I am an IJ temperament

[HandiAce]

The question, when it comes to personal development, is what is holding me back in life and how I can improve myself. The biggest thing holding me back in life is the belief that I have to be perfect, make every decision be the right decision, and stand out so I can live a perfect, passionate life and people will like me as a result of that. This limiting notion has boxed me in, caused me to withdraw from people in real life, and has left me with feelings of inadequacy on the inside.

If I were to break out and live up to my potential, I'd actually take actions without psyching myself out about taking them.

[Cuddly McFluffles]

Have you changed typings? If not, how do you reconcile IEE with calling yourself IJ?

[Reficulris]

I can relate... but in the end, the only sollution is to accept not always being perfect, experiment and just have fun while being chased by the deer.

[HandiAce]

Have you changed typings? If not, how do you reconcile IEE with calling yourself IJ?

I changed it. Now I will see people's reactions

[SyrupDeGem]

Handi i think IEE's too can be reticent, yes they get excited by new prospects but they can also like to keep their options open and one motivating factor in this can be because they want things to be fairy tale perfect. You (to me) appear excitable in expressions of enjoyment and exclaim Fi judgement. Just my tuppence from limited video chat experience with you.


Edit: Why this thread?

Also do you really believe this?


I'll be requiring a convincer.

[Beautiful sky]

Key: you are looking for people's reactions. Which is something I don't do.

[consentingadult]

The question, when it comes to personal development, is what is holding me back in life and how I can improve myself. The biggest thing holding me back in life is the belief that I have to be perfect, make every decision be the right decision, and stand out so I can live a perfect, passionate life and people will like me as a result of that. This limiting notion has boxed me in, caused me to withdraw from people in real life, and has left me with feelings of inadequacy on the inside.

If I were to break out and live up to my potential, I'd actually take actions without psyching myself out about taking them.

What you are describing here, can also be attributed to non-Socionics factors. Perfectionism is not necessarily related to the IJ temperament, it can also be seen in irrationals from the Gamma and Delta quadra. E.g. if one is such a person with an inborn tendency to be perfectionistic, over-the-top praise by caretakers in childhood might actually instill a structural fear of failure in a person. Although such praise is well meant, it raises the bar in relation to performance expectations.

Not that you necessarily experienced such a childhood, it just serves as an example to show there are non-Socionics explanations for these things. Sometimes that's the annoying things about Socionics, things are often not that simple.

Perhaps this helps:

http://mavericksocionics.blogspot.nl...-i-am-iee.html

[HandiAce]

What you are describing here, can also be attributed to non-Socionics factors. Perfectionism is not necessarily related to the IJ temperament, it can also be seen in irrationals from the Gamma and Delta quadra. E.g. if one is such a person with an inborn tendency to be perfectionistic, over-the-top praise by caretakers in childhood might actually instill a structural fear of failure in a person. Although such praise is well meant, it raises the bar in relation to performance expectations.

Not that you necessarily experienced such a childhood, it just serves as an example to show there are non-Socionics explanations for these things. Sometimes that's the annoying things about Socionics, things are often not that simple.

Perhaps this helps:

http://mavericksocionics.blogspot.nl...-i-am-iee.html

Why then do I choose to do nothing with my time and listen to the same music over and over again?

[consentingadult]

Why then do I choose to do nothing with my time and listen to the same music over and over again?

It's impossible for me to tell just going by posts on a forum, that would be assumptious. Are you actually trying to say "Why do I procrastinate?"