharacteristically nice to me. I thought he was like that to everyone, but now that I think about it, it's true. He "protects" me in a lot of ways and makes sure I'm okay.

    The thing is, I'm scared to try and pursue anything because I know I hurt him a lot. And I am not sure how willing he is to run the risk of that again.


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    Try showing a little interest, and see how he reacts. Maybe give him some glances in his direction, or smile a bit. That might get him to respark his feelings for you. If not, you'll at least know your answer, and what to do about him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16
    McDonalds or Burger King will do just fine, although not as romantic. Check with his friends, perhaps he likes Wendy's better...
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    I need to meet some ESTp’s!!

    I think I knew one a while back (at least I think he was ESTp) who used to hang out with my stepbrother at the time. He wouldn’t leave me alone... asking me out every two seconds, and he was always trying to get me to make out with him... are ESTp’s usually that persistent?

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    How old were you when that happened? We're usually not that persistant. If someone says "no," I usually listen.
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    I was probably 15 at the time. He may have not been ESTp (maybe ENTp?). I actually did think he was attractive, (though I would never have said it) but I showed no interest because one of my friends really liked him & he was an ass and said some stuff about her to her face... yeah, bad move for him!!

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    Buy him a foot ball and present it to him in the nude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    I was probably 15 at the time. He may have not been ESTp (maybe ENTp?). I actually did think he was attractive, (though I would never have said it) but I showed no interest because one of my friends really liked him & he was an ass and said some stuff about her to her face... yeah, bad move for him!!
    Hah, wow.


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    Buy him a foot ball and present it to him in the nude.
    Did you do that? Just curious.
    I would. He'd die I'm pretty sure.

    I didn't really need to seduce him all that much, he was just plain into me. I made the first move though by holding his hand. And the first kiss was kind of...looking at each other and like "OMG WE NEED TO KISS GRAWR" (in our heads) and we just kissed at the same time, no one went first or anything.

    After that things went pretty fast, but I was competely comfortable with it, and he didn't do anything until I gave the sign that I wanted him to. He was polite ^_^

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    I was probably 15 at the time. He may have not been ESTp (maybe ENTp?). I actually did think he was attractive, (though I would never have said it) but I showed no interest because one of my friends really liked him & he was an ass and said some stuff about her to her face... yeah, bad move for him!!

    Sounds gross, bleck

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    Quote Originally Posted by aurora_faerie
    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    I was probably 15 at the time. He may have not been ESTp (maybe ENTp?). I actually did think he was attractive, (though I would never have said it) but I showed no interest because one of my friends really liked him & he was an ass and said some stuff about her to her face... yeah, bad move for him!!

    Sounds gross, bleck
    veryyyy

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16

    Girl, you've got a lot of time. You'll have plenty of oppertunities to find Mr. Right. Don't get to caught up on one guy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UDP II
    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    That would be awkward. I'm only 16

    Girl, you've got a lot of time. You'll have plenty of oppertunities to find Mr. Right. Don't get to caught up on one guy.
    Oh, come on lol, what do you expect? I'm a hopeless INFp


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    (edited, because I was being too uncompromising.)

    ...

    Oh, come on lol, what do you expect? I'm a hopeless INFp
    Yes, I understood that from the beginning.

    As for your situation, ScarlettLux, I'm sure it will work out. You're cute enough to get a guy's attention.

    But I still stand by what I said.
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    So ... any answers on my original questions?

    Mostly, I just want to know how to tell if someone is ESTp.. like what are the strong initial signs? And how to initally attract them.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    So ... any answers on my original questions?

    Mostly, I just want to know how to tell if someone is ESTp.. like what are the strong initial signs? And how to initally attract them.

    Ugh ask Herzy to PM you on how.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy
    what
    Well, you are ESTp and are good at knowing what an ESTp wants, in a gender neutral way even. And you're good at typing up the descriptions.

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    Oh, I thought you meant that I knew something private about ESTps or something that I shouldn't type on the forum.
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    Herzy knows all the dirty little ESTp secrets !
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    I wish I could help you

    I tried to get away from my ESTp at first, but no one says no to an ESTp.

    All I did was act uninterested, because I was.
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    Confidence, breasts, intelligence I'd imagine, wittiness...
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    Okayyy... lol. Bad situation -- ESTps DON'T like taking care of people right? *sigh* I think I'm too much of a person that needs to be taken care of. I think he's quite annoyed with my behaviour recently. I'd rather not get into it, but yeah.


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    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    old thread!
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    not enough info!

    grrr
    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    Quote Originally Posted by thePirate View Post
    not enough info!

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    what an old post to bump

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    Hahah...



    Come on, I really want know.
    Being an INFp and all.
    I threw away a chance to be with this one ESTp, which I totally regret now I gave him up to be with an ENFp! Dumb me.

    He was very into me at the time. And now afterwards, it seems he still does extremely caring things, etc. but is very distant. However, I've really begun to realize what a great person he is and I've started to like him a lot. Trouble is, I'm not sure whether he will like me again, or still does. I don't really think so, at this point.

    So how would I go about trying to rekindle this flame... or should I just give up and try meeting other ESTps? Heh..

    And how.
    I know so so so many. Send me a PM of where you live. I'm sure, being spontaneous as they are, they would love to fly to see you.

    Easy, learn to VI them and then send them a message asking them to get together for coffee with you. They are so open and flexible, that they will do it in a heartbeat.

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    you do know that her OP was from four years ago, right? :wink:
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